Just need some sound Biblical advice about a friend...

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First of all I am a fairly new Christian, since March, 2010, and I am having a problem with my best friend of little more than 2 years.

When we first met, he gave me his testimony, and said he grew up in a Christian home and had been saved as far back as he could remember. After a year of friendship, I was led to Christ and was the happiest I had ever been.

The problems started in the last few months. He grew moody and depressed, and acted like he was angry with me all the time. I didn't know what to do, so I just kept praying and asking him what was wrong. Eventually he said that I had changed, and that I was too "happy."
At the time, I was busy with work and school, I would only visit him maybe once a week, and he would get extremely angry and wouldn't speak to me, or acknowledge that I was there at all, when I did come over.

after about a month of this, I still couldn't figure out what was truly wrong until he started getting jealous of me when I was around women, or talking to them. I wont go into too much detail, but I freaked out when he tried to take "our" relationship further and I haven't contacted him since.

I guess I just am afraid to be near him, but I also don't know if it is right to completely ignore him like this. I am worried that he may not be saved, or be back sliding, and I don't want to have a part in hurting anyone...I still care for him as a friend, but I don't know what to do. I have prayed about it and I don't feel any clear answers coming to mind...so maybe someone else's perspective may help.

Thank you.
 
I'm assuming what you meant by one of your comments was he tried to make homosexual romantic advance on you. Honestly it seems pretty clear cut. He's a "fixer" so he liked it when you were sad because then he could "fix" you. When you became happy and started talking to women he was jealous because he has a romantic interest in you. So since he thought he was losing you so he made a "move" on you.

But I do think the best thing you can do is talk to him, preferably in person. If that makes you uncomfortable have him meet you in a park or something similar where there are a lot of other people around.
 
friend listen to me, i looked for scripture relating to something like this and im going to need some time to find some. However i am almost positive that this can not go ignored. He was wrong for what he did, so dont feel remorse for anything because you did not do anything wrong. One thing that has to happen is you have to let him know that you are not going to judge him for what he has done but adress that it is a sin and let him know that he needs to pray for jesus to rid him of all evils to overcome this sin. Other then that, yes i would stray away from him until he gets his head straight(no pun intended).
 
You need to protect yourself first, and trust that God can take care Him on His own if need be. Your friend sounds depressed to me. I have felt that way before as I saw my friends being so happy and I just couldn't go there. I was jealous of them. I wanted what they had, but I couldn't find it. It came so easy to them and it was being held back from me, or so I thought. Pray for your friend. If he/she is attracted to you and you do not, then don't be ashamed or afraid of it. It's ok not to be alone with him/her. You have to set boundaries if you would like any contact with this person... always in a group... certain times (amounts of time).... conversations that don't involve certain topics... etc. The key is to find the boundaries that you need to set for yourself since it sounds like he/she is not into helping you decide them. If those boundaries are crossed or if you just feel like you need more space, then it's ok to take it. God still has the power in this situation. The last thing I can say is get continual counsel from a trusted and wise adult friend.
 
Congratulation you have made a good choice when you chose Jesus Christ. keep up the good word. Do your self a favor go to BIBLE STUDY so you can put on the armor of God. Since this is just the begining of the devil trying to get you back in is grasp. Protect yourself knowing the living word. GOD BLESS YOU AND KEEP YOU.
 
im new here but i think my suggestion will help.... try to be close to him and find out what da problem is... dont avoid him get close to him and draw him to GOD. i think u should win him over to christ by asking God to take control of da situation.......
 
God is a generic TITLE...Father God manifested himself in His Son JESUS... Cling to Jesus with all your might...this is one of your first encounters of 'settling the question' so to speak. Each time 'trials and temptations' come, we make choices...Each choice we make either strengthens our FAITH IN Jesus or it slowly erodes our FAITH in Jesus. Remember to 'set' your foundation stone firmly in place-- 1 Peter 2:7....2 Samuel 22:47...Psalm 18:2...John 14:6...Please read about King Saul's jealousy of David in 1 Samuel 11- 2 Samuel 2:7..it will enlighten your understanding of the trying of your FAITH......
 
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