One more point I wish to make,There are many here who have done this,so i would also like to address you as well. I know of no person who has not made mistakes in there lifetime,I for one have made so many! Jesus loves us through our mistakes,people may not, but Jesus does!
There remains no sin, or guilt, or condemnation for any of us! We must learn to forgive self,before we ever can learn how to forgive each other. Jesus came to show us how to do just that!To grow daily in HIS grace!( 2 Peter 3:18) and to learn how, through him, to conquer our tongue! To rule over our sorry flesh we must allow out Jesus to rule over our very minds!( rom 12:1-2) So that YOU may prove!! What the will of God is!! To never think more highly of ourself then we ought to think( verse 3) .
Then please read on from here to verse 20!! This is accomplished by staying always in God's Word!! Day, and yes night! Till your mind triggers his word ,whenever you attacked,or feel as if you are attacked! Pull the trigger on the Word!! That is why you partake of his word in the first place! Shoot Phil 4:4-9!!) from your own mouth yes out loud!( rom 10:17)
Allow God's own peace,and wisdom, and righteousness,and sanctification,and redemption and his most wonderful love to flow through you,like living waters!!( 1 cor 1:30-31 and john 7:38) For by this you will always have joy, and peace in believing,so that you may give the very same to another who needs this!!( rom 15:13) Without God's Word,I do not have much to say anymore!! LOL Hence, how one, through Jesus, controls our tongue! blessing all!