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Alright so I have a problem but I'm a little ashamed to talk to anyone I know about it, so I decided to try this out. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about two months now and I know it's bad and I just want to continue following Jesus but I feel guilty, I want to repent but what's the point in asking for forgiveness if I know I'm not going to stop, it feels impossible to try and stop having sex with him. I care a lot about him so it's not like that's all I want from him because there's no doubt in my mind that I wouldn't want to be with anyone else, it's just hard. We go to church together every Sunday and are both very strong in faith, yet..we do this. What should we do? If someone took the time to read this and get back to me and help pray for me I would so appreciate it, thank you!
 
Avalanche25 said:
Alright so I have a problem but I'm a little ashamed to talk to anyone I know about it, so I decided to try this out. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about two months now and I know it's bad and I just want to continue following Jesus but I feel guilty, I want to repent but what's the point in asking for forgiveness if I know I'm not going to stop, it feels impossible to try and stop having sex with him. I care a lot about him so it's not like that's all I want from him because there's no doubt in my mind that I wouldn't want to be with anyone else, it's just hard. We go to church together every Sunday and are both very strong in faith, yet..we do this. What should we do? If someone took the time to read this and get back to me and help pray for me I would so appreciate it, thank you!
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I'm assuming you're a teen since you posted this in the teens forum. You and your bf need to stop having sex altogether. You say "there's no point in asking for forgiveness when you know your not going to stop." So basically you're thumbing your nose at God, KNOWINGLY breaking his commandments. You sound like you're going to continue on this, no matter what we say. You are fornicating, having premarital sex.


Where there's a will, there is a way. Talk to your boyfriend. You both know what you're doing is wrong. Ask for forgiveness and start acting more like christians should act.. Start living more for God rather than yourselves..
 
Avalanche25 said:
Alright so I have a problem but I'm a little ashamed to talk to anyone I know about it, so I decided to try this out. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about two months now and I know it's bad and I just want to continue following Jesus but I feel guilty, I want to repent but what's the point in asking for forgiveness if I know I'm not going to stop, it feels impossible to try and stop having sex with him. I care a lot about him so it's not like that's all I want from him because there's no doubt in my mind that I wouldn't want to be with anyone else, it's just hard. We go to church together every Sunday and are both very strong in faith, yet..we do this. What should we do? If someone took the time to read this and get back to me and help pray for me I would so appreciate it, thank you!
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It's not impossible to stop. Bible tells us that God never burdens us with things that we can't handle, that includes temptations. Now your tempted to have sex, but if you really have the will to stop, and pray to God to give you the strength to stop it then you can. We will always be tempted to sin, only with God's help can anyone withstand them. Every single time you sin you are making your Heavenly Father upset. I'm sorry to say this but you are not strong in faith if you keep sinning and feel like you can't stop, so change it, understand that it's just selfish human desire like Ladyblue said and wait for marriage to start such things. I will pray for you.
 
Ok, GOD..here I am...but, I really love what I'm doing..and I know that I can't stop it. I'm just so in love physically and emotionally with this boy, who also is very strong in his faith towards YOU, too, LORD. We both plan to keep on having sex. Uh, NO..we are not married..but what does that have to do with anything? Well, despite all of that, I care so much for this boy that I give him my body and he gives me his...well, yes, we do go to church together. Uh, YEs, I listen to the sermons, but..we just can't wait to get home and well, YOU know..enjoy each other again. Oh, so what do I want from you, GOD? Perhaps Your blessing upon us?
 
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Ok, GOD..here I am...but, I really love what I'm doing..and I know that I can't stop it. I'm just so in love physically and emotionally with this boy, who also is very strong in his faith towards YOU, too, LORD. We both plan to keep on having sex. Uh, NO..we are not married..but what does that have to do with anything? Well, despite all of that, I care so much for this boy that I give him my body and he gives me his...well, yes, we do go to church together. Uh, YEs, I listen to the sermons, but..we just can't wait to get home and well, YOU know..enjoy each other again. Oh, so what do I want from you, GOD? Perhaps Your blessing upon us?
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You are so dang rude in your posts!! Your sarcasm is unappreciated by the OP, I'm sure.. If you can't offer anything constructive to say, then why bother replying at all? Stop being so obnoxious.. You need to pray to God for an attitude adjustment..seriously.. :/
 
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Not asking for forgiveness because you know you won't stop, to me, is a far wiser decision than repenting while knowing fully, you're going to keep doing it.

You know the risks of premarital sex. You can get an STD. You can get pregnant. While the latter might not be a horrible thing in general, when it's outside marriage it is. You don't know if you and your boyfriend will last. You'll be raising a child in a relationship they may not last, with people who were potentially not made for each other. Is that what you want to raise your child in? Are you even ready to think about that? Do condoms work? Yes, but they are not infallible. They can be broken and damaged. I've known people who have had this happen to them.

I don't blame you for enjoying sex with your boyfriend, yeah, it's awesome, BUT there's a time for it. Preferably not before marriage. Maybe, instead of asking for forgiveness right off the bat, you should ask God to guide the two of you with his direction, and give you wisdom, and desire to do what is good.
 
pwrnJC said:
Ok, GOD..here I am...but, I really love what I'm doing..and I know that I can't stop it. I'm just so in love physically and emotionally with this boy, who also is very strong in his faith towards YOU, too, LORD. We both plan to keep on having sex. Uh, NO..we are not married..but what does that have to do with anything? Well, despite all of that, I care so much for this boy that I give him my body and he gives me his...well, yes, we do go to church together. Uh, YEs, I listen to the sermons, but..we just can't wait to get home and well, YOU know..enjoy each other again. Oh, so what do I want from you, GOD? Perhaps Your blessing upon us?
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This is a teen room. In the teen room we are never rude to each other. We don't deliberately attempt to make the other feel badly. We don't use sarcasm. When we don't agree we say why without ridicule. And when we reply we know that at the end of the day we are Teens and so we try to be gentle.

What we don't need here is advice which aims to humiliate or ridicule. If you cant do this then I suggest you speak with the mods to see how you can overcome your problem with speaking in a constructive and courteous manner. Right now the way you speak totally ruins any value you may have had in your reply; and if your reply has no value then what is the point of an adult entering a Teen room unless its just to be a bully.
 
Avalanche25 said:
Alright so I have a problem but I'm a little ashamed to talk to anyone I know about it, so I decided to try this out. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about two months now and I know it's bad and I just want to continue following Jesus but I feel guilty, I want to repent but what's the point in asking for forgiveness if I know I'm not going to stop, it feels impossible to try and stop having sex with him. I care a lot about him so it's not like that's all I want from him because there's no doubt in my mind that I wouldn't want to be with anyone else, it's just hard. We go to church together every Sunday and are both very strong in faith, yet..we do this. What should we do? If someone took the time to read this and get back to me and help pray for me I would so appreciate it, thank you!
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Hey sis.
I know zero about this, but I can tell what your trying to do. By writing here its obvious you are trying to get guidance and its great your reaching out :). I hope that you find the guidance you need and that's its appropriate and gentle and considerate to you and your boyfriend.

My only advice is - be safe
Hugs
Zoii
 
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