How to say No

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So this boy asked me out and I am just not ready to date.
How can I respectfully say no without hurting his feelings?
 
I don't know that there's a way to do it without feelings being hurt :( but your honesty will be best for him. Ask God to give you the words in how to approach this situation. He will :)
 
Aephus said:
I don't know that there's a way to do it without feelings being hurt :( but your honesty will be best for him. Ask God to give you the words in how to approach this situation. He will :)
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:/
Sigh... alright thank you
 
tell him there's a lot of guys and a lot of girls out there, what your thinking, your wrong, im not the girl for you, so I have to decline
 
"I'm flattered that you asked me, but I am not ready to begin dating."

Set your boundaries now. If his feelings get hurt, that is on him. It's his choice to let your telling him "no thank you" bruise his ego. You can be firm and polite at the same time.
 
You can tell him you're not ready to date anyone at the moment. As well as it wouldn't be fair to him if you both rushed into a relationship while you're not ready yet. If he truly cares for you he'll wait for you.
 
Unfortunately, he'll be hurt either way. Don't be mean-spirited in saying NO, but be blunt.
 
Definitely tell him right away, don't hesitate, don't leave him hanging.
 
It'll sting, but he will live. And you'll be happier in the long run. Be nice. Be honest. And just don't tell him you're not ready then date someone else next week. Also, don't put a time on when you'll be "ready" if he asks.
 
Oy....
I wrote in the note he gave me asking me to be his gf

My apologies, but at this moment in life I am not ready to date. I believe that if it is meant to be God will make it happen, but right now He has a different plan for both of us.


Is this good? Any suggestions?
 
friendinpeace said:
tell him there's a lot of guys and a lot of girls out there, what your thinking, your wrong, im not the girl for you, so I have to decline
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TemporaryCircumstances said:
Okay......
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Not a good idea.

You will almost always go wrong when you try to "invent" things to say.... that is "Passive Aggressive", at best, and often just plain "Passive."

Simply tell him the truth as you have stated it here. That is being "Assertive" and personally responsible. All you have to do is say the exact words you typed here.... "You are not yet ready to date." If it is true, you can add that he will be someone you will consider when you finally are.
 
Willie-T said:
Not a good idea.

You will almost always go wrong when you try to "invent" things to say.... that is "Passive Aggressive", at best, and often just plain "Passive."

Simply tell him the truth as you have stated it here. That is being "Assertive" and personally responsible. All you have to do is say the exact words you typed here.... "You are not yet ready to date." If it is true, you can add that he will be someone you will consider when you finally are.
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You wanna do it for me?
 
TemporaryCircumstances said:
You wanna do it for me?
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Yes, I would be willing to. But my role, as far as you are concerned, is to teach you how to do it for yourself. And here is one way......

When doing almost anything like this, put yourself in the frame of mind that it is not YOU that you are contending for, but instead, it is your little sister you are interceding for. (Doing this works a lot like how you are told to envision the audience you might be giving a speech or performance to, sitting out there in their under-ware.) In other words, de-personalize situations, and you will often be able to handle them much more comfortably.
 
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