how do i handle being bi and a christian?

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I've been bisexual for a year now and i live with a different family and they are strict about same sex relationships and idk what to do bc they will not let me date girls and its been real hard for me bc my mom allowed to me but they don't . ik its not easy to ask but if i can't be happy 100% whats the point? i can't pretend like i don't like girls. what if i wanna marry a girl? then what? be shunned bc of it being against the bible?
 
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I've been bisexual for a year now and i live with a different family and they are strict about same sex relationships and idk what to do bc they will not let me date girls and its been real hard for me bc my mom allowed to me but they don't . ik its not easy to ask but if i can't be happy 100% whats the point? i can't pretend like i don't like girls. what if i wanna marry a girl? then what? be shunned bc of it being against the bible?
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Hi! I'm also a teenager. And I honestly don't know what advice can I give to you. But just want to share this verse. Proverbs 3:5-6 "Trust in the Lord with all yourheart and lean not on your own understanding but acknowledge Him and He will direct your path."

Just always pray to God. Tell Him everything. Tell Him whatyoufeel. Tell Him your situation. Remember, He is your friend. I believe God will hear you. And God will do something about it.

Don't worry i'llalso pray for you. You will be able to conquer it in the name of Jesus Christ.
 
That's a tough one. Bi and gay are not the way God intended us to be, but satan's had more than plenty of time to sew that very thing right into our DNA. Even without his help the flesh wars against God - and against us. The thing to do is first just realize it's not how God intended you, and then put that into action by not acting on your urges. Don't pretend you don't have them, just recognize them for what they are and proceed accordingly.

The trick is to get into the spiritual. You can't subdue your flesh, but as you feed and grow spiritually the flesh will be less prominent. And know that God doesn't judge you, He knows what you're up against and says that as long as we persevere with Him to the end, it'll all get straightened out on the other side.

As for being 100% happy? Don't know anyone who's achieved that yet.

Bless you. I pray God brings you someone(s) your age to help with this.
 
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i really appreciate this, from the bottom of my heart. thanks so much, its helped me view things differently
 
No one can serve 2 masters. Short answer: You can not be bisexual and a Christian. You have to choose.
 
I imagine they are preventing you from that type of relationship because they love you and want you to become a woman of God rather than a woman of the world. Obviously you know that God says several places in the Bible homosexual acts are wrong. He doesn't say it to make you unhappy, He says it to protect you. But at the end of the day it is completely your choice whether you try to obey Him or give into temptation. That's really what Biblical instruction comes down to.

Anyway it would be wrong for your family to shun you, I don't believe they would, but I hope you'll come to understand why they are concerned and that you perhaps heed their advice. :o
 
wow that really spoke to me, thank you. it means a lot. i will take everybody's advice into consideration! :)
 
@Jovi

As a man, I'm attracted to women. I have a desire for women. I can see a beautiful athiest, muslim, hindi women and think to myself, "she's beautiful."

Even though I'm attracted to beautiful women who are not Christian. I will not give into my desire to go after these women. I decided that I won't do it because its unwise to pursue relationships with women I will not marry. Gods word says we should marry Christians. So, I'm going to look for a Christian woman instead.

You see, just because your attracted doesn't mean you don't have a choice. I have an attraction for women but I control the attraction by saying no to non-christian women and saying yes to christian women. I'm happy... although as nice as happiness is... I think I'd be just fine sad but doing what's morally right.
 
1Co 6:9 ¶ Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
 
your words speak to me :o. everybody who has given advice, is being so helpful. ik you're completely right. i really thank you for taking your time to write to me.
 
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I've been bisexual for a year now and i live with a different family and they are strict about same sex relationships and idk what to do bc they will not let me date girls and its been real hard for me bc my mom allowed to me but they don't . ik its not easy to ask but if i can't be happy 100% whats the point? i can't pretend like i don't like girls. what if i wanna marry a girl? then what? be shunned bc of it being against the bible?
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i know what you're going through a bit.. once i placed my heart fully in the hands of God and understood him better i stopped my sinful ways ... i used to be really attracted to girls and lust for them as i can for men ... but i told myself i can't do that if i want to be with god and yes sometimes i get tempted to look at a woman in a wrongful way but i say no don't do it she's a sister and god didn't make us to be with sisters ... please be patient its hard takes time pray and dont fall into temptation ..
 
Matthew 6:24
No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other.
1 Corinth. 10:21
You cannot drink the cup of the Lord and the cup of demons too; you cannot have a part in both the Lord's table and the table of demons.

You cannot be bi/gay/lesbian and be a true christian because God cannot give you his full blessing and he will not let anyone living like that (loving sin and not rebuking it) into heaven.
Repenting starts in the mind.


 
No one ever liked sin more than me..no gay or bisexual ever desired their lust anymore than I did...but I laid my life down at the cross and turn from those things with the power of God's grace...don't want to hear the thing where folks say they can't change and God won't help them...it's a lie
 
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No one ever liked sin more than me..no gay or bisexual ever desired their lust anymore than I did...but I laid my life down at the cross and turn from those things with the power of God's grace...don't want to hear the thing where folks say they can't change and God won't help them...it's a lie
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Yep and homosexuality is a demon that you can get rid off if you really want to. Theres no excuse of ''its normal'' ''i was born that way'' '''this is me''' that bull the one sayin its me is the demon not the person. Theres many powerful deliverances of it and God bless the people that struggle with this and I pray he gets them o the right track.
 
First I would advise you, don't say 'I am bi' or 'I am gay/lesbian'. Those are labels that the enemy uses to get people to agree with what he says about them and to give him authority to push desires and identity and pain in their lives.

Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit. (proverbs 18:21)

Your tongue has power and what you say about yourself has power, because you were created in the image of God to be in dominion over the earth like adam and eve. So agree with God and the Holy Spirit, not the enemy and the unclean spirits.

The second thing is not to judge yourself. The reason I say this is because, as christians the enemy throws a lot of accusations in the spirit realm to condemn us and weaken us and shame us so that we hide from God like adam and eve did in the garden. We need to go to God as children, as we are, so God can clean us up, not wait til we're perfect. As we continually go to God with our issues, God gives us what we need and we know we have his approval, his grace and his mercy. Relationship with God comes before all the things we think we need to be. It makes us able to be righteous.

I care very little if I am judged by you or by any human court; indeed, I do not even judge myself.My conscience is clear, but that does not make me innocent. It is the Lord who judges me.Therefore judge nothing before the appointed time; wait until the Lord comes. He will bring to light what is hidden in darkness and will expose the motives of the heart. At that time each will receive their praise from God. (1 corinthians 4:3-5)

The enemy will try to use condemning spirits to cause us to judge ourselves and accept shame and to hide. Even if our hearts condemn us we need to let God be in authority of judging us -- and his judgement is that we are to receive grace if we trust in his son.

I've written more on sexual desires and what homosexuality is, spiritually, in other places. If you want to see it I can show you, but this is already a lot to think about. Bless you sister, it's ok to have problems as long as you let God have your heart =] learning to trust God that way is part of growing up in the spirit
 
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