hey guys i need advice

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Okay so 2 and a half months back i got put of a bad relationship, not abusive just bad, and ive had a nice amount of time to put everything behind me and barry the hatchet. So i need advice because i think im ready for another relationship. What do you guys think?
 
WiseDestiny said:
Okay so 2 and a half months back i got put of a bad relationship, not abusive just bad, and ive had a nice amount of time to put everything behind me and barry the hatchet. So i need advice because i think im ready for another relationship. What do you guys think?
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Greeting WiseDestiny..That is putting a lot on us, when we do not know you well enough to give advice to it. There might be things we can not see, which than could lead you wrongly. Much prayer though, that you choose wisely, and have a great destiny!..;)
 
I'm not expert...

Who ever you date...

Just try not to get to emotionally involved.

Done it before and after it was over took a long time to heal.:(
 
Lol whoops i guess i kinda should have explained more about me but likei only wanted advice on the situation and you guys opinions on it.
 
WiseDestiny said:
Okay so 2 and a half months back i got put of a bad relationship, not abusive just bad, and ive had a nice amount of time to put everything behind me and barry the hatchet. So i need advice because i think im ready for another relationship. What do you guys think?
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I think 2 1/2 months is not a real long time to process the end of that relationship. You are 17, too young to be dating, and should go enjoy being a kid. WHEN you're ready for another relationship, GOD will let you know. :) For now, focus on graduating high school and figuring out what you want to do for a job. Being in a relationship can lead to handholding, then to kissing, then to sex, and you don't want to live in sin.
 
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I think 2 1/2 months is not a real long time to process the end of that relationship. You are 17, too young to be dating, and should go enjoy being a kid. WHEN you're ready for another relationship, GOD will let you know. :) For now, focus on graduating high school and figuring out what you want to do for a job. Being in a relationship can lead to handholding, then to kissing, then to sex, and you don't want to live in sin.
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Thank you for giving me advice and well, in my last relationship we didnt have sex or anything. I know how to have selfcontrol, but i know what you mean. I'll give it some more time and let myself completely recover. Once again thank you!
 
Hey Destiny! I'm sorry about your past relationship! Before you get into another, examine your motives, dating in itself isn't wrong, but as a Christian, are you doing it to glorify God or please yourself? Just a thought...What do I know, maybe you're thinking of getting married in a year or two, in which case you would have a perfect reason for dating! God bless you sister!
 
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Hey Destiny! I'm sorry about your past relationship! Before you get into another, examine your motives, dating in itself isn't wrong, but as a Christian, are you doing it to glorify God or please yourself? Just a thought...What do I know, maybe you're thinking of getting married in a year or two, in which case you would have a perfect reason for dating! God bless you sister!
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I absolutely want to get married but first i wanna date for a little while and see how goes and if i feel the time is right marriage will come but god knows my intentions and that they are good. I hope god blesses you in many ways!!! Thank you for your advice sister!! :)
 
Make sure that he is the same faith of you could not be stressed enough. I say this not in cynical terms of non-Christians but this mere fact: an avid follower of God does not look at pornography habitually. This distinction, only,-between believers and non-believers- is crucial.

Relationships fail because of this evil, soul defeating addiction. You will get much less respect out of a man who does this. The relationship will eventually fail.

So, all in all, I would seek someone who doesn't have this habit. You're relationship will be so much more loving. So, try to find a Christian who either has stopped, or is fully committed to stopping. Or, find a non-believer in the same manner. Then you can work on showing him the grace of God; if you go that way, that is.

That is my advice. I've been through that road and can testify. May God give you wisdom.
 
WiseDestiny said:
Okay so 2 and a half months back i got put of a bad relationship, not abusive just bad, and ive had a nice amount of time to put everything behind me and barry the hatchet. So i need advice because i think im ready for another relationship. What do you guys think?
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If I had a teen daughter, this is roughly what I'd tell her.. (I'll make it better by then)

I've been through teens to know that when your 14 years old, you grow and change after 5 years, a lot.. a lot. Your better off dating after your 18 years old. It's better you have a lot of guy friends to study. I want you to study men as much as possible, study me and understand how men work because right now, your learning a lot of things and a relationship with little experience is not the best idea. You'll be smarter, more resistant to evil, and more experienced in a few years. On that note, do you know your brain is not fully developed yet? There's sort of why at the age of 18 legally your an adult. At 18, your brain is more developed. Your brain finally develops fully at the age of 25.

I also think you should ask a lot of advice from trusted individuals, friends and family.

"Proverbs 15:22 Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed."
 
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Dont go looking for realationships to make you happy.dig in the word and find a version you can understand.i use the new international version but the english standard version is awsome too.I use to be depressed when i was younger and dident have a boyfriend to.I dident have time to think about that though when i was fully engulfed in God.Hes the one who loves you.in fact the bible is one big love letter to you.I would suggest song of songs.Gods love letter to his beloved which is you.
 
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