For separated men, trusting the Lord.

[Mordy]

We could easily start a new forum just for separated men only to get more advice and join in prayer with other men on how to be faithful to the Lord and to your separated wife during the separation.

I will begin by asking for prayer for the wisdom of the Lord and the strength and courage of the Lord to confront all that needs to change in me and to be at peace with the Lord at the same time.

So there is that balance of striving and working hard and being introspective, as well as knowing and trusting and resting in the Lord in his peace and Mercy and grace to let the Holy Spirit do his work and to submit to his process in confidence that one is forgiven and loved in spite of one's failures.

The dynamic between action and reflection or rest. "righteousness, and peace kiss each other"

Thank you in advance for your comments.

 

[shittim]

Best wishes with your thread.
The fields are white, but the workers are few.
blessings

 

[seanoflongbeach]

We could easily start a new forum just for separated men only to get more advice and join in prayer with other men on how to be faithful to the Lord and to your separated wife during the separation.

I will begin by asking for prayer for the wisdom of the Lord and the strength and courage of the Lord to confront all that needs to change in me and to be at peace with the Lord at the same time.

So there is that balance of striving and working hard and being introspective, as well as knowing and trusting and resting in the Lord in his peace and Mercy and grace to let the Holy Spirit do his work and to submit to his process in confidence that one is forgiven and loved in spite of one's failures.

The dynamic between action and reflection or rest. "righteousness, and peace kiss each other"

Thank you in advance for your comments.

I was never married but I think there is grief with all separations…whether you are courting someone or you are no longer speaking to an abusive family member that you care for or separation from a close friend or friends.

They all hurt and still hurt.

 

[shittim]

"People always fail, Christ never fail, I have heard taught, but never refuted.

 

[Mordy]

I was never married but I think there is grief with all separations…whether you are courting someone or you are no longer speaking to an abusive family member that you care for or separation from a close friend or friends.

They all hurt and still hurt.

Yes, I totally agree. People want to medicate their pain with a rush of dopamine, but that is not the cure to having good fellowship and brotherhood.

 

[seanoflongbeach]

Yes, I totally agree. People want to medicate their pain with a rush of dopamine, but that is not the cure to having good fellowship and brotherhood.

Reading straight out of a book Bible, listening to worship music, listening to the Bible on audio and Christian therapy has seemed to be helping me.

Jesus can heal all.

i tend to fluctuate, where sometimes I’ll feel the pain immensly, especially if I’m talking to someone who is going through hardship, I tend to absorb what people under extreme circumstances are going through. It mostly helps the other person which is good but I’m left having to process it all with a Christian therapist…kinda like a running to a good father if you fell off your bicycle and scraped your knee but instead of a knee, it’s like psychological traumas that you process with a professional that walks you through the healing process.

It does seem never ending though.

 

[Mordy]

Reading straight out of a book Bible, listening to worship music, listening to the Bible on audio and Christian therapy has seemed to be helping me.

Jesus can heal all.

i tend to fluctuate, where sometimes I’ll feel the pain immensly, especially if I’m talking to someone who is going through hardship, I tend to absorb what people under extreme circumstances are going through. It mostly helps the other person which is good but I’m left having to process it all with a Christian therapist…kinda like a running to a good father if you fell off your bicycle and scraped your knee but instead of a knee, it’s like psychological traumas that you process with a professional that walks you through the healing process.

It does seem never ending though.

Therapy gets expensive. I need to see more money coming in before I do something like that and even that I'm not convinced because my previous experience was limited to just a couple years of therapy and it had limited effectiveness. The most radical thing was a more direct encounter with the gospel and with the Lord and the Holy Spirit and yeah, they still have struggles. You go forward two steps one step back. Tonight I went a few steps back because I was in another chat platform and I'm wasting my time and getting distracted by unnecessary interactions still working on it still need prayer.

 

[seanoflongbeach]

Therapy gets expensive. I need to see more money coming in before I do something like that and even that I'm not convinced because my previous experience was limited to just a couple years of therapy and it had limited effectiveness. The most radical thing was a more direct encounter with the gospel and with the Lord and the Holy Spirit and yeah, they still have struggles. You go forward two steps one step back. Tonight I went a few steps back because I was in another chat platform and I'm wasting my time and getting distracted by unnecessary interactions still working on it still need prayer.

Dear Lord, I pray that you strip @Mordy from his pain and suffering in this season of life….i pray that it doesn’t last too long and if it does, then you sculpt him into the man you are making him Lord…closer to being more like Jesus Christ and less of the world like we are all doing. I pray that this prayer gives him some sort of peace and that you provide the spiritual healing, not a temporary healing but a complete healing….in Jesus name we pray, amen.

May your faith continue to grow @Mordy . May your fruits of the spirit become abundant.

 

[shittim]

I desire He honor this prayer, yet I see the best results from praying as Jesus prayed, and in His name.
He commanded the spirit of infirmity to leave.
Command health over the body in Jesus name, then command the spirit of infirmity to leave, again in Jesus name.
There is no intercessor other between God and man than Jesus.

 

[shittim]

Therapy gets expensive. I need to see more money coming in before I do something like that and even that I'm not convinced because my previous experience was limited to just a couple years of therapy and it had limited effectiveness. The most radical thing was a more direct encounter with the gospel and with the Lord and the Holy Spirit and yeah, they still have struggles. You go forward two steps one step back. Tonight I went a few steps back because I was in another chat platform and I'm wasting my time and getting distracted by unnecessary interactions still working on it still need prayer.

For a Christian Holy Spirit guides in all truth.

 

[Mordy]

Dear Lord, I pray that you strip @Mordy from his pain and suffering in this season of life….i pray that it doesn’t last too long and if it does, then you sculpt him into the man you are making him Lord…closer to being more like Jesus Christ and less of the world like we are all doing. I pray that this prayer gives him some sort of peace and that you provide the spiritual healing, not a temporary healing but a complete healing….in Jesus name we pray, amen.

May your faith continue to grow @Mordy . May your fruits of the spirit become abundant.

Thank you very much. That means a lot to me. Yesterday was very difficult emotionally. But God is working even when I don't see him working.

Peace to you.

 

[jacko]

I'm certain 99% of men, wouldn't have stuck around their marriage if they went through what I went through.

 

[Dino246]

From personal experience:

I got in God’s face and said, “I have stuff that must be dealt with. Let’s deal with it.” We did. It took a while, and I had the help of a Christian counselor.

Although I found it much later, the daily devotional from DivorceCare.org was helpful.

 

[shittim]

I'm certain 99% of men, wouldn't have stuck around their marriage if they went through what I went through.

Many of us have seen unbalanced emotional fury leveled at us.
blessings

 

[jacko]

Many of us have seen unbalanced emotional fury leveled at us.
blessings

Love keeps no record of wrongs; or so they say.

 

[Dino246]

Love keeps no record of wrongs; or so they say.

Mhmm. Somehow that verse didn’t appear in the ex’s Bible. Or she didn’t read it, which is more likely.

 

[Cameron143]

Mhmm. Somehow that verse didn’t appear in the ex’s Bible. Or she didn’t read it, which is more likely.

Sounds like a record of her wrong.

 

[Mordy]

I listened to this excellent 15 minute talk by John Piper again. (Link below )
It really is thought-provoking and confronts the pain involved with healing after adultery. In my situation, I want to reconcile, and I have repented for my part however, my spouse does not see how reconciliation can be possible at this point. There seems to be a sliver of possible change in my spouses attitude for the future however, it is very difficult to have hope if the other person does not want to work on things together.

Has anyone had this experience where their spouse was away for a year or so, and they didn't talk to you and then they had a change of heart to approach and reconcile again? I'm just wondering how long is reasonable to wait for the miracle. I guess one could wait "forever", depending on the level of hope and guidance from the Lord. And if there is divorce, some people have a view that you're committing adultery by remarrying. Do you interpret the scripture in that way.? What are the arguments for and against?

https://www.desiringgod.org/interviews/how-can-couples-heal-after-adultery

 

[jacko]

I listened to this excellent 15 minute talk by John Piper again. (Link below )
It really is thought-provoking and confronts the pain involved with healing after adultery. In my situation, I want to reconcile, and I have repented for my part however, my spouse does not see how reconciliation can be possible at this point. There seems to be a sliver of possible change in my spouses attitude for the future however, it is very difficult to have hope if the other person does not want to work on things together.

Has anyone had this experience where their spouse was away for a year or so, and they didn't talk to you and then they had a change of heart to approach and reconcile again? I'm just wondering how long is reasonable to wait for the miracle. I guess one could wait "forever", depending on the level of hope and guidance from the Lord. And if there is divorce, some people have a view that you're committing adultery by remarrying. Do you interpret the scripture in that way.? What are the arguments for and against?

https://www.desiringgod.org/interviews/how-can-couples-heal-after-adultery

how long ago did this happen? did you have an affair?

 

[shittim]

Love keeps no record of wrongs; or so they say.

Making the same dumb decision repeatedly and expecting a different result is insanity, remembering and preventing the demonic from killing us isn't keeping score.