Does my best guy friend like me???

[HauntingRanger]

Ok, so I'm not sure if I like my best guy friend that I've known for 4 years (my friends say I do) and I'm not sure if he likes me (my friends think he does). He is one of my best friends and we see each other every week at a Christian bible church thing called AWANA that we help out at together. We always joke around together (inside jokes also), hug each other goodbye, and he sometimes calls me "kitty" because a little girl accidentally called me that one time. He jokingly teases me sometimes and is always super nice to me. The thing is, he is a really nice person already, so it's not like he is being especially nice to me, right? Anyway, the reason I posted this is because of the birthday letter he gave me. It read, "Dear (my name) Thank you for being such an AMAZING (<---underlined) friend. God has truly blessed me by putting you in my life. I hope you have the happiest birthday ever, and enjoy being 16!!! From: (his name)" after reading this I thought, wait....... Does he like me? I'm horrible with stuff like this and I would like advice

 

[blue_ladybug]

Speaking from first-hand experience, NEVER DATE A GOOD FRIEND. It rarely, if ever, works out. I went out with my best guy friend, and the relationship ended badly, and we haven't spoken since 2001. :/ Also, you're 16, much too young to date. Take your friend's advice and enjoy being 16. Just because you're in this guy's life doesn't mean you need to, or should be, his girlfriend..

 

[JeniBean]

I am with Blue Lady Bug! If you want the friendship to remain, do not date them unless you want to marry them. And at 16 you're to young to marry. I dated my best friend, was a great relationship...then it ended when he developed an addiction. IT WAS VERY hard to not only lose the relationship, but also a friendship that had been cultivated for years. Therefore if you are willing to possibly lose the friendship, I say date him. If you are not willing to lose the friendship, I would recommend that you do not date him.

 

[Tinuviel]

I'm going to ask something that is going to sound very insensitive, but I really care about this soplease don't take it that way! The question is: does it matter? Since you're not going to get married at 16 (presumably) you don't have to worry about it right now! Treat him like you would treat any other good friend, and don't worry what your friends say! (because everyone has those people in their lives who are always trying to hook them up with someone or assume they like someone). It sounds like you have an awesome friend, and for right now shouldn't it be left at that?

 

[Elijah19]

Everybody is gonna freak out on me saying this but...

MARRY HIM!

...Ok, Ok, just jokin'. But seriously though, if a guy is this nice to you and calls you "kitty" (I'm a guy, so I know this), he's totally into you...

Chick, you have this guy in your pocket! But be slow and careful though. Keep being friends with this guy and go out with his as friends first. "Love" always starts with "Like" is what my grandmother always says . So just chill. Trust me... he likes you. Don't listen to any of these nay sayers...

Just take it slow though, because that's what makes it fail. Take it at the pace it's meant to be and it will work out alright. As a good Bible verse says ("Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and by the does of the field: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires." Song of Solomon 2:7) Also, If you have to ask whether you "like" him in "that way" or not... umm, hello, of course there's a reason you're asking that question!

Girl, just take it slow, ease up, trust God, and stuff will work out. I have two newsflashes for you, my friend.

1.) You are now, officially, in love. Congradulations!

2.) He likes you, but if you rush it you will ruin it so just go with the flow and follow the Bible... get what I'm sayin'

Thank you... good night. (*bows out)

 

[Tinuviel]

Ok, wait, what does it mean to be "in love?" try reading some scripture on it, it doesn't mean that person makes you feel good, it doesn't even mean you like being around them, bottom line it means are you willing to die for them like Christ died for you. Are you willing to live with them day in and day out when quite frankly they are being unlivable? Read (and I mean REALLY read, study, pray over) I Corinthians 13, that's some pretty tough stuff!

 

[tjogs]

I don't say marry and I don't say don't marry. What I say is Pray Lord for wisdom and patience. (so your desires wouldn't take lead)

Take time and and be the young while you are young. You have no rush.
I'd like to share one personal experience I have: "listen those little feelings inside you. The quiet ones that can be easily hushed away by reasoning, excitement and such.
I was good friend with one girl but the thought that i would be living every day with her, having family, seeing her had, sick, sad, and so on gave me small unexplainable restless feeling. Just like something is out of its place.
That feeling was God's way to tell that he have someone else in mind for us.
Also my wife told me that in the first date she had with me she was sure. 100% sure that she's dating her future husband. (almost like waiting the moment of proposal as I got it from her). Yeah I believe that if you (anyone) are to marry someone God have him in mind for you and he have his ways to tell it when time is right.

I talked lot about feelings but feelings can be deceptive so you must talk God about EVERYTHING you feel about and listen what he have to say. Go with prayer to those who are your friend and that/those who are your crush.

Pay attention to your self also that when you are front of the man who you will marry you would be the woman who he will. (seek first the kingdom of God and everything else shall be given to you)

And last thing. DON'T rush. let everything happen their best time and trust that God is leading you to the best outcome. Even if it feels wrong way or you feel you are like a blindfolded walking to place you don't know. He knows and he protects you, always.