I'm not a pastor, but I have a question or two for any pastors who will answer.
Last Sunday, Father's Day, our pastor preached a message to the fathers about manning up, shaping up, doing right, leading our families etc. He says that "on Mothers Day I 'take care of the women' but on Father's Day I get onto the men". He also proudly mentioned, in the message, about how his father and grandfather were "examples to follow". He says that, the fate of the family is ultimately the man's/father's responsibly.
When Peter and Paul, in the NT, "got onto" the church, they spoke to both the wives and the husbands in the same message. Without going into all the details which you already know, wives were typically told to "submit", and husbands were basically told to "love". There's more to it but, for the sake of brevity, I'm sure you've already read these passages. One passage though, 1 Peter 3:1-2 even gives wives a leadership role which outlines their amazing power to influence the family to change things for the better. But wives also have the power to destroy their families as well, as shown in the following verse; Proverbs 14 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. I should not have to go into details for anyone about how a wife can do that. And we know we are all sinners. So why are the men loaded with all the blame on Father's Day while no significant correction at all is given to wives on their day? The Bible has it in there,. Is it because some pastors don't have the guts to do that? Id' really like to know.
Statistics show that the rate of divorces, in Christian marriages, is close to the same as in the general population of the US. Some statistics indicate that roughly 70% of those divorces are initiated by women. Some will say something like, "if men would do their part, man up and 'lead'" this wouldn't be happening". Really? Just because you're a man it's "all your fault"? I agree, we men are a sorry lot but not all of that can be the man's fault. And here we are. Men keep getting the blame and it's business as usual. I think something deeper and more sinister is at work here. I think that the Devil wants to destroy families and if he has to use our society/culture, schools, government, TV shows, lawyers, and the court system to undermine the family structure, he will do it.
Why should the CHURCH keep helping him too?
Last Sunday, Father's Day, our pastor preached a message to the fathers about manning up, shaping up, doing right, leading our families etc. He says that "on Mothers Day I 'take care of the women' but on Father's Day I get onto the men". He also proudly mentioned, in the message, about how his father and grandfather were "examples to follow". He says that, the fate of the family is ultimately the man's/father's responsibly.
When Peter and Paul, in the NT, "got onto" the church, they spoke to both the wives and the husbands in the same message. Without going into all the details which you already know, wives were typically told to "submit", and husbands were basically told to "love". There's more to it but, for the sake of brevity, I'm sure you've already read these passages. One passage though, 1 Peter 3:1-2 even gives wives a leadership role which outlines their amazing power to influence the family to change things for the better. But wives also have the power to destroy their families as well, as shown in the following verse; Proverbs 14 Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. I should not have to go into details for anyone about how a wife can do that. And we know we are all sinners. So why are the men loaded with all the blame on Father's Day while no significant correction at all is given to wives on their day? The Bible has it in there,. Is it because some pastors don't have the guts to do that? Id' really like to know.
Statistics show that the rate of divorces, in Christian marriages, is close to the same as in the general population of the US. Some statistics indicate that roughly 70% of those divorces are initiated by women. Some will say something like, "if men would do their part, man up and 'lead'" this wouldn't be happening". Really? Just because you're a man it's "all your fault"? I agree, we men are a sorry lot but not all of that can be the man's fault. And here we are. Men keep getting the blame and it's business as usual. I think something deeper and more sinister is at work here. I think that the Devil wants to destroy families and if he has to use our society/culture, schools, government, TV shows, lawyers, and the court system to undermine the family structure, he will do it.
Why should the CHURCH keep helping him too?
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