Dark Attractions
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Hi Sir..... yeah the 90% empath thing doesn't surprise me at all. Please don't take this as weird, but I had you pegged as a high-level empath by like the third post I saw after you joined. Dark girls always pick up on gifts like that, I think it's because a lack of empathy is often what pushes them to darkness in the first place. 🤔
I think the reality is that most dark girls are drawn to spirituality, but Satan's "rules" seem so much easier to follow (only on the surface of course...he always leads to destruction). But the girls see it as more do-able to be a good Wiccan than a good Christian. So they go for the dark side. But when they meet you they see the true spirituality they are lacking and needing..... PLUS wrapped up in an empathetic package that doesn't see everything in black and white, but understands that people and backgrounds and situations are all different. That is ABSURDLY RARE in the church. So. When they meet you they feel like they've found a missing puzzle piece. However.....
That's only a good thing for you if they are ACTUALLY willing to change/grow/listen/learn/come to Jesus. As you have noted, more often than not they just try to drag you down to their level. Not good.
I gotta ask.... is there something about these girls that draws you as well? If so, there's no shame in that at all.... just think about what it is. Dark girls definitely have their good points, and when they are mature Christians they make a very unique member of the Body of Christ. Usually off-the-charts for discernment, insight, spiritual warfare, etc..... they can handle stuff that might send your average good little church girl running for the nearest potluck to calm her rattled nerves with under-seasoned pasta salad. But dark girls thrive on the broken, bizarre, confusing, emotionally whack aspects of life and they're not afraid to confront it head-on. We LIVE for that stuff.
Anyways.... I'm not trying to brag on dark girls, we're not better or more important than anyone else. I'm just saying that if they are drawn to you, and IF you are drawn to them as well.... then maybe it wouldn't be a bad fit IF the girl in question has already healed a good bit and is truly saved and well on her way to sanctification. But I think that would be the key... knowing that she is willing to grow purely for the prize of Christ, rather than the prize of you.
One way to test that is to see how she responds when you tell her things she doesn't want to hear. If she respects you and is willing to grow then she will listen. If not then she will get angry. Also see how she responds if you are vulnerable or having a rough day. If the support is one-sided then she's just using you. If most of your interactions leave you feeling drained, then 👎.
Regardless, please be very careful. Emotionally broken guys tend to go for me. They also tend towards stalking behavior. I am EXTREMELY careful about getting even platonically involved with a guy who isn't emotionally healthy. Yet, I'm inexplicably drawn to the broken-ness. God kinda fixed that by putting me in youth ministry. Now I can help people sort through emotional crap without worries about romantic entanglement. Perhaps He has a similar calling for you, maybe not with kids but maybe counseling or substance-abuse recovery, etc? Just thoughts.... what you have is a very rare and special gift, I will pray that God shows you how He wants to use it! 🙏
I think the reality is that most dark girls are drawn to spirituality, but Satan's "rules" seem so much easier to follow (only on the surface of course...he always leads to destruction). But the girls see it as more do-able to be a good Wiccan than a good Christian. So they go for the dark side. But when they meet you they see the true spirituality they are lacking and needing..... PLUS wrapped up in an empathetic package that doesn't see everything in black and white, but understands that people and backgrounds and situations are all different. That is ABSURDLY RARE in the church. So. When they meet you they feel like they've found a missing puzzle piece. However.....
That's only a good thing for you if they are ACTUALLY willing to change/grow/listen/learn/come to Jesus. As you have noted, more often than not they just try to drag you down to their level. Not good.
I gotta ask.... is there something about these girls that draws you as well? If so, there's no shame in that at all.... just think about what it is. Dark girls definitely have their good points, and when they are mature Christians they make a very unique member of the Body of Christ. Usually off-the-charts for discernment, insight, spiritual warfare, etc..... they can handle stuff that might send your average good little church girl running for the nearest potluck to calm her rattled nerves with under-seasoned pasta salad. But dark girls thrive on the broken, bizarre, confusing, emotionally whack aspects of life and they're not afraid to confront it head-on. We LIVE for that stuff.
Anyways.... I'm not trying to brag on dark girls, we're not better or more important than anyone else. I'm just saying that if they are drawn to you, and IF you are drawn to them as well.... then maybe it wouldn't be a bad fit IF the girl in question has already healed a good bit and is truly saved and well on her way to sanctification. But I think that would be the key... knowing that she is willing to grow purely for the prize of Christ, rather than the prize of you.
One way to test that is to see how she responds when you tell her things she doesn't want to hear. If she respects you and is willing to grow then she will listen. If not then she will get angry. Also see how she responds if you are vulnerable or having a rough day. If the support is one-sided then she's just using you. If most of your interactions leave you feeling drained, then 👎.
Regardless, please be very careful. Emotionally broken guys tend to go for me. They also tend towards stalking behavior. I am EXTREMELY careful about getting even platonically involved with a guy who isn't emotionally healthy. Yet, I'm inexplicably drawn to the broken-ness. God kinda fixed that by putting me in youth ministry. Now I can help people sort through emotional crap without worries about romantic entanglement. Perhaps He has a similar calling for you, maybe not with kids but maybe counseling or substance-abuse recovery, etc? Just thoughts.... what you have is a very rare and special gift, I will pray that God shows you how He wants to use it! 🙏