Church awkwardness?

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Starting a new church is hard. Iv'e been attending a new university church of christ and i'm having a hard time fitting in. People side glance me and when I say hello, no response in return. I have been attending the teen sunday school class for three or four weeks now and no change. I thought churches were supposed to be welcoming. :/ I love being around people and making new friends, laughing, talking and learning about God.. but while in this class I am ignored most of the time.

Anybody else ever felt this way?
 
Sad as it is, some churches are just like that. A friend of mine has gone through such a thing. She went to a church two years and had only 2-3 congregants approach her. Most there did not smile, or make her feel welcome in any way. (She stayed because they had good youth for her kids)
I once had an experience at a church where one of the male leaders made some assumptions that i was 'calling out for help' based off the Christian t-shirts i was wearing. I repeatedly, calmly informed him i was not crying out for attention and he kept approaching me like i wasn't a Christian anyways. To make matters worse, he started telling other men, so every week different men were approaching me with that attitude of trying to witness to me. They all refused to listen to me and back off. It became so bad, i started feeling harassed and had to go one of the few people that i met before all this, explain the situation and told him i was quitting.
People in churches can be weird sometimes. Just have to keep looking though.
 
I've felt this many times. It seems that churches are either over-the-top-in-your-face, which is nice but "Whoa..." or way too passive and insular when it comes to welcoming and accepting new people. It is definitely a difficult situation.

It is obviously just one of those churches where they have a closed culture, which is a disadvantage to be sure. A lot will depend on you putting yourself out there to connect with others, as they've clearly already failed to welcome you. With Christ in you, it ain't no thing!

My wife and I were living in another country and trying to find a church. We went to one and found a nice service, pastor, etc. After the service a woman came over from the greet team and she was quizzing us, took down our info, etc. And...she called our house 2-3 times during that week asking if we were going to come back on Sunday. It was "thoughtful", but way over the top. We did not end up choosing that house of the Lord and God brought something better along. So...take heart Meggerz and trust in Him to help you navigate the various peoples of the church.
 
Sorry you're experiencing that :( .

I suggest visiting several churches until you find one that you feel welcomed and you sense the presence of the Holy Spirit :) .
 
I encourage you not to look to man for any comfort or acknowledgment at a church, its sad how people treat others this way, but the main focus in your young life now is to obey God, love the truth and others, even when they ditz you, ignore you, or leave you out.

Church isn't a place of fun and games as most churches today are just glorified country clubs where you join in the fun, while many unrepentant souls are dying in thier sins.

Seek a church IF you can find one who teaches the truth, I will be praying for you:

You Are NOT Saved by:
Accepting Jesus as your personal Savior (Nothing in the Bible supports this)
Repeating a Prayer, called the ‘Sinners prayer’ (It Does not appear in the Bible)
Or By Admitting that you are a sinner. (You Must Repent of sin, not Confess you are a sinner!)

You are Saved by: James1:21-22
Therefore lay aside all filthiness and overflow of wickedness, and receive with meekness the implanted word, which is able to save your souls. But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves.

The Receiving with Meekness is Repentance with godly sorry. The Implanted Word is what you Obey.
 
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