Age in relationships

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Should age be a big factor in Christian relationships because I'm seriously falling for this guy who is 18 and I am 14. Do you think he'd care if professed my love to him? Would he find the age difference weird? Please help! He is one of the nicest, most faithful boys I've ever met.
 
in the long term a 3-4 year gap is about normal, how ever what will "going out" achieve. Why not be best friends for a few years and see where god leads you?
no rush trust in god leave it to him.

god bless
 
i don't think you are at the perfect age to deal with romance. you are very young. cultivate your relationship with God first so you'll be more sensitive to his leading for the right guy for you at the right time
 
I completely agree with Geram. First, build your relationship with God. He will give you the guidance and wisdom you need in life.
 
AlyssaJ7 said:
Should age be a big factor in Christian relationships because I'm seriously falling for this guy who is 18 and I am 14. Do you think he'd care if professed my love to him? Would he find the age difference weird? Please help! He is one of the nicest, most faithful boys I've ever met.
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Well he is an adult, and you are a child, in the US, a situation like that isn't ideal and usually causes some sort of stigma to the man. And keep in mind you are still a child, and being involved in a relationship at 14 normally ends in nothing but heartache.

From the words of the Song of Solomon: "I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases." (3:5;8:4)
 
I agree with what everyone else is saying and also just want to add that he should be the one to start the relationship. The man is supposed to lead the relationship and it's hard for him to feel comfortable doing that if he isn't the one that initiated it. That aside, you should wait. At 14, there are still lots of things to enjoy that are better experienced on your own. God has a plan, be patient and wait. He know's what He is doing!
 
AlyssaJ7 said:
Should age be a big factor in Christian relationships because I'm seriously falling for this guy who is 18 and I am 14. Do you think he'd care if professed my love to him? Would he find the age difference weird? Please help! He is one of the nicest, most faithful boys I've ever met.
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id be ackward...im 18 and a girl who was 15 fell in love with me, i kinda liked but she isnt mature enough
 
What you are all saying makes sense but I had a really strong feeling that God was calling me to befriend him. After meeting him my faith grew and grew so he could've been a message from God!
 
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What you are all saying makes sense but I had a really strong feeling that God was calling me to befriend him. After meeting him my faith grew and grew so he could've been a message from God!
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WELL ASK GOD FOR SIGNS THEN
 
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What you are all saying makes sense but I had a really strong feeling that God was calling me to befriend him. After meeting him my faith grew and grew so he could've been a message from God!
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Well there is a danger in trusting feelings.
 
Yeah I know what you mean, maybe I'll just befriend him and wait till I'm older. I'll trust God with this:)
 
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Yeah I know what you mean, maybe I'll just befriend him and wait till I'm older. I'll trust God with this:)
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lol i told God that the sign that would let me know that i ve found my wife would be that she would be worshiping God and wearing an As I Lay Dying Shirt
 
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Yeah I know what you mean, maybe I'll just befriend him and wait till I'm older. I'll trust God with this:)
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That's a really good idea.

4 Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. 5 Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.
Psalms 37:4-5 (KJV)
 
I had a friend of mine who was 19 at the time get involved w/ a 15 yr old. Didn't turn out well at all.... he got kicked out of the church for a period of time by a pastor who broke free from dealing drugs to kids (sorry kinda thought this was hypocritical). This in turn lead me to getting into the middle of the situation and just recently leaving the church and moving to a different one.

My advice is to be very careful I agree with what most of the people are sayin,. Stay friends and see where God takes you. When you mature and grow in your faith then you can make decisions about relationships. God's first tho.... i've just learned that reciently after chasing after too many girls before God. It's a learning experience.

And also.. if this guy turns around and does something to hurt yo... especially sexually... its illegal and you should report it to the police . I had a girl i know that is 16 and got w/ statutory rape (guy was 19) . Not saying this guy is bad just need to throw this out there:)
 
This is same wit me cept it's a little less than 3 years with me. But ya I'm going with waiting for a while... Idk it seems to make sense to me to just wait till like ur at the same freedom level as him lol ( like when I'm at I can do whatever I want and when he's 21 he'll be doing anything he wants so yeah...)
 
Okay so I know what your going through. I really liked a guy who was 4 years older than me too, but it turns out he only thought of me as a kid. I overheard him and his friends talking about it. I was crushed, but in the end it was a good thing. I know you think your ready for love and your mature enough to be in a relationship, but we're not as old as we think we are. God also intends for the man to be the leader in a marriage which also applies to a relationship. Let God take the lead and then the right man will be able to lead you. It'll work out
 
What's the purpose of dating? Marriage. So, I don't see any reasons for dating before (at least) 18 years old.
If you grow in God first, until you have the maturity to deal with a relationship, you will definitely be a better girlfriend and find a better boyfriend.
I'm 18 and I dated a non-christian guy for 2 years, broke up 2 months ago. I can tell, if I could, I would never have been dated... because it is such a serious thing and I wasn't mature enough to deal with it, was a BIG mistake, I regret so much. So.. it just took little peaces of me, and I'm restarting my relationship with God now, the last thing I want now is to date. I'm just waiting in God and building my spiritual life.

Wait in God, be patient. He's preparing your prince, it's just not the right time. :)
 
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