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Hey guys. I am really struggling right now, I will explain. I am 19 years old and I just cannot find a girlfriend. I mean I have not had a date in a year and a half, that is probably about right. I talk to a lot of girls, but they are not the girl I want. I have thought about this one girl, she graduated with me, but I have not talked to her since high school. I do not know what to do, she goes to college three hours away and I attend a community college. I get down on myself for not having a girl and it takes over my days. I know God has someone in mind for me, but it is hard to just let him deal with this. I stay in my faith pretty good. I pray that he provides me with a christian girl that can also help in my own walk with Christ. Does anyone have any advice?
 
Well,

You may think this is stupid coming from me since I am only 15, but you are right. God has someone specific out there for you. She will be wonderful and magnificent and everything you could ever want in a girl. I've never been on a date, never been asked out, nothing. Nada. But, I keep my faith in Christ that the right person will eventually come along. Don't sit around and do nothing. Try and find that girl of your dreams. You'll know if she's the right one. :) God Bless you and I wish you the best of luck with your love life. That's slightly humorous, seeing as I don't even have one of my own.
 
Thanks for the input. It is just so hard because all my friends have girls and it's just hard. It gets me down I do not know how others feel about it I was just wondering. I don't like internet dating sites because I do not feel like they are real.
 
See, I know what you mean. I am in the situation where I can't even hang out with my friends because they are soo busy with their boy/girl friends. You know? I mean and when we do hang out, I'm the odd one out and its awkward. Just keep your head up, you'll find her. And I'm with you on internet dating, it is kinda fake. I mean how do you know who's lying and who's not. Not a fan. Anyway, take care and your welcome.
 
Alright, I'm 19 as well, and here's what I have to say. Don't worry about girls, as a Christian your number one priority should be focusing on your relationship with God.

You see, girls are attracted to bad guys because they know that those guys won't make them their number one priority. They know those guys have lives of their own. They go out and hang out with their friends, they don't cling to their girlfriends every second of every day.

You focus on God and make him your number one priority, girls will notice. Girls should never ever be your focus. Don't go out hunting, spend that time reading your bible and praying for God to keep the girl he has for you safe until she gets to you.
 
godisdaman said:
Hey guys. I am really struggling right now, I will explain. I am 19 years old and I just cannot find a girlfriend. I mean I have not had a date in a year and a half, that is probably about right. I talk to a lot of girls, but they are not the girl I want. I have thought about this one girl, she graduated with me, but I have not talked to her since high school. I do not know what to do, she goes to college three hours away and I attend a community college. I get down on myself for not having a girl and it takes over my days. I know God has someone in mind for me, but it is hard to just let him deal with this. I stay in my faith pretty good. I pray that he provides me with a christian girl that can also help in my own walk with Christ. Does anyone have any advice?
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I wil tell you the same thing i tell any guy strugging to get a date..

womens restrooms! Women are everywhere.. and in GROUPS! Just hang out by one for a few hours..ohh yeah you'll get a date ;)
 
It's ok to be 19 and single, I didnt get my first boyfriend until I was 19. And now Im single again. God has a plan for you and sometimes patience is the key to finding someone. If you give relationships over to God and focus on other things in your life such as your relationship with him and your relationship with friends he just might lead you into the relationship you are desiring. But sometimes I think God wants use to sacrafice (in a sense) something to him to show we are committed and that a relationship isnt gonna tear away our bond with him.

And about the being brought down by it you sound like one of my best friends there, he really dislikes not having a girlfriend and in the end ends up dating some girls that are basically hte easy way out. THey arent the type of chrisitan girls he needs if they are chrisitian at all, but he doesnt seem to care and in the long run gets hurt and ends up in the same place he started. I've done the same, sometimes taking things into our 'own hands' is the easy way, but its not hte best way.
 
My mum once said, commit yourself to Him and He'll provide you with someone.. or somethin like that.
I guess maybe He fears we'll be distracted if we rush into things with gfs and bfs. Hang in there though ;)
 
I mean I don't know. I just want that companion and I know that all I need to do is be patient. I should not think about it at all, but it is hard not to think about it, when I call friends to go hang out half of them are with their girlfriend. It just takes it toll. Thanks for the input though guys.

For the girl from England, how do you like it over there?
 
I know exactly how you feel. I had not dated anyone for 2 years and I longed for that closeness with someone. I then started dating a guy I had like for ages and do not judge me but within the first week I lost my virginty to him (He was christian too) because I longed for that closeness so badly. It has literally ruined my life. I know this doesn't help but someone will come along and everything will be amazing you just need to find something else to do. I chose music to distract me. As to your friend you graduated with try looking for her on FaceBook. I don't know if you can private message anyone but if you want to talk more you can PM me.

p.s. You can judge me about me loosing my virginty but I have confessed and the Lord forgives all those who confess and only He will judge me.
 
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I know exactly how you feel. I had not dated anyone for 2 years and I longed for that closeness with someone. I then started dating a guy I had like for ages and do not judge me but within the first week I lost my virginty to him (He was christian too) because I longed for that closeness so badly. It has literally ruined my life. I know this doesn't help but someone will come along and everything will be amazing you just need to find something else to do. I chose music to distract me. As to your friend you graduated with try looking for her on FaceBook. I don't know if you can private message anyone but if you want to talk more you can PM me.

p.s. You can judge me about me loosing my virginty but I have confessed and the Lord forgives all those who confess and only He will judge me.
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I just wanted to say I dont judge you at all, for this. That needing of closeness is easy to fall into especially if you don't realize it. I know with my ex, I went further than i ever thought I would just to keep him around and to keep him close to me. If our relationship had gone on I may have slept with him, even though we were also both christians. Even now after learning my lesson I find myself wanting to take the easy way out instead of waiting patiently. It's a battle, but it can be won with the help of God.

Thank you for your courage in sharing this.
 
hey friend,hahaha don't get desperate...if you worries a lot about that...what do you win? you only will be a concerned person.
don't worry friend take it easy...God has somebody for you...

...I can bet that If you keep a close relation with God, he will give you the best girl for you, and she will

come to your life, when you less think in that!

and of course that if you find a good girl...don't waste time! go ahead jajaja. but put everything in the hands of God. God bless you, relaxx, dala
 
its okayy, you really are not the only one who is going through this...
God says to put his work first and he will make sure your desires and dreams of your heart will come true..
just trust him and keep going the way your going..you'll find her don't worry:) GOD KNOWS!
 
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