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  1. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    Update I did a Paternity test and I am the Father. My wife started back at work and now my Buddy is in a at home daycare. I work from the house. She doesn't like being alone so she would be in the room with my and the baby. I can't get any free time away from her other than work. If i have a...
  2. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    Hello, Things have been going well for the most part. I have moved in with my son, wife and her mom... Her mom is only charging me 500 so the rent is affordable. I have not spend a night apart from our baby. My wife get overwhelmed if he is fussy so I'm very busy taking care of him. Her mom...
  3. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    Update, I finally found a room to rent that will except a baby. I moved in on Friday. The lady is nice that I am renting from but it is very expensive here and out of my budget. But I still praise God I found a place. I have one other roommate who is getting evicted in the next few weeks. I...
  4. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    Thanks for keeping me in your prayers. I am going to wait until i'm down there and providing for them a bit to let her know how things will change if we divorce. I am supposed to call her tomorrow to go over her belonging's. I'm basically keeping all the stuff since she flew to Cali and did...
  5. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    I think he knows his stuff. The court doesn't care about if someone cheated. They just are looking for if she would be unfit to raise her child. Still have some time before that comes into play. But i cannot sign a lease in CA. So its been hard to find a room that will except a man with a kid...
  6. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    She was a newly convert when we met on fire for God. But she changes a lot. She will have strong stances on things then a few months later would believe exactly how i believed. But she has never questioned his existence. I think she believes in God but is just choosing not to follow him and...
  7. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    I just fear if I don't win in court that I will get less than joint custody and have to pay alimony and child support. I do have all the text saved and my lawyer also has him. Need to talk to him more and hopefully get good advise. He told me before even though we don't have a high chance of...
  8. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    I have made it very clear that it's not okay for her to message him and that he would be a terrible influence on our kid. She is definitely taking advantage of me and it is not cool. Also she has lots of mood swings and can send me straight hate texts and say horrible things to me and spread...
  9. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    I talked to my wife on the phone today for the first time in months. She was being more polite than she has been recently. It hurts that she still wants a divorce ASAP. I wish that she would just sign for separation so we can work on us. I don't think she understands divorce. On the phone i...
  10. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    I have been trying to stay close to my good christian friends. My pastor is coming over to pray with our family later this week. My friends are supportive but guys can be hard to show emotion so kinda just update them on whats going on. I just need to trust in God, because i know he will...
  11. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    Thanks for your input and tips. I have to be there for the child birth. I am not moving, just will be temporarily staying until the birth of our child. Cali doesn't allow DNA testing until birth so also going to do that. But i believe that the child is mine. My wife is hot and cold. She was...
  12. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    I live in Washington State and she live in Cali but right near the beach so it's expensive. I believe it would be best for the baby to be raised in WA. at least the cheater doesn't live close to her for now. But he doesn't have a job so probably densest have money to move. Obviously I am...
  13. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    Blue, Yes, i do have contact with her. She wants me to move close to her. Because she doesn't want to live over here anymore. She can live free with her mom and have a "new Life" without anyone knowing what she has/is doing. She wants me to be there for the baby, so at least that is good, i...
  14. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    Yes, it is hard. I will hold on as long as I am married. If/When we get divorced i will chose to move on. It has not been easy to think about and sometimes i have a hard time getting to sleep. I know God is here and has a plan and I have to remind myself that often.
  15. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    I know she probably won't turn around. But what kind of husband would I be if i gave up on my wife when she is pregnant with my baby. I can still try and fight for my marriage until she divorces me. The cheating just doesn't make since to me. Why would she want to date a guy who is almost 30 and...
  16. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    Yes i will check into places. I do need a place with my own room and everything because I work from home with 3 monitors and I will need space to set my work up.
  17. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    I have a friend that lives 2 hours away that is my last resort. But my pastor is checking with some local churches to see if i could rent from a member. But not many people want a 25M staying with them. My wife wants me to rent across the street, but its a 3 person shared place with no guests...
  18. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    Thanks for the support. An update i forgot to post is that she has seen him. She lied about a work trip and i caught them in my house on a security camera :/ it was a very sad day. They didn't do anything at my house but i know they did elsewhere and it hurts :/ Her foster mom isn't...
  19. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    https://christianchat.com/christian-family-forum/wife-gets-pregnant-now-wants-to-leave-me.184894/ Here is an update to this previous post. My life is getting tougher as my wife left me in August and moved a few states away to live with her mom. This is very hard on me because men don't have...
  20. Ottotheotter

    Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.

    I agree, just needed some confirmation. I Will not message her. Today I got my wife a Christian counselor and have an appointment this Friday. Glad we found one finally available. Praying that will go well. Tomorrow my wife is meeting a Christian friend who I know is a good influence. Glad...