I'm getting confused with thoughts about bisexuality. help ??

I am a Christian and a 15 year old girl who's turning 16 on Valentine's day which is like a week away. Anyways lately and the past year I've been getting very occasional thoughts about kissing a pretty girl and getting inappropriate thoughts about the same gender which I know is a sin. These thoughts are intrusive and unwanted but they just randomly pop up in my head at times if I see a pretty girl who's dressed indecently or whatever. I don't want to be bisexual. I do want to have a husband and kids one day and I don't like getting these thoughts. I don't claim myself as one but I'm starting to get confused into thinking I could be maybe one because I have occasional thoughts about it. However, there is a sweet guy friend who's a Christian that I do really like and I've liked him for 2 years and counting. So I do have attraction to the opposite gender but why am I getting these unwanted thoughts? I don't want gay porn or do any of that gross stuff and I can't really imagine myself in a relationship with a girl or kissing one. Juts sounds weird and sinful to me. I just don't understand why I'm getting these thoughts. Like one girl who went to my school I really admired her beauty and her personality and I thought about stuff like kissing her then I was just like ughh, why am I thinking that?? She left my school and I don't think about her at all unless her names pops up in a conversation or something. Is this normal? I'm scared that I'll get these same gender thoughts when I'm older which I do NOT want to happen at all. This is causing me to be very confused and worried. I just hope It's a phase. Is the devil attacking my mind or something. I was raised in a stable home with a Christian mom but my dad was atheist but has good moral values. I had never been raped or assaulted or any of that. When I was younger though like when I was 9 or younger I wished I was a boy idk why. Then when I was 10 I was curious and look up videos of lesbians kissing and stuff and to this day I regret doing that so I don't know if that has anything to do with it. I know in today's society we're bombarded with the gay lifestyle and everybody seems to support it. Also, my brother is currently gay. He's 23 now but used to be a Christian. When he was younger he struggled with those thoughts and started to experiment with it and thought he was bisexual. He had a girlfriend for 3 years then broke up with her because she cheated on him then he decided to be gay then keeps saying he was gay all that long which I harldy believe being he had a intimate relationship with his girlfriend. Now he admits in watching gay porn and having sexual relationships with other men and one time I accidently saw gay men porn on his laptop when I was 13 . So I don't know if that has anything to do with my bad thoughts like that now. I admit my relationship with God hasn't been close lately. I asked this type of question on yahoo answers and I basically just got secular answers to be proud of who I am and to experiment which is NOT what I want to do. Have you struggled with these thoughts? Do these thoughts mean I'm bisexual or something?? Advice please from a Christian perspective

Like basically Ive struggled with lustful thoughts. Like thoughts about gay men having sex or lesbian women doing whatever..and just thoughts about sex in general like between a man a women..I know I shouldn't have these gross thoughts..but it pops in my head at times..

Hi, so just to clarify, are you desiring this kind of stuff or is it just random images that pop into your head. I'm a guy that about 2 years ago thought about the same thing. *Thought.
I didn't want to, and it seemed stupid that me of all people would be thinking this kind of stuff. For me it was just a very small phase that lasted maybe 2 weeks.
See, if you're getting tempted, then that's one thing. if you go through with sinning, then thats another.
It's not a sin to be tempted. It's a sin to give into that temptation.
But lust is a unique type of sin. Remember how Jesus said if a man so much as lusts in his heart after a woman then he's committed adultery.
Lust is a mental thought, which I think is the most difficult sin to fight. Physical sins can be prevented by avoidance, rejection, accounting, and restraint. Mental sins require a huge amount of discipline, something so high that none of us can achieve.
My advice would be to get closer with God through prayer. This pastor i heard named Matt Chandler said in a message that you shouldn't focus all your energy on combatting your sin. Focus on becoming closer with God and it will gradually become easier.
I'm not saying that you should totally forget about it. Fight your sin. Stay away from whatever tempts you. This is a war and we're all fighting sin. I'm saying to become close to your General so that you can understand, submit, and hear his commands, cause nothing's worst then being stuck alone in the middle of a battlefield with a dead walkie-talkie.
Hope this helped sorta?

I don't desire these thoughts..these are thoughts that just randomly pop up in my head and then I start thinking.."What in the world is wrong with me?" Am I a creep or something?" I don't imagine myself in a relationship with a girl or kissing one. I don't even really like much kissing girls on the cheek as a greeting that people in Latin cultures do. If it was a cute guy, then I don't mint that. You think it;s the devil sending thoughts of confusion in my mind to attack me and make me miserable? That's what I feel like that it could be the devil. I bet most girls that are straight never had these type of thoughts..I wish I was one of those girls..Idk why I had to get these thoughts..I think my problem is that I've admired some female celebrities or girls in the past that are pretty and I just really admire them and I mistaken it thinking I have a crush on them and I could be bi..Then I start getting worried then I over think to the point of tears.

I guess there's nothing wrong with me. There would be a problem if I did desire to be with the same gender which I don't . I just get thoughts that convince me to think I do when in reality I cant imagine myself like that. I feel like my mind is in an ongoing spiritual battle with the enemy. I feel like he's planting this doubt in my head. Like at some times I'm so sure I'm straight and I love my crush then another random time I feel doubts that I don't love my crush and that I like girls more..It's weird.

It's quite normal to have random thoughts that are not at all in line with what you want or would normally do.
As long as they are only thoughts, and not cravings, try simply saying, whether in your mind or out loud something along the lines of: Be quiet, my mind and body belongs to God, you have no power over it.

I don't mean it to be some magic spell or anything of the kind, but it can maybe make it easier for you to shift the focus of your thoughts to something else?

well, the reason why I'm probably getting these thoughts because I have a friend that's a girl who says she's bi and she's convinced that she is. Maybe I shouldn't be around her? Not be mean or anything but yeah. I've also watched a lot of videos on you tube on gay families and the gay lifestyles not too long ago which I think has also triggered the doubts in my mind. I stopped watching those videos of course. I don't crave these thoughts because everytime I get those twisted kind of thoughts in my mind I don't obviously feel good about it. I am also a very insecure girl who's never had a boyfriend or never had a guy like me or ask me out, so I don't know if that has anything to do with my confused doubtful thoughts at times.

I need more advice guys. Please. I see a lot of people have viewed this question but don't answer it. Like I said I don't desire to be lustful or live a lifestyle like that. I want to get married to a God loving man and have children one day. I can't imagine myself in a relationship with the same gender. I just don't know why I'm being attacked and confused with these thoughts from Satan out of no where..is it because my relationship with God has been lacking? So I'm a vulnerable target? I just hate it when some people say to experiment and find out who you are and be happy with it. That just disgusts me and NOT good advice at all.

I go to a Christian school but A LOT of people there are not really Christian and a friend of mine the other day saying she's bi and that she asked a girl she met a week ago to be her Valentine and girlfriend..i I honest;y had no comment and didn't know what to tell her from a Christian point of view...she goes to church herself but I'm surprised she doesn't find what she's doing is unnatural and wrong.

Swagglestar These thoughts of other woman are not of god, now lustful thoughts of men thats normal but the devil loves using this kind of thing to make people sin. Believe me i have my own shameful kind of lust but this kind of thing is not who we are. The devil will convince you its just the way you are and to accept it- wrong! who we really are is revealed when we are touched by god's love, lust has nothing to do with it the devil just tries to make us believe this. If you want i can friend you and try to help you however i can

@Blain sure you can do that because I do need some advice.

Praying for direction from the Holy Spirit for you....our culture is SATURATED with sexual images and thoughts (hetero, bi, homo) so it's no wonder you're battling with this. It may be best to avoid the people that may pull you into something that you know God is not happy about. Pray for strength and the desire to be the kind of person that God wants you to be.

Peer pressure is a very real influence and can be harmful. It's good that you are recognizing this at an early age. Choose your friends carefully. As you've found out, going to a Christian school doesn't mean that everyone there is Christian.

@Swagglestar I am also a 15 year old girl and I turn 16 in August. I totally understand what your going through. I have the same thoughts pop up in my head too. They started when I was about 10 or 11 and i've been struggling ever since. I could never see myself actually doing these things but thet do pop up in my mind. I have had an addiction to pornography, I also watched gay pornography, until I finally let Jesus into my heart Yesterday . I've always "claimed to be christian" but I have never really given my life to him until yesterday I guess I got tired of living the way I did. Anyways I just wanted to tekk you that I do think it is the devil and just our flesh but I wanted to share with you what one of the leaders in my youth church told me."Sinful thoughts will always pop up in your head it is your choice to either except them or reject them and cast them out of your mind" And it's the best feeling to know that someone understands and is going through the same thing as you. I hope I have helped you a little
God Bless and Happy Birthday^_^

hey woah
is this THAT sort of christian website?
guys, there's nothing wrong with being bisexual or gay. God's fine with it, Jesus is fine with it, please don't do this to someone else.
OP, there isn't a problem with what's going on. experimentation never hurt anyone, just be kind and respectful and decent about it and there won't be an issue. maybe you are, maybe you aren't, but Jesus wants you to be happy no matter who you're attracted to. Love as Jesus would love: indiscriminately and universally.

when the thoughts come, know its the devil, rebuke HIM with your all whole heart and live on sister. oh and continue meditating and reading the word of GOD.
You will get a GOD given husband one day, thats a vision there, focus on that, praise GOD, glorify HIM everyday and serve with an upright HEART everyday.

SUCH thoughts are devilish, they should not have even a second on them, do not look at what the sorrounding holds, those ""bisexual people"", trust GOD, be faithful to HIM and continue on the way HE has set before thee. IT is the right path, there is no other path that leads to LIFE on earth and even eternal LIFE. trust HIM on this when HE said, ""I AM THE TRUTH AND THE LIFE"".
I have had a life of such thoughts, but when they pop up, i put the devil in HIS place, thats behind me. HE does not want ANYTHING good for you.
But GOD always HAS GOOD THOUGHTS TOWARDS YOU SISTER, GOD BLESS YOU for seeking HELP. GOD sees your heart, a heart that wants to stay blameless, to love HIM as HE wants you too.

the devil has had many ai. but thank GOD for the salvation HE poured out on your heart sister. GOD bless you.....

The bible clearly says NO to homosexuality. GOD is never FINE with SIN thats why HE sent JESUS to remove it in the first place.
Do not deceive people, GOD seeks to heal people of this, And i have testimony of many that have been healed of such. COMPLETELY HEALED by the way.
i do not know the god you serve, but clearly it is the same GOD i serve. because the GOD i read and believe and have had experiences with, LIVE AND PERSONAL EXPERIENCES clearly says NO.!!.!.!. WITH emphasis

Yeah,I believe this is THAT sort of Christian website.....

but clearly it is not the same*