Do You Keep Songs from Sad, Challenging Times/Bad Relationships in Your Playlist?

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Sorry to hear about what happened to you from your ex husband, Did she end up marrying that girl or is it just a fling?

I had heard they each moved on.

Years later I heard he'd moved elsewhere, married, and had a family.

We never talked after our final split, and I later cut ties with anyone who knew him or his family.

I believe God told me that my ex wanted a complete break, and that I needed to accept that rather than hold out any hope of reconciliation.

He has never tried to contact me.

I remember a co-worker saying, "You just have to accept that he's never coming back," and though my heart felt like it was being cut through with shattered glass, it also felt like the Holy Spirit was speaking to me through her, knowing what was to come, and telling me I had to start facing this new reality.
 
Sorry to hear about what happened to you from your ex husband, Did she end up marrying that girl or is it just a fling?

I should also add, he wasn't a fling kind of guy, which made it all the more painful.

Our relationship had become dysfunctional, and I am filled with regret over that chapter in my life.

He wasn't looking for a fling. He was needing someone who wasn't so preoccupied with her own pain that she could be more of a support to him.

I'd like to think God, and time, has changed me.

But sometimes I'm not so sure, which is part of why I've stayed single.
 
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No.
I don't want a soundtrack to remind me of negativity that I've overcome by God's help and grace.
 
I should also add, he wasn't a fling kind of guy, which made it all the more painful.

Our relationship had become dysfunctional, and I am filled with regret over that chapter in my life.

He wasn't looking for a fling. He was needing someone who wasn't so preoccupied with her own pain that she could be more of a support to him.

I'd like to think God, and time, has changed me.

But sometimes I'm not so sure, which is part of why I've stayed single.


Thank you for sharing. I hope you’re doing better now, but skip the sad songs would be my advice.
 
Thank you for sharing. I hope you’re doing better now, but skip the sad songs would be my advice.

Yes, that's what I said in the opening thread.

If your advice is to skip them, which I do, why did you insist that I even mention which song it was?

I was trying to talk about the subject without having to specifically name the song.
 
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I don't remember having a specific song, like with someone I was serious about (although when young, can't always tell when being serious...maybe seriously deluded, but hey)

Though I do recall theres a song thats sad that an ex would play and I knew we were over before we had even really begun and it hurts to hear it.

Though a lot of songs pull on your heartstrings because that is what they are designed to do. If people did not sing or write poetry about their emotions, how else would they process them?

I'm more like, the songs that really affect me are when someone has died, or gone far away, or maybe torch songs for a lost love (very common)

Nothing compares to you by Sinead O'Conner comes to mind. the 'you' could be anyone you felt something with and then lost. She was crying in the video, shaved her hair off...it's very much about grieving that loss.

To listen to that or attempt to sing it can be cathartic. There are now lots of songs that I'm recalling now I've discovered spotify, but on you tube you can also bring up any song, and it will have the lyrics, even karaoke versions. I enjoy music anyway and don't mind a few sad songs, as long as I still keep the happy ones to cheer me up.

Anyway, if anyone wants to share playlists, that's fine, but its very personal what people like in their list I think. I'm very broad/catholic in music taste though. If I like something, I like it. Break up songs are universal. EVERYONE has gone or will go through a loss or departure of a loved one at some point in their lives.

If your sentiment is 'I will always love you' thats legitimate. Nothing will break the bond that you had if it was strong and you were once close.
 
I used to but then I stopped. I realized that the music is worth it, and that the pain can be conquered... except imagie dragons. they are positively demonice, as far as the vibes and how they make me feel.
 
Imagine dragons? Are they like a Dinosaur Jr knock off. Dinosaurs are basically dragons that don't fly.

I've been learning guitar and we are learning Somebody I used to know by Gotye and Kimbra.
I like it, I'd never heard of it till 2 weeks ago.
It's about a break up that ended horribly and the guy got ghosted but she wasn't any good to him anyway. So maybe it was for the best. He got to scream about it in the recording studio.

As Karen Carpenter once sang..all you get from love is a love song.

Lady Gaga's Bad Romance was even better than the Fine Romance with no kisses.