Again, this is a more practical approach.
Don’t seek the prize. Become the prize. Your mindset should be focused on growth. Growing spiritually, physically, mentally and financially. Getting closer to God, reaching your fitness goals, conditioning yourself to be calm and resilient, and focus on growing that bank account, saving up for the college funds of the children you don’t even have yet.
Psychology plays a huge role in attracting a mate. The people who put themselves out there thinking “Please, someone pick me!” is the spiritual equivalent of having bad breath, and people notice without even realizing it. I’d be lying if I said when I see a couple holding hands in the doctors office that it doesn’t feel like my heart just sank into my belly and a part of my soul leaves my body. But you can also feel that way while remaining calm and collected enough to know that your turn will soon come. The important thing is to be kind to yourself and believe in yourself. When you date, don’t date for personal gain. Date like you’re going to hang out with a friend and see that connection blossom into something more.
…Also, sweets and good food help. The reward center in the brain lights up like a Christmas tree with some good chocolate. The saying “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach” applies to women, too.
