Self love

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I have some doubts that made me think that maybe I was wrong for thinking the way I do. I would like to share. I have a very specific question. Even the egotistical/sinful/far from God/evil person has the "right" to basic, healthy self-love (the kind that allows life without suicide because it is minimally healthy and does not completely and voluntarily denigrate God's creation, which is human beings)? Am I being heretical/wrong for thinking that yes, they have this right given by God's grace and the minimum necessary to be a steward?

Note: I know that the most correct thing is to be in God, He is the center!! But I have this doubt because if they didn't have this right, life wouldn't be permitted and everyone would live in depression or necessarily with very low self-esteem.

Even the sinner has the right to a minimum of self-love because he was created by God and is sustained by Him.
 
I have some doubts that made me think that maybe I was wrong for thinking the way I do. I would like to share. I have a very specific question. Even the egotistical/sinful/far from God/evil person has the "right" to basic, healthy self-love (the kind that allows life without suicide because it is minimally healthy and does not completely and voluntarily denigrate God's creation, which is human beings)? Am I being heretical/wrong for thinking that yes, they have this right given by God's grace and the minimum necessary to be a steward?

Note: I know that the most correct thing is to be in God, He is the center!! But I have this doubt because if they didn't have this right, life wouldn't be permitted and everyone would live in depression or necessarily with very low self-esteem.

Even the sinner has the right to a minimum of self-love because he was created by God and is sustained by Him.

Not only is self love right, it is commanded implicitly by Jesus in Matt 22:39.
However, true love including love of self comes from God and is not selfishness.
Humans can truly love only by reflecting God's love for them, although divine love can be imitated.
Many atheists affirm the rightness of love without glorifying God for being love.
Atheists can command love and its moral facets by way of a pyrite suggestion,
but the Golden Rule is such (a universal moral imperative) only because the almighty God makes it right.
 
I have some doubts that made me think that maybe I was wrong for thinking the way I do. I would like to share. I have a very specific question. Even the egotistical/sinful/far from God/evil person has the "right" to basic, healthy self-love (the kind that allows life without suicide because it is minimally healthy and does not completely and voluntarily denigrate God's creation, which is human beings)? Am I being heretical/wrong for thinking that yes, they have this right given by God's grace and the minimum necessary to be a steward?

Note: I know that the most correct thing is to be in God, He is the center!! But I have this doubt because if they didn't have this right, life wouldn't be permitted and everyone would live in depression or necessarily with very low self-esteem.

Even the sinner has the right to a minimum of self-love because he was created by God and is sustained by Him.

The short answer is, I don't know but the post did lead me to a few scriptures:

Mat 5:45 KJV - 45 That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.
Job 25:3 KJV - 3 Is there any number of his armies? and upon whom doth not his light arise?
Psa 145:9 KJV - 9 The LORD [is] good to all: and his tender mercies [are] over all his works.
Act 14:17 KJV - 17 Nevertheless he left not himself without witness, in that he did good, and gave us rain from heaven, and fruitful seasons, filling our hearts with food and gladness.

The salvation for every sinner has already been worked out, it’s now up to them.

Mat 7:7-8 KJV - 7 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: 8 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
 
Angelica00
I am hearing this doubt you are having in suicide
Down and out, going through travails here in this world we each are in and feel no help happening.

The evil that you are seeing I see too, have seen and come to understand. Doubt is what evil loves to get put into anyone
Doubt will I make it, doubt do you love me God, even though I am a bad person, been bad and might never change. Doubt in thinking have I been good enough. Doubt will you still accept me Lord!

The nature of Evil's game is Doubt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

from AI
Biblically,
doubt is viewed as a natural human struggle or a state of being "double-minded" and unstable, akin to a wind-driven wave, which can hinder receiving from God. While James 1:6-8 warns against doubt in faith, Jesus does not reject skeptics like Thomas, offering patience, evidence, and an invitation to believe rather than condemnation.

So turn, to trust to God it is finished, being under the have to do perfect to get in with God. John 19:30 the fulfilling of Law for you and all others too is done for you and all people, through God's Son Jesus. Done once at the cross. First in the death for the getting everyone forgiven, reconciled by God Father through Son first, 2 Cor 5:17-20, Eph 1:7 for you to see you now are accepted by God Eph 1:6, even though you are not perfect. Have done and might do wrong again, God just loves you too. 1 John 2:1-27.
Believe God did this for you in charitable love and mercy to you personally. For he did this for us all, the entire world of people here now then and even before he came to earth. Done at the cross. proven in the resurrection reported by the disciples, in the Bible

I know this: when It happened to me, and I went for suicide, I took those pills and should have died. I did not. And I have been killed by others since, and still not dead. Even went to the hospital with Foreigners Gang Green and still not dead.
Wait!!!!!!!!!!! I reckon me as dead daily to God.
Oh yes I am dead. What? To the first born me daily alive in Daddy's spirit and truth. Turn, and believe and see new. Understand that this can and will take time to continue to stand no matter what, if you do, since you will do, you will see new in love and mercy to you too from God personally and know it.
God just loves you too, start right there and stop please see to stop the worrying. I know that is not easy, yet you will hear it from God to you personally and see new. Amen to you Father forever and ever, Believe See and be new
God did it for you Col 1:21-23 for you to stand in this truth, even unto reckoning you are dead flesh, but alive to God in God's Spirit and Truth for you. Beleive and continue no matter what troubles happen and you will see through it, when continue standing that day will be
Thank you Father an dSon a sWon for us all to stand in belief to this amazing gift given us to love all too, no matter what?
 
healthy self-love

I would dispute this as an oxymoron.

1Co 13:4 Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
1Co 13:5 doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not its own, is not provoked, taketh not account of evil;
1Co 13:6 rejoiceth not in unrighteousness, but rejoiceth with the truth;
1Co 13:7 beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

This biblical definition of love seems in contradistinction to self.
 
I have some doubts that made me think that maybe I was wrong for thinking the way I do. I would like to share. I have a very specific question. Even the egotistical/sinful/far from God/evil person has the "right" to basic, healthy self-love (the kind that allows life without suicide because it is minimally healthy and does not completely and voluntarily denigrate God's creation, which is human beings)? Am I being heretical/wrong for thinking that yes, they have this right given by God's grace and the minimum necessary to be a steward?

Note: I know that the most correct thing is to be in God, He is the center!! But I have this doubt because if they didn't have this right, life wouldn't be permitted and everyone would live in depression or necessarily with very low self-esteem.

Even the sinner has the right to a minimum of self-love because he was created by God and is sustained by Him.

They do have a right to have the basics in life and good well being because God is love.

They cannot have the blessing and protection and comfort of God to help them because they deny the truth.

But God will not deny them their needs and well being.

Mat 5:43 Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.

Mat 5:44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

Mat 5:45 That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.

Rom 12:20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.

Isa 58:7 Is it not to deal thy bread to the hungry, and that thou bring the poor that are cast out to thy house? when thou seest the naked, that thou cover him; and that thou hide not thyself from thine own flesh?

Lev 19:34 But the stranger that dwelleth with you shall be unto you as one born among you, and thou shalt love him as thyself; for ye were strangers in the land of Egypt: I am the LORD your God.

God wants the saints to help the poor and needy even if they are enemies so He cares about the basic essentials for them.

Mat 5:45 That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.

If God did not care about the sinner He would of not said feed and clothe your enemies, and pray for them, and bless them, and do good to them.

And if the saints did not do that how can the world see the goodness of God and the saints love and care about them unlike the world that is dog eat dog and they can never have enough.

Pro 30:11 There is a generation that curseth their father, and doth not bless their mother.

Pro 30:12 There is a generation that are pure in their own eyes, and yet is not washed from their filthiness.

Pro 30:13 There is a generation, O how lofty are their eyes! and their eyelids are lifted up.

Pro 30:14 There is a generation, whose teeth are as swords, and their jaw teeth as knives, to devour the poor from off the earth, and the needy from among men.

The last generation.

Rev 3:15 I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot.

Rev 3:16 So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth.

Rev 3:17 Because thou sayest, I am rich, and increased with goods, and have need of nothing; and knowest not that thou art wretched, and miserable, and poor, and blind, and naked.

The last Church age in popular influence which is going on now.

Hypocrites and neglecting the poor and needy.

Christianity is the standard of the world in good morals.

The more hypocritical people that claim Christianity becomes and the bigger the number the worse the world gets in sinfulness and self exaltation.

1Ti 4:1 Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils;

1Ti 4:2 Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron.

2Ti 4:2 Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all longsuffering and doctrine.

2Ti 4:3 For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears;

2Ti 4:4 And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.

The world will eventually embrace the new age movement that interprets the Bible and religions according to the occult and evolution, and people are going to evolve to be spiritual, and greater, and Jesus became an ascended master among others, and there is no personal God, but they honor the God of forces the power of the Cosmos, and the New Age Christ is the next world teacher.

The time will come that people will not want to hear the truth of the Bible but want to hear it according to the new age.

2Ti 3:1 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.

2Ti 3:2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,
2Ti 3:3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,

2Ti 3:4 Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;

2Ti 3:5 Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

2Ti 3:6 For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,

2Ti 3:7 Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.

Mat 24:12 And because iniquity shall abound, the love of many shall wax cold.

Perilous times will come because of the increased behavior of selfishness, arrogance, and self exaltation.

And includes the people who have a form of godliness but deny the Spirit leading them and love sin more than God and do not come to the truth.

Mat 16:18 And I say also unto thee, That thou art Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.

Mat 24:48 But and if that evil servant shall say in his heart, My lord delayeth his coming;

Mat 24:49 And shall begin to smite his fellowservants, and to eat and drink with the drunken;

Mat 24:50 The lord of that servant shall come in a day when he looketh not for him, and in an hour that he is not aware of,

Mat 24:51 And shall cut him asunder, and appoint him his portion with the hypocrites: there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth.

Mat 7:21 Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.

Mat 7:23 And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.

But the Church is not to blame for the gates of hell cannot prevail against it.

And the hypocrites do not belong to the Church.
 
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healthy self-love

I would dispute this as an oxymoron.

1Co 13:4 Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
1Co 13:5 doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not its own, is not provoked, taketh not account of evil;
1Co 13:6 rejoiceth not in unrighteousness, but rejoiceth with the truth;
1Co 13:7 beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

This biblical definition of love seems in contradistinction to self.
Compassion for one self is as much love as showing compassion for others.
Same with patience, kindness, gentleness, joy, peace, goodness, faithfulness, and self-control.
 
It is not for us to pass judgement on someone else. "Judge not and you shall not be Judged".

7 “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

3 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

6 “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.

Matthew Chapter 7:1-6

I shared the entire passage so you understand the context.

And also this is another passage on self love:

30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’[a] 31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’[b] There is no commandment greater than these.”

Mark 12:30-31

If you love God, you do love yourself. Because God loves you too. Jesus is the source of love and healing. All creation that turn to him does get love and forgiveness. No matter who. No matter how great their sins.

34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” - John 13:34-35

And Jesus asks us to love everyone no matter who. And that includes ourselves. If we cannot love us. we can't love others.

So, the short answer is yes. The lengthy answer is also yes. You have to love yourself and others. God bless you
 
Jesus said to love others as we love ourselves. Can't genuinely love others if we don't know how to genuinely love ourselves.
 
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I've been told this before, but does that invalidate my interpretation that every human being should value their life as a form of at least rudimentary self-love? She told me this: The Bible doesn't really talk about self-esteem. It says that love exists in God, because God is love. Love for others, for one's own life, for situations—all of these exist only in God. Outside of that, it's not love.
 
I've been told this before, but does that invalidate my interpretation that every human being should value their life as a form of at least rudimentary self-love? She told me this: The Bible doesn't really talk about self-esteem. It says that love exists in God, because God is love. Love for others, for one's own life, for situations—all of these exist only in God. Outside of that, it's not love.

Yes, God initiates love; sinners may reflect divine love--or not.
 
I have some doubts that made me think that maybe I was wrong for thinking the way I do. I would like to share. I have a very specific question. Even the egotistical/sinful/far from God/evil person has the "right" to basic, healthy self-love (the kind that allows life without suicide because it is minimally healthy and does not completely and voluntarily denigrate God's creation, which is human beings)? Am I being heretical/wrong for thinking that yes, they have this right given by God's grace and the minimum necessary to be a steward?

Note: I know that the most correct thing is to be in God, He is the center!! But I have this doubt because if they didn't have this right, life wouldn't be permitted and everyone would live in depression or necessarily with very low self-esteem.

Even the sinner has the right to a minimum of self-love because he was created by God and is sustained by Him.
I don't think that any human has any ' right ' to any thing . This earth and everything in it exists ONLY because of God's love and mercy towards us . Without that there is nothing . We have no right to anything at all , God is kind to everyone .
 
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But what she said seemed to invalidate the fact that every human being can survive or have self-esteem.

Well, I vote with you regarding every normal human adult sinner being able to obey Christ's command to love oneself, others and God
(Matt. 22:37-40).
Paul taught that this is doable because of the indwelling HS (Rom. 5:5).
 
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Well, I vote with you regarding every normal human adult sinner being able to obey Christ's command to love oneself, others and God
(Matt. 22:37-40).
Paul taught that this is doable because of the indwelling HS (Rom. 5:5).
So I'm not wrong in thinking that even someone who is a sinner and far from God can have basic self-esteem to survive? And isn't that invalidated by what she said?
 
I've been told this before, but does that invalidate my interpretation that every human being should value their life as a form of at least rudimentary self-love? She told me this: The Bible doesn't really talk about self-esteem. It says that love exists in God, because God is love. Love for others, for one's own life, for situations—all of these exist only in God. Outside of that, it's not love.
I don't understand what you're asking, but here are a couple of passages that come to mind.

For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: Eph 5:29 (KJV)
For if ye love them which love you, what thank have ye? for sinners also love those that love them. Luke 6:32 (KJV)
 
healthy self-love

I would dispute this as an oxymoron.

1Co 13:4 Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
1Co 13:5 doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not its own, is not provoked, taketh not account of evil;
1Co 13:6 rejoiceth not in unrighteousness, but rejoiceth with the truth;
1Co 13:7 beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

This biblical definition of love seems in contradistinction to self.

That is God's love, not man's love. Man can't do that love revealed in those verses, not pefectly, Man needs God's imputation to be able to do that true love in true charity 1 Cor 13:4-7
True religion is visiting Orphans and widows in their time of need. And As I see it, it is as God leads each person each personally in this love given them to be able to do what is needed to do, by God, not man religion. And is done through Risen Son receiving thus in each one personally from God to them, thanks
 
I've been told this before, but does that invalidate my interpretation that every human being should value their life as a form of at least rudimentary self-love? She told me this: The Bible doesn't really talk about self-esteem. It says that love exists in God, because God is love. Love for others, for one's own life, for situations—all of these exist only in God. Outside of that, it's not love.
You should consider every person (both you and every neighbor you ever come across) as "fearfully and wonderfully made" by their Creator:
I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. Psalms 139:14 (KJV)

Every person should consider themself as "worthy of everlasting life" in this sense:
Then Paul and Barnabas waxed bold, and said, It was necessary that the word of God should first have been spoken to you: but seeing ye put it from you, and judge yourselves unworthy of everlasting life, lo, we turn to the Gentiles. Acts 13:46 (KJV)
 
Jesus said to love others as we love ourselves. Can't genuinely love others if we don't know how to genuinely love ourselves.
Correct. We are definitely commanded to love ourselves. There’s a difference between loving ourselves and idolizing ourselves which we are commanded not to do. One comes from humility and God and the other comes from pride and evil.