my parents say sometimes harsh punishment is needed so we learn a important lesson and become a better person , do you agree ?

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did i deserve to be punished for locking up my sister

  • yes i deserved to spend the weekend locked in my room as a punishment

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  • no the punishment was too harsh and i should have been let off with a warning

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imogen1234

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Last thursday i had a row with my sister who is 18, because my sister is clastrophobic and hates confined spaces i locked her in her room, i enjoyed her kicking and screaming to be let out, then my friend rang me, i got distracted, forgot about my sister and went out, 6 hours later my mum came home and found my sister locked up, she was crying, she had 2 or 3 panic attacks, missed her driving lesson and a date with her boyfriend, she even had to go to the toilet in a flower pot, my parents went mad and said the punishment must fit the crime, they said i would be spending a whole weekend locked in my room ( last weekend ) when i returned from school friday evening i was escorted to my room, i lost my tv, phone pc etc, after dinner i was locked in for the night, the next morning i was woken at 7am ( part of my punishment ) after a shower and breakfast i was locked in for the rest of the day, as i have exams this year i was set tons of schoolwork to do including, maths, english , french , georgraphy, biology , and science, i was also set three 4 page punishment essays to write one on UNACEPTABLE BEHAVOUR AND PUNISHMENTS, another on THE PURPOSE OF HARSH PUNISHMENT and another on WHY ITS IMPORTANT TO SHOW RESPECT TO OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS , i had to eat in my room and was only allowed out to use the bathroom, my parents said what i done to my sister was TOTALLY unacceptable that why a harsh punishment was required, what do you think ? did i deserve to be punished ADVICE PLEASE ? and please be honest ?
 
imogen1234 said:
Last thursday i had a row with my sister who is 18, because my sister is clastrophobic and hates confined spaces i locked her in her room, i enjoyed her kicking and screaming to be let out, then my friend rang me, i got distracted, forgot about my sister and went out, 6 hours later my mum came home and found my sister locked up, she was crying, she had 2 or 3 panic attacks, missed her driving lesson and a date with her boyfriend, she even had to go to the toilet in a flower pot, my parents went mad and said the punishment must fit the crime, they said i would be spending a whole weekend locked in my room ( last weekend ) when i returned from school friday evening i was escorted to my room, i lost my tv, phone pc etc, after dinner i was locked in for the night, the next morning i was woken at 7am ( part of my punishment ) after a shower and breakfast i was locked in for the rest of the day, as i have exams this year i was set tons of schoolwork to do including, maths, english , french , georgraphy, biology , and science, i was also set three 4 page punishment essays to write one on UNACEPTABLE BEHAVOUR AND PUNISHMENTS, another on THE PURPOSE OF HARSH PUNISHMENT and another on WHY ITS IMPORTANT TO SHOW RESPECT TO OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS , i had to eat in my room and was only allowed out to use the bathroom, my parents said what i done to my sister was TOTALLY unacceptable that why a harsh punishment was required, what do you think ? did i deserve to be punished ADVICE PLEASE ? and please be honest ?
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I do agree with your parents, it's totally unacceptable; however, I'm not sure I agree with their punishment. They may have had good intentions, but if you got enjoyment out of your sister's suffering I think you might need more help than just a weekend in solitary. Your profile says you're a Christian; true Christians don't behave this way.
 
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imogen1234 said:
Last thursday i had a row with my sister who is 18, because my sister is clastrophobic and hates confined spaces i locked her in her room, i enjoyed her kicking and screaming to be let out, then my friend rang me, i got distracted, forgot about my sister and went out, 6 hours later my mum came home and found my sister locked up, she was crying, she had 2 or 3 panic attacks, missed her driving lesson and a date with her boyfriend, she even had to go to the toilet in a flower pot, my parents went mad and said the punishment must fit the crime, they said i would be spending a whole weekend locked in my room ( last weekend ) when i returned from school friday evening i was escorted to my room, i lost my tv, phone pc etc, after dinner i was locked in for the night, the next morning i was woken at 7am ( part of my punishment ) after a shower and breakfast i was locked in for the rest of the day, as i have exams this year i was set tons of schoolwork to do including, maths, english , french , georgraphy, biology , and science, i was also set three 4 page punishment essays to write one on UNACEPTABLE BEHAVOUR AND PUNISHMENTS, another on THE PURPOSE OF HARSH PUNISHMENT and another on WHY ITS IMPORTANT TO SHOW RESPECT TO OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS , i had to eat in my room and was only allowed out to use the bathroom, my parents said what i done to my sister was TOTALLY unacceptable that why a harsh punishment was required, what do you think ? did i deserve to be punished ADVICE PLEASE ? and please be honest ?
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You're probably just kidding around on this forum for fun...
because anyone that would do what you did to your sister should be ashamed to even mention it.

A weekend in confinement?
Not enough.
You would have faired much worse with me.

Learn to honor your sister even if you don't love her.

And stop using forums for your own fun when there are persons that need real help.

And try to find out about God and maybe one day you'll honor HIM too.
 
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Toknow said:
You're probably just kidding around on this forum for fun...
because anyone that would do what you did to your sister should be ashamed to even mention it.

A weekend in confinement?
Not enough.
You would have faired much worse with me.

Learn to honor your sister even if you don't love her.

And stop using forums for your own fun when there are persons that need real help.

And try to find out about God and maybe one day you'll honor HIM too.
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I agree.

The post doesn’t pass the smell test. But could be wrong. Let’s see how this plays out.
 
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imogen1234 said:
Last thursday i had a row with my sister who is 18, because my sister is clastrophobic and hates confined spaces i locked her in her room, i enjoyed her kicking and screaming to be let out, then my friend rang me, i got distracted, forgot about my sister and went out, 6 hours later my mum came home and found my sister locked up, she was crying, she had 2 or 3 panic attacks, missed her driving lesson and a date with her boyfriend, she even had to go to the toilet in a flower pot, my parents went mad and said the punishment must fit the crime, they said i would be spending a whole weekend locked in my room ( last weekend ) when i returned from school friday evening i was escorted to my room, i lost my tv, phone pc etc, after dinner i was locked in for the night, the next morning i was woken at 7am ( part of my punishment ) after a shower and breakfast i was locked in for the rest of the day, as i have exams this year i was set tons of schoolwork to do including, maths, english , french , georgraphy, biology , and science, i was also set three 4 page punishment essays to write one on UNACEPTABLE BEHAVOUR AND PUNISHMENTS, another on THE PURPOSE OF HARSH PUNISHMENT and another on WHY ITS IMPORTANT TO SHOW RESPECT TO OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS , i had to eat in my room and was only allowed out to use the bathroom, my parents said what i done to my sister was TOTALLY unacceptable that why a harsh punishment was required, what do you think ? did i deserve to be punished ADVICE PLEASE ? and please be honest ?
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i have never met a teen who didn't joke around, pull pranks on people or commit to some kind of joke on someone. locking her in her room isn't so bad, its that you forgot she was there. definitely, you should have been punished. i never had kids, if i did, i know i would never hit them but i would sit you down & have a lengthy talk with you about psychological pain. my punishment for you would be you would have to work all the chores the everyone has in the house for 1 week.
 
Being the youngest of five children, I seemed to get the brunt of abuse. Locked in a closet for the day was usually enough to satisfy some of the other siblings. However, when they started locking me in the bathroom, I learned quickly to climb out the window into the alley below.
I would go out and truly enjoy the freedom, going to the L.A flood control. I thought it was an exotic place to go and wade in the water, not realizing it had sewage in it.
Happlily I had not claustrophobia, though the closet was no fun at all.
I never felt a need for the other siblings to be punished, but I did not appreciate their idea of whatever their purpose was.
As for why they acted such, I cannot recall a justification, but then I was about eight or nine years old, so keeping tabs on my own behavior was sketchy at best.
Now if they got pleasure out of it, shame on them, but if they felt justified for some mysterious reason, then they are innocent of any malice, however, to obtain enjoyment out of scaring the wits out of a person, this is a great object of need to repent.
God bless you and hold you close...
 
The purpose of this post was to receive a response to your poll. However, the poll is flawed. You have made the assumption that when you are not being disciplined that you do not suffer. This is false. You suffer much, you just don't know it. That is the true tragedy.

Repent. Your actions were wrong and will never be justified. You can sit in a room for 1000 days and learn nothing. Your post proves this. Your lesson will come once you repent, be it today, 10 years or never, the decision is yours. However, I assure you that bullying and wicked behavior will never be justified. Repent.
 
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imogen1234 said:
Last thursday i had a row with my sister who is 18, because my sister is clastrophobic and hates confined spaces i locked her in her room, i enjoyed her kicking and screaming to be let out, then my friend rang me, i got distracted, forgot about my sister and went out, 6 hours later my mum came home and found my sister locked up, she was crying, she had 2 or 3 panic attacks, missed her driving lesson and a date with her boyfriend, she even had to go to the toilet in a flower pot, my parents went mad and said the punishment must fit the crime, they said i would be spending a whole weekend locked in my room ( last weekend ) when i returned from school friday evening i was escorted to my room, i lost my tv, phone pc etc, after dinner i was locked in for the night, the next morning i was woken at 7am ( part of my punishment ) after a shower and breakfast i was locked in for the rest of the day, as i have exams this year i was set tons of schoolwork to do including, maths, english , french , georgraphy, biology , and science, i was also set three 4 page punishment essays to write one on UNACEPTABLE BEHAVOUR AND PUNISHMENTS, another on THE PURPOSE OF HARSH PUNISHMENT and another on WHY ITS IMPORTANT TO SHOW RESPECT TO OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS , i had to eat in my room and was only allowed out to use the bathroom, my parents said what i done to my sister was TOTALLY unacceptable that why a harsh punishment was required, what do you think ? did i deserve to be punished ADVICE PLEASE ? and please be honest ?
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The key to deciding whether confining your sister was the right thing to do by her is your remark that you "enjoyed her kicking and screaming" We should not enforce any disciplinary measure on a child because WE ENJOY it. Don't get me wrong, I dislike tantrums and too, but when we acting out of anger shows that we have become ego-invested in the whatever consequence you have devised. At that point, we have crossed the line between love and self-centered "revenge" In the long run will not bear fruit or if it changes them it may not be the kind of change we wanted.

As the word says: 11 No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it
[Hebrews 12:11].
The consequences of your actions, as you present them, seemed to be harmful. However, your parents obviously lack an effective plan of discipline themselves or your sister would not have been in the habit of throwing tantrums. That being said, we all miss it sometimes. Your parents methods were obviously ineffective and should be changed.


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Toknow said:
You're probably just kidding around on this forum for fun...
because anyone that would do what you did to your sister should be ashamed to even mention it.
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Oh you are going to do very well here! lol Already sniffing out the fake posts! I agree, I don't think the poster is serious for the same reason you do. Welcome to the forum!
 
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imogen1234 said:
Last thursday i had a row with my sister who is 18, because my sister is clastrophobic and hates confined spaces i locked her in her room, i enjoyed her kicking and screaming to be let out, then my friend rang me, i got distracted, forgot about my sister and went out, 6 hours later my mum came home and found my sister locked up, she was crying, she had 2 or 3 panic attacks, missed her driving lesson and a date with her boyfriend, she even had to go to the toilet in a flower pot, my parents went mad and said the punishment must fit the crime, they said i would be spending a whole weekend locked in my room ( last weekend ) when i returned from school friday evening i was escorted to my room, i lost my tv, phone pc etc, after dinner i was locked in for the night, the next morning i was woken at 7am ( part of my punishment ) after a shower and breakfast i was locked in for the rest of the day, as i have exams this year i was set tons of schoolwork to do including, maths, english , french , georgraphy, biology , and science, i was also set three 4 page punishment essays to write one on UNACEPTABLE BEHAVOUR AND PUNISHMENTS, another on THE PURPOSE OF HARSH PUNISHMENT and another on WHY ITS IMPORTANT TO SHOW RESPECT TO OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS , i had to eat in my room and was only allowed out to use the bathroom, my parents said what i done to my sister was TOTALLY unacceptable that why a harsh punishment was required, what do you think ? did i deserve to be punished ADVICE PLEASE ? and please be honest ?
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1: Howdy and welcome to the forum.

2. What in the world kind of house is this that you can lock somebody in a room? Houses are not usually designed like that.

3. Why would you enjoy listening to her kick and scream? That, if true, is just sick.

Why would you go out of your way to mention on this forum that you enjoyed it. If your initial post is true, there is no valid motive for you to mention it to us.
 
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Harsh punishment? Not even close. You should be arrested and tried for false imprisonment. If your parents aren't willing to call the police, you should be spending a lot more time in your room and should be grounded for a very long time.
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Wow.
You're worse than me!
 
Tall_Timbers said:
Harsh punishment? Not even close. You should be arrested and tried for false imprisonment. If your parents aren't willing to call the police, you should be spending a lot more time in your room and should be grounded for a very long time.
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yup! that sounds like it came from an older wiser person as you are!
 
ResidentAlien said:
I do agree with your parents, it's totally unacceptable; however, I'm not sure I agree with their punishment. They may have had good intentions, but if you got enjoyment out of your sister's suffering I think you might need more help than just a weekend in solitary. Your profile says you're a Christian; true Christians don't behave this way.
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my punishment is not quite over yet, i am not confined to my room anymore but i still have another two 4 page essays to write one on WHY ITS IMPORTANT TO SHOW LOVE NOT HATE TOWARDS FAMILY MEM BERS and another on WHAT HAVE I LEARNED FROM BEING PUNISHED i have until the weekend to complete my essays ?
 
Toknow said:
You're probably just kidding around on this forum for fun...
because anyone that would do what you did to your sister should be ashamed to even mention it.

A weekend in confinement?
Not enough.
You would have faired much worse with me.

Learn to honor your sister even if you don't love her.

And stop using forums for your own fun when there are persons that need real help.

And try to find out about God and maybe one day you'll honor HIM too.
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I really hated being punished, my parents made it as tough as possible, i was locked in my room from friday evening when i returned home from school, i lost my tv, phone etc, i was woken up at 7am , after a shower and breakfast i was locked back in my room for the day, i was told to sit at my desk and do the school work that my parents had set, later on i had to listen to my sisters trying to decide where to go, i could go no where as i was shut in all weekend lights out and bed 9pm why no sympathy ?
 
Toknow said:
Wow.
You're worse than me!
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I really hated being punished, my parents made it as tough as possible, i was locked in my room from friday evening when i returned home from school, i lost my tv, phone etc, i was woken up at 7am , after a shower and breakfast i was locked back in my room for the day, i was told to sit at my desk and do the school work that my parents had set, later on i had to listen to my sisters trying to decide where to go, i could go no where as i was shut in all weekend lights out and bed 9pm why no sympathy ?
 
Lynx said:
1: Howdy and welcome to the forum.

2. What in the world kind of house is this that you can lock somebody in a room? Houses are not usually designed like that.

3. Why would you enjoy listening to her kick and scream? That, if true, is just sick.

Why would you go out of your way to mention on this forum that you enjoyed it. If your initial post is true, there is no valid motive for you to mention it to us.
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I really hated being punished, my parents made it as tough as possible, i was locked in my room from friday evening when i returned home from school, i lost my tv, phone etc, i was woken up at 7am , after a shower and breakfast i was locked back in my room for the day, i was told to sit at my desk and do the school work that my parents had set, later on i had to listen to my sisters trying to decide where to go, i could go no where as i was shut in all weekend lights out and bed 9pm why no sympathy ?
 
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Lynx said:
1: Howdy and welcome to the forum.

2. What in the world kind of house is this that you can lock somebody in a room? Houses are not usually designed like that.

3. Why would you enjoy listening to her kick and scream? That, if true, is just sick.

Why would you go out of your way to mention on this forum that you enjoyed it. If your initial post is true, there is no valid motive for you to mention it to us.
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we live in an old victrian house in england all the doors have lockes on them that can be locked or unlocked with a key
 
imogen1234 said:
I really hated being punished, my parents made it as tough as possible, i was locked in my room from friday evening when i returned home from school, i lost my tv, phone etc, i was woken up at 7am , after a shower and breakfast i was locked back in my room for the day, i was told to sit at my desk and do the school work that my parents had set, later on i had to listen to my sisters trying to decide where to go, i could go no where as i was shut in all weekend lights out and bed 9pm why no sympathy ?
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Oh.
You're cute Imogen
And this will be my last post to you...

Let's see:

Where was YOUR sympathy for your sister??

Turn to God.
He'll guide you.

When I taught the Christian faith to preteens...this is what I would tell them:

Proverbs 3:5-7
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
And do not lean on your own understanding.
6 In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He will make your paths straight.
7 Do not be wise in your own eyes;
Fear the Lord and turn away from evil.


Here's another version of the same verses:


Trust God from the bottom of your heart;
don’t try to figure out everything on your own.
Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go;
he’s the one who will keep you on track.
Don’t assume that you know it all.
Run to God! Run from evil!
 
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I really hated being punished, my parents made it as tough as possible, i was locked in my room from friday evening when i returned home from school, i lost my tv, phone etc, i was woken up at 7am , after a shower and breakfast i was locked back in my room for the day, i was told to sit at my desk and do the school work that my parents had set, later on i had to listen to my sisters trying to decide where to go, i could go no where as i was shut in all weekend lights out and bed 9pm why no sympathy ?
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be thankful it wasn't worse. you almost sound like a cry baby. no derision intended. thank God that it was sever because now you know not to do it again. harsh punishments are the trick. imagine you being locked in like your sister was. this reminds when people complain that the temp is cold. they'll say, "gee, it's 14 degrees out, it's so cold". i'll say, "it could be 13 degrees"! a friend of mine's father was a very powerful man, the most powerful in the area probably for a good half century which is mid N.Y. when his son who is a good long time friend of mine, would misbehave, his dad would lock him in a cellar room for hours with his school books & made him study. & it worked. forget sympathy & move on like Jesus would. blessings to you.
 
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