What do you bring to the table?
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Absolutely agreed! Compatibility isn’t about changing yourself, it’s about being who you are and finding someone who compliments you naturally. No one is perfect. We are all flawed, but finding those flaws and quirks endearing is really what makes you shine in a relationship. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
Hey miss Edith, sorry I missed your post, just happened to see it now!
That's not me in the deer picture, I'm not sure where @shittim found it but I have messy brown hair with some grey streaks haha. But I would love to have you over sometime for some smoked venison and butternut squash!
Found a picture of a happy lady with a great buck she just got and wanted to share it to have some positive fun.Hey miss Edith, sorry I missed your post, just happened to see it now!
That's not me in the deer picture, I'm not sure where @shittim found it but I have messy brown hair with some grey streaks haha. But I would love to have you over sometime for some smoked venison and butternut squash!
Love the gray streaks in ladies hair, shows maturity, wisdom and a blessed life.
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Hello Dear that sounds yummy.
Hey miss Edith, sorry I missed your post, just happened to see it now!
That's not me in the deer picture, I'm not sure where @shittim found it but I have messy brown hair with some grey streaks haha. But I would love to have you over sometime for some smoked venison and butternut squash!
Hi Jared, thank you for your response! I'm trying not to sound critical because I did ask you for input, but since ya went a little free-lance with your answer I feel the need to give a feminine perspective on what I quoted above.
Physical affection (even innocent stuff like shoulder touches) is indeed VERY effective in getting a guy's attention; that's why Christian women tend to be very careful with it. If we don't wait until we figure out if a guy is husband material then we are liable to pick up a stalker.... or at least hurt a sweet guy who feels confused and led on. Femininity is indeed very powerful and with great power comes great responsibility.
Another reason Christian women are reluctant to pursue (or even show interest, let alone affection) is because many have had it instilled in them from a very young age how we are to be meek, submissive, self-contained, passive. Many of us were not encouraged to have thoughts or opinions of our own; we are told to go straight from obeying our parents to finding a man and doing whatever he says. This mindset can DESTROY initiative and self-worth for some ladies. It's true that many men are suffering from low self-worth but I don't feel like us ladies have it any better in that area, maybe we just hide it better. But just as it is for men, we find it very difficult to pursue if we don't feel like we are worth catching.
I will stop there. Thank you for your response! And please know that I'm not trying to be critical, just felt compelled to offer a different perspective
.Maybe someone else answered, but Grandma wanted the light for its benefits, but she didn't want to share her vulnerabilty. Once it gets dark, people can see in without her being able to see them outside and protect herself. So it was for good reason. Thanks for supporting her.
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Jared_K
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No offense taken. You make fair points. I wouldn’t say that’s being critical at all. I’d say thats being real, and I respect that. I like to hear things from a different perspective. Ultimately, the dating system in 2025 is a mess, and it’s difficult to navigate on both ends. Thank you for sharing.Hi Jared, thank you for your response! I'm trying not to sound critical because I did ask you for input, but since ya went a little free-lance with your answer I feel the need to give a feminine perspective on what I quoted above.
Physical affection (even innocent stuff like shoulder touches) is indeed VERY effective in getting a guy's attention; that's why Christian women tend to be very careful with it. If we don't wait until we figure out if a guy is husband material then we are liable to pick up a stalker.... or at least hurt a sweet guy who feels confused and led on. Femininity is indeed very powerful and with great power comes great responsibility.
Another reason Christian women are reluctant to pursue (or even show interest, let alone affection) is because many have had it instilled in them from a very young age how we are to be meek, submissive, self-contained, passive. Many of us were not encouraged to have thoughts or opinions of our own; we are told to go straight from obeying our parents to finding a man and doing whatever he says. This mindset can DESTROY initiative and self-worth for some ladies. It's true that many men are suffering from low self-worth but I don't feel like us ladies have it any better in that area, maybe we just hide it better. But just as it is for men, we find it very difficult to pursue if we don't feel like we are worth catching.
I will stop there. Thank you for your response! And please know that I'm not trying to be critical, just felt compelled to offer a different perspective
First, howdy and welcome to the forum.
Second, that was probably it. When I tried to ask her what would happen if I left the curtains up, she could not put it in words. She just seemed very worried about it.
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Jared_K
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Honestly? Feminism started in the 1960’s through to the 1980’s (long before I was born) and it was about equality, which is fair. It was successful and came with its own advantages and disadvantages.
The 1990’s is when a more modern version of feminism started. At this point, fairness was achieved and the new goal is positive discrimination. This is when a lot of the original feminists said they no longer agree with what’s happening and the new direction it’s taking. Ultimately, the goal now is women = good, men = bad, and it’s trying to break down society as a whole. The goal is exact opposite of what god wants—togetherness and families. It’s about everyone being so jaded and so scared that no one wants to even try anymore. And we‘re well on our way.
Thankfully, most Christian women don’t fall for that trap. They’re more well informed with the Word. It’s difficult for women nowadays to talk openly about being happy about their relationships, because single women tend to want to keep other women single. Their goal is “If I’m not happy, then no one should be.” It’s important to think for yourself rather than listen to the poison that is “He didn’t keep eye contact with you the whole time? He’s not the one!”
Not to mention the abundance of ”dating influencers” both men and women who are giving out bad advice in hopes of selling their overpriced online dating courses to ”become an alpha male” or to “attract any man you want.” Social media really is bad for us and I would recommend anyone to limit their time spent or delete them entirely. Theres always good to be found, but your feed puts on things that get people to click. Men and women have 24/7 access to the best-looking people on the planet, raising their standards to an impossibly high level. I’d say TikTok and Instagram in particular are the worst offenders, while YouTube and Facebook are better assuming you have enough self-discipline to avoid the content that isn‘t good for your soul.
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it seems that would taste fine with butter, a touch of garlic & cheese.It is my fave... with green olives. Yum!
Marriage in the West is in a crisis, as well as dating. It's hard to have an honest conversation, when people aren't looking at the facts. Western society is on the verge of collapse, but here we are discussing dating. lol o.k..
"6. Almost 50 percent of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce or separation. 7. Researchers estimate that 41 percent of all first marriages end in divorce."
"Women initiate a significant majority of divorces, with studies consistently showing they file in about 70% of cases, a trend particularly strong among college-educated women, who initiate divorce at rates as high as 90%."
The MGTOW movement is in large part due to the injustices done by the court system, the lopsidedness of dating, and the unequal financial partnership in many marriages. Most woman want a man that has assets and income (safety and security), most men want a beautiful young wife. This is the dating game in a nutshell. The love game is pretty much over though.
Due to unforgiving child support, alimony, no fault divorce, courts favoring woman in custody battles, men generally getting fleeced during divorce, and woman initiating the majority of marriages, we have ourselves a disaster.
Being asked, what do you bring to the table(?), isn't such a random question after all. If woman think they have it unfair, men have set sail to distant lands either mentally, or physically. Men see that relationships are unattainable, due high demands of their counter parts, and woman are generally looking to marry up, as a general rule.
Being asked, what do you bring to the table, is more of a question of, can I afford you? To say it another way, when you divorce me, how much are gonna take? Sadly, that's where the market trends are right now, and with high risk marriage, it will soon revert back to, only the rich get married, since there is no room for risk any more. Turn off your televisions, because the soap opera is over, and reality is about to hit hard.
Personally, I think men have realized, it's about surviving, rather than starting a family now. Marriage is not a safe haven for men, but more of a financial liability. We can discuss Biblical principles all you want, but let's start with the divorce rate first.
"One Morgan Stanley study predicting nearly 45% of U.S. women aged 25-44 might be single and childless by 2030,"
"6. Almost 50 percent of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce or separation. 7. Researchers estimate that 41 percent of all first marriages end in divorce."
"Women initiate a significant majority of divorces, with studies consistently showing they file in about 70% of cases, a trend particularly strong among college-educated women, who initiate divorce at rates as high as 90%."
The MGTOW movement is in large part due to the injustices done by the court system, the lopsidedness of dating, and the unequal financial partnership in many marriages. Most woman want a man that has assets and income (safety and security), most men want a beautiful young wife. This is the dating game in a nutshell. The love game is pretty much over though.
Due to unforgiving child support, alimony, no fault divorce, courts favoring woman in custody battles, men generally getting fleeced during divorce, and woman initiating the majority of marriages, we have ourselves a disaster.
Being asked, what do you bring to the table(?), isn't such a random question after all. If woman think they have it unfair, men have set sail to distant lands either mentally, or physically. Men see that relationships are unattainable, due high demands of their counter parts, and woman are generally looking to marry up, as a general rule.
Being asked, what do you bring to the table, is more of a question of, can I afford you? To say it another way, when you divorce me, how much are gonna take? Sadly, that's where the market trends are right now, and with high risk marriage, it will soon revert back to, only the rich get married, since there is no room for risk any more. Turn off your televisions, because the soap opera is over, and reality is about to hit hard.
Personally, I think men have realized, it's about surviving, rather than starting a family now. Marriage is not a safe haven for men, but more of a financial liability. We can discuss Biblical principles all you want, but let's start with the divorce rate first.
"One Morgan Stanley study predicting nearly 45% of U.S. women aged 25-44 might be single and childless by 2030,"