in the simplest of words, it is this: husbands, give your wife what ever she wants that's in the name of Jesus. think of her needs before yourself ALWAYS! I SAID ALWAYS!!!!!!!!! wives, same thing. when talking to your wife, look her in the eye as much as possible with a smile. just like you did when you 1st met her. as if you want to hear that story more than any story you ever heard. if you are doing something & she starts talking, stop & intently listen. constantly search for "bonding" ideas. just because you are adults that doesn't mean you have to act like adults in the home. lot's of us still have "the kid" in us. i certainly do. i love being silly. i'm silly with friends, customers & my wife. my customers receive a bit of joy with my comedy after i perform a job for them. Christianly speaking, my wife & i run around the house naked chasing each other. it's such a great bond for the present & future. we laugh til no end! yes, be a kid at the appropriate time. if you don't care for some of the things she does, says or wants to do together, find a way thru Jesus to condone it.