What are your relationship dealbreakers?
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Lets see... will not date:
1) someone who smokes, does drugs(in any quantity), gambles, is addicted to food, is addicted to porn.
2) a guy with a long beard or mustache... (Former paramedic..i know how much bacteria are carried in those beards..no thanks)
3) a guy into poly relationships
4) a guy who has an avoidant-dismissive attachment style
5) an introvert ... sorry but at minimum i need someone who is an extroverted introvert .
6) a guy who doesnt work ( i still believe in men being the provider in the home)
7) a guy with a low libido (this one is tricky but ive been married once before and it was a genuinely terrible mismatch in the bedroom)
8) a guy who doesnt take care of himself..he doesnt brush his teeth or doesnt shower often or doesnt know how to do his own laundry
9) a guy who has a bad relationship with his family(why is this important? because often you can tell what kind of man your marrying by how he treats his mother)
10)a guy who believes money makes the world go around and places work above family.
11) a guy who isnt a christian
12) a guy who is a conservative christian (sorry guys..but i want us to be able to attend the same church of similar denominations)
13) a guy who doesnt read his bible
14) a guy not commited to working on himself emotionally and spiritually.
15) a guy who cheats or is unfaithful
16) a guy whose love language is gifts or services in giving love. (mine is quality time and affection..it would make it a lot harder)
Okay..have i won for pickyness?
1) someone who smokes, does drugs(in any quantity), gambles, is addicted to food, is addicted to porn.
2) a guy with a long beard or mustache... (Former paramedic..i know how much bacteria are carried in those beards..no thanks)
3) a guy into poly relationships
4) a guy who has an avoidant-dismissive attachment style
5) an introvert ... sorry but at minimum i need someone who is an extroverted introvert .
6) a guy who doesnt work ( i still believe in men being the provider in the home)
7) a guy with a low libido (this one is tricky but ive been married once before and it was a genuinely terrible mismatch in the bedroom)
8) a guy who doesnt take care of himself..he doesnt brush his teeth or doesnt shower often or doesnt know how to do his own laundry
9) a guy who has a bad relationship with his family(why is this important? because often you can tell what kind of man your marrying by how he treats his mother)
10)a guy who believes money makes the world go around and places work above family.
11) a guy who isnt a christian
12) a guy who is a conservative christian (sorry guys..but i want us to be able to attend the same church of similar denominations)
13) a guy who doesnt read his bible
14) a guy not commited to working on himself emotionally and spiritually.
15) a guy who cheats or is unfaithful
16) a guy whose love language is gifts or services in giving love. (mine is quality time and affection..it would make it a lot harder)
Okay..have i won for pickyness?
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You may need to explain number 12. Not to me, to your next boyfriend. "Conservative" is extremely subjective and highly relative in the church world. What are your criteria for a church not being conservative? There's a big difference between, "don't tell me I can't cut my hair," and, there's nothing at all wrong with "homosexual preachers."
You don't have to answer that here, but you really should be thinking about the answer so you can explain it to him on the first date. Or maybe before you go out on the first date.
You don't have to answer that here, but you really should be thinking about the answer so you can explain it to him on the first date. Or maybe before you go out on the first date.
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I think if you just find the right Christian man that is committed to the following Christ all the other things will fall in order. My friend bri always chose other things that she thought were more important then choosing a devout Christian. She consistently chose the wrong guy. I just think it’s important to stay true to what really matters, like faith. I’ve seen what happens when that gets put aside for less important things, and it never seems to turn out well. Just something to keep in mind.
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By the way, about the pickiness. No, all those seem pretty reasonable.
I forget what the show was called, but I saw a YouTube clip of a show with Steve Harvey as the host, where this woman was listing all the qualifications she was looking for in a man. They had three screens full of her requirements, and Steve Harvey commented that there is more but they ran out of screens.
A couple of yours may need clarification, but they all seem reasonable.
Of course no matter what list you make, some people will disagree with some of the items on your list. That's just humans being different humans. That doesn't mean you're wrong. Doesn't mean they are wrong either.
I forget what the show was called, but I saw a YouTube clip of a show with Steve Harvey as the host, where this woman was listing all the qualifications she was looking for in a man. They had three screens full of her requirements, and Steve Harvey commented that there is more but they ran out of screens.
A couple of yours may need clarification, but they all seem reasonable.
Of course no matter what list you make, some people will disagree with some of the items on your list. That's just humans being different humans. That doesn't mean you're wrong. Doesn't mean they are wrong either.
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I'm not sure that would work. After having had two long distance relationships in which I have spent upwards of 3-5 hours a night on video before..i don't think it made a difference. I still think there is somthing to be said for really knowing someone in person. It's easy to hide behind a screen.
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