First Date As A Christian
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Explanation:
My post above wasn't meant to be sarcastic, but I realize it came off that way.
I meant it very literally.
These kinds of issues are not prescribed in scripture.
Why?
Because it isn't necessary.
1.) In Biblical times there wasn't any "dating"... so there certainly wouldn't be directives on it.
2.) The Bible DOES give general principles for general conduct... that's enough to cover all normal interactions.
3.) God doesn't have to teach humans how to be attracted to each other, or how to like people we like... he designed us so those things come naturally.
4.) Finally, consider the purpose:
If we consider the purpose of a date in our culture (at least for a christian) is to have a time to "be yourself" and get to know the other person... then it needn't have any kind of blueprint or affectation at all. It's just a time to talk and get to know each other. So just talk. Whatever the other person talks about, good or bad, that allows you to get to know them. So just talk, and listen. See what you think of the other person. That's all.
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My post above wasn't meant to be sarcastic, but I realize it came off that way.
I meant it very literally.
These kinds of issues are not prescribed in scripture.
Why?
Because it isn't necessary.
1.) In Biblical times there wasn't any "dating"... so there certainly wouldn't be directives on it.
2.) The Bible DOES give general principles for general conduct... that's enough to cover all normal interactions.
3.) God doesn't have to teach humans how to be attracted to each other, or how to like people we like... he designed us so those things come naturally.
4.) Finally, consider the purpose:
If we consider the purpose of a date in our culture (at least for a christian) is to have a time to "be yourself" and get to know the other person... then it needn't have any kind of blueprint or affectation at all. It's just a time to talk and get to know each other. So just talk. Whatever the other person talks about, good or bad, that allows you to get to know them. So just talk, and listen. See what you think of the other person. That's all.
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Just be careful not to put on a facade. Be you, not who you think he wants.
If you put up a false front and y'all start a relationship, you will have to keep up that false front for as long as you stay with him. That gets tiring very quickly.
If you are you and he does not want to start a relationship with you, at least you are not stuck playing a role for the rest of your life.
Aside from that, I would say talk about the things that interest you and listen to him talk about the things that interest him. Even if y'all don't find any common ground in your interests, you will at least learn something about each other.
If you put up a false front and y'all start a relationship, you will have to keep up that false front for as long as you stay with him. That gets tiring very quickly.
If you are you and he does not want to start a relationship with you, at least you are not stuck playing a role for the rest of your life.
Aside from that, I would say talk about the things that interest you and listen to him talk about the things that interest him. Even if y'all don't find any common ground in your interests, you will at least learn something about each other.
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If one of your interests is cooking, you might bring him a snack you made.
If one of your interests is music, you might bring him a CD. If people actually still listened to CDs...
And etc. Look through your interests and see if there is anything in them that you can bring him. It might make a good impression on the first date.
If one of your interests is music, you might bring him a CD. If people actually still listened to CDs...
And etc. Look through your interests and see if there is anything in them that you can bring him. It might make a good impression on the first date.
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