struggling with singleness

You MIGHT need another year just to not be an emotional basket case for a relationship....I know that probably is not something you want to hear....because likely you want a bunch of kids. (Who doesn't eh?)

Don't sweat the small stuff. I know you likely have not looked at dating appliance repairmen....but they are smarter than they look usually.

Kinda handy to not have to go down to the river and beat your clothes on the rocks!

You're welcome.

I saw on your profile page that you are a huge carousel horse enthusiast. May I ask how that began?

As far as looking for a potential mate is concerned, I suspect that I am not the first person to suggest it, but that can be like a carousel ride. In other words, a lot of activity, and only to find that you were just going in circles the whole time, and that you are now right back where you started.

Anyhow, I am praying that God helps you in your search. Who knows? Perhaps the two of you will ride off into the sunset together one day. On a carousel horse, of course, of course.

I've been single for over a year and I sometimes need to be reminded that I'm not alone.

Do tell! Do tell! Are you two now an item?

I've been single for over a year and I sometimes need to be reminded that I'm not alone.

Yes. She lives in Oklahoma and I live in California and plan to visit her in Spring. It makes things easy in this day and age, to have forms of communication such as texting, phone calls and web cam calls. It literally seemed like God designed her just for me and God designed me just for her. Our beliefs and values seem like they are 100% the same, which is what I was looking for. In October, we had one conversation, and then the next day, we both stayed up till around 4am talking to one another on here and pretty much have been like that almost every day since. The first month was a mess and I think we broke up maybe like 4 times. After the 4th time, it was a big mess and I felt like there was no coming back from that, but I came back to Christian Chat and pursued her strategically, because I realized my life is better with her in it. We started talking again, a week or two later and it has been great ever since. We’ve had some miscommunications but we figure out ways to make it work.

The secret that both of us have, is both of us spend separate alone time with God, every day when we wake up. I usually spend up to three hours a day with God before reaching out to her. Sometimes I spend time with God and then after that I’ll work on a music project, aaand thennn spend time with her, usually texting with her the whole time during. We make things exciting with dinner date nights and movie nights, but what we enjoy most is just simple and intellectual conversations, cause it seems like we can literally talk to each other all day.

Between all the clues you gave me in your post and my superior deductive reasoning skills

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it only took me about two minutes to figure out who she is.
I hope that it works out well for the two of you. Congratulations.

You MIGHT need another year just to not be an emotional basket case for a relationship....I know that probably is not something you want to hear....because likely you want a bunch of kids. (Who doesn't eh?)

Don't sweat the small stuff. I know you likely have not looked at dating appliance repairmen....but they are smarter than they look usually.

You're welcome.

I saw on your profile page that you are a huge carousel horse enthusiast. May I ask how that began?

As far as looking for a potential mate is concerned, I suspect that I am not the first person to suggest it, but that can be like a carousel ride. In other words, a lot of activity, and only to find that you were just going in circles the whole time, and that you are now right back where you started.

Anyhow, I am praying that God helps you in your search. Who knows? Perhaps the two of you will ride off into the sunset together one day. On a carousel horse, of course, of course.

I don't want kids. I have no desire for kids

I can relate Wait4me. I am newly single myself and after 22 years it’s hard to remember how to be alone. It’s no one thing I can’t do alone , I can do it all, but just being alone is foreign. I’m trying to lean into the positives of it for however long God wants me here.

Whatever His perfect plan for you may be, sounds like you are on the right track.
What area of the country ? We are having snow in the Midwest.
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