Bringing up of our children

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Jul 7, 2022
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I brought mine up with love, I never physically punished them even when perhaps they were very naughty.

I read something in a book about Billy Graham and his family and it rather disturbs me. He said once, that his wife Ruth brought up their kids, with 'a Bible in one hand and a switch in the other'. That they turned out pretty well .
Surely that wasn't literally?

I hope not because I personally just couldn't hit a child. I wish nobody did. It is not the right way apart from the fact I couldn't bear it.

I know this because I was hit as a child and I have never forgotten it.

I understand that emotional pain and see your perspective.
My advice to parents is to keep your children safe and punish them appropriately in love. It's a way of training not of torture. It should direct attitudes not cause lasting pain or resentment.
 

MsMediator

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Parents can avoid spanking by taking away their kids' "toys" and privileges (and not giving them back later either). A lot of parents make the mistake of giving back the toys once the kid behaves; that is a mistake and kids can play that game. If you destroy or throw away their favorite game, etc. in front of the kid, the kid will behave later.
 
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Too brutal. I cannot stand violence of any kind. I do believe in reasoning and plenty of alternative ways.
The appropriate level of disapline is not overly brutal..

Children can become brutalised and filled with hatred if punished too severely.
Yes the critical words are ""TOO SERVERELY"" Now if you where disaplined too serverely then you should not allow that extreme experience cause you to persue an extreme alterate policy ( Zero Disapline ) Living by the extremes will cause ones kids troubles either way..

I was punished several times for trivial reasons and I still remember the unfairness and distress. I couldn't inflict that on a child myself.
Your personal experiences should not cause you to get a distorted view of life..

By the way, I am sure Jesus Christ never hurt anyone, he came to heal. His gentleness is surely our great model.
Humm i wonder how many people Jesus struck with his scourge when He drove the merchants from the temple in the following passage of the Bible??

(John 2:13-17) "¶ And the Jews’ passover was at hand, and Jesus went up to Jerusalem, {14} And found in the temple those that sold oxen and sheep and doves, and the changers of money sitting: {15} And when he had made a scourge of small cords, he drove them all out of the temple, and the sheep, and the oxen; and poured out the changers’ money, and overthrew the tables; {16} And said unto them that sold doves, Take these things hence; make not my Father’s house an house of merchandise. {17} And his disciples remembered that it was written, The zeal of thine house hath eaten me up."