Is Starbucks a Good Place to Meet Single Women?

Let's face it. The only reason to venture inside a Starbucks location is to get noticed. After all, how else can you explain why someone would pay three times as much for a mediocre cup of coffee? The other 85% of their die-hard fans who drink this stuff are the ones who sit for 20 minutes in the drive-thru on their way to someplace else.


But hey, this place ain't so bad, after all

This morning I was super early to church, for a change. That's only because I had to stop at the drugstore on my way in. It only took a few minutes, so I stopped at Starbucks near my church to discover what the famous coffee shop was offering these days and to see if there were any nice ladies to chat with. After all, I hadn't been to Starbucks in a very long time.


I sauntered to the counter and ordered the acai strawberry lemonade since I no longer drink coffee. The inevitable chastisement from the pretty young barista came when I ordered a "medium." She smiled as she spoke the size of the drink in a foreign language, and at that point, I stood corrected.


An okay place to flirt and make new connections

Meanwhile, an attractive, well-dressed woman about my age– no, I'm not going to tell you what that is, nice try– came in as if she owned the place and ordered her drinks like she knew what she was doing. She then sat at a table near where you pick up your order. It clued me into the fact I was at the wrong end of the counter!


This well-put-together lady seemed like she might be receptive to a first contact – I'll show you the signs in another post– so, I went over to her and blurted out, "Good morning, how are you today?"


"Oh, pretty good. How bout you?"


"Okay," I replied, "But I think someone should write a book titled How To Starbucks."


She smiled, so I continued.


"Several years ago, a guy wrote a book titled How To California. In one of the funniest parts, he explains how every citizen there is responsible for having a nice tan."


"That's about right," she mused.


(Sorry if you're from California, but your beautiful state bears the brunt of many jokes where I'm from).


Of course, the pretty young barista felt compelled to break up our wonderful conversation by invading our space and saying, "Your order's ready sir. Your order's ready ma'am."


Sometimes, it's best to quit while you're ahead

I noticed my new lady friend was getting her order to go, so I wished her a wonderful day and told her goodbye. Then, I plopped down on an extremely long couch where no one else sat. In fact, there were only two other guys in the Starbucks with me now, so I observed what they were doing.


One young man was college-age and hiding behind his laptop. The other man had movie-star looks and was also hiding behind his laptop. What a shame, I thought. Here are two good-looking, lonely guys who came to Starbucks for the sole purpose of meeting their dream woman, only to let their shyness thwart their chances.


And don't give me that line about how they were just there to catch up on work! Remember, it's Sunday, and college classes are already finished for the semester. The sad fact is that they were both dripping with obviousness.


It's easier than you think to start a conversation

If you're shy about talking to women, you're not alone. After all, it's not some elective subject you can take while in high school or college, somewhere between world history and trigonometry.


The good news is that any man, no matter how shy, can develop the skills to talk to any woman, no matter how beautiful. You don't need looks or money or a special opening line.


In the next post, I'll show you how a single word can give you the confidence to work into a full-blown conversation with anyone, including that beautiful lady you've had your eye on for a while now.

I think the chances are the same in Starbucks/coffee shops as in anywhere else, like the library, the park, museum, etc. People who go to coffee shops alone usually want alone time or to relax; sometimes they may meet up with a friend or date. So, it really depends what a person is looking for. If the person just wants to be left alone, he/she may be annoyed.

I'm going to try to find a boyfriend at Starbucks.

On a nice day I will sit outside, and there is a guy there who always has his dog with him,
and that dog loves everyone! Such a friendly and very cute dog, and his owner is not averse
at all to having his dog visit with others, so much so that he trusted even me after a couple
of times to watch his dog while he went back inside for something. People that want to be
left alone will usually be on some electronic device, as Steve Epperson mentioned...

I do take my phone with me so I have something to do if nobody else is around...

If a person goes to a bar alone, it is assumed they want to meet people, date, have someone to talk to, etc. There has to be a Christian option for the bar.

I used to go to the bar so I could drink and not be drinking alone.
You know they say that is a sign of trouble .

If they wanted alone time, they would have pulled up to the drive-thru and gotten their coffee to go.

That's the risk for the man, and the rules state that the man always takes the first risk. His job in the courting process is to interrupt the woman. And at first, she's going to see him that way, as merely another interruption in her life, that is, until he can compel her to find something interesting about him.

In the next post, I will introduce the concept of interruption and how saying just one word can accomplish that without causing undue friction and angst.

There are many places to meet women without resorting to establishments that serve alcohol. In a previous post, I mentioned volunteering for church events and civic charities. As you mentioned earlier, there are also libraries, parks, and museums.

And don't forget the most important place: Your local church!

Is it a one-way thing, because I haven't met any eligable Christian men at such places? My experience suggests that unmarried Christian men between the ages of 25 and 65 don't exist unless they are my relatives, developmentally delayed, or 3,000 Miles away. In hindsight, though, I should have maybes said 'yes' when I lost my phone and asked a stranger in a parking lot to call it, and he teasingly asked if it was actually a ploy to slip him my number. I have no idea if he was a Christian, though

Funny thing, Christian men say the same thing about Christian women.
In fact there's been numerous threads by both genders making this claim.

You go girl !!! 😀

Oohhh, I can't wait to hear how this goes! 😁

#LoveAtFirstLatte

Starbucks as a singles pick-up bar.

Well, why not? We could make it a Christian thing. Sure, let's make Starbucks the new in-place for Christian singles to hang out and meet somebody.

I'll still be single though, because Starbucks has nothing I want. They need a good line of quality sub sandwiches to get me in the door. Or some cheese sticks. Maybe pizza.

Or more in line with the coffee shop vibe, at least a good dobosh torte.

I would be more interested in Starbucks coffee if it had a battlestar galactica theme. That's just me...

This is not a "derail the thread" post. Just go around it.. 🤔

I do hope I'm the 3,000 miles away kind, if these are the only available options.

So... In keeping with the thread theme... Any nice single ladies at this prayer meeting?

I didn't know Starbucks offered breakfast sandwiches...

We have a new Starbucks here... Maybe I need to check that out?