The worst part of it Diane is that I saw the signs, but then, it had looked like if I didn't say yes to his proposal I'd have become a laughing stock in my family. A lot of talk was already going on behind me and I also doubted anyone was ever going to show up after him. I was 30 for crying out loud, 30 Diane!
If only someone had had a heart-to-heart talk with me the way you're doing now, I never would have made the mistake I made. I held her in an embrace, tears running down my cheeks. Even for me the pain was too much, she was really going through a lot in the hands of this man.
Dear Sis,
Settle this in your heart: It is a good thing to get married early and right, give birth to children on time, and God providing, train them to become responsible individuals on time, become grandparents at a good old age... One thing you must also settle in your heart is that our time-tables are different. If you happen to get married early, it's a wonderful thing, but if not, it's not a time to begin to give in to the lies of the devil, depression, desperation, frustration and despondency.
Does the delay to getting married on time only come because it is not yet God's time? The answer is 'no.' There are various factors that can result to this occurrence. One advise I'd give you if you're in this season of waiting, is to seek God's face earnestly to know why the delay is there or lingering. Once you've gotten an answer from Him, seek His wisdom and counsel, as well as counsel from persons he wants you to get counselled by (mind who counsels you please) on how to go about things based on the answer you've received from Him.
Also settle it in your heart that God wants you to get married (except in some unique cases), and not just get married, but get married with His approval/according to His will, with the right person, and at the appointed time. Whatever might or might not be happening in your life at this point, never settle for less.
Do not get to the point where you see no need to add more value to your life, further your education, skill-up, learn new skills, pursue those amazing dreams you've always wanted to... because a husband hasn't come. Do not get to the point where you willing to do anything even use 'sex' to secure a man or get a man for yourself. Do not let 'marriage' define your progress in life.
Do and become everything the Lord has created you to be even when a delay in the aspect of getting married is there. In a time like that, draw closer to God and build a solid relationship with Him, find your purpose, add value to yourself/life, gain/add more knowledge to various facets of life, be involved in serving God wherever you might be, say no to depression and self-pity and draw your strength and joy from the Lord and His word. All will be well eventually beloved 🌹
In all, remember that it is not just about waiting for the right man, but your attitude while waiting, what you're doing while waiting and how you're also preparing to be the right woman for the right man you're waiting for.
You'll testify too...🙏
If only someone had had a heart-to-heart talk with me the way you're doing now, I never would have made the mistake I made. I held her in an embrace, tears running down my cheeks. Even for me the pain was too much, she was really going through a lot in the hands of this man.
Dear Sis,
Settle this in your heart: It is a good thing to get married early and right, give birth to children on time, and God providing, train them to become responsible individuals on time, become grandparents at a good old age... One thing you must also settle in your heart is that our time-tables are different. If you happen to get married early, it's a wonderful thing, but if not, it's not a time to begin to give in to the lies of the devil, depression, desperation, frustration and despondency.
Does the delay to getting married on time only come because it is not yet God's time? The answer is 'no.' There are various factors that can result to this occurrence. One advise I'd give you if you're in this season of waiting, is to seek God's face earnestly to know why the delay is there or lingering. Once you've gotten an answer from Him, seek His wisdom and counsel, as well as counsel from persons he wants you to get counselled by (mind who counsels you please) on how to go about things based on the answer you've received from Him.
Also settle it in your heart that God wants you to get married (except in some unique cases), and not just get married, but get married with His approval/according to His will, with the right person, and at the appointed time. Whatever might or might not be happening in your life at this point, never settle for less.
Do not get to the point where you see no need to add more value to your life, further your education, skill-up, learn new skills, pursue those amazing dreams you've always wanted to... because a husband hasn't come. Do not get to the point where you willing to do anything even use 'sex' to secure a man or get a man for yourself. Do not let 'marriage' define your progress in life.
Do and become everything the Lord has created you to be even when a delay in the aspect of getting married is there. In a time like that, draw closer to God and build a solid relationship with Him, find your purpose, add value to yourself/life, gain/add more knowledge to various facets of life, be involved in serving God wherever you might be, say no to depression and self-pity and draw your strength and joy from the Lord and His word. All will be well eventually beloved 🌹
In all, remember that it is not just about waiting for the right man, but your attitude while waiting, what you're doing while waiting and how you're also preparing to be the right woman for the right man you're waiting for.
You'll testify too...🙏
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