Imagine you're on your second date with your dream woman, and things seem to be going well. The conversation is good, and the walk you are on is quiet and undisturbed. You decide to lean in for the first kiss, and she pulls away. "I'm sorry," she says. "I hope I haven't led you on, but I really only want to be friends right now."
She just dropped the dreaded word no man wants to hear from any woman they are pursuing right on your head. It's the horrible FRIEND label that will crush any hope of you and her ever having a romantic relationship, let alone getting married and having children.
At this point, she has relegated you to her long list of "guy friends" who will NEVER have any chance of getting past a handshake. At best, you will be her sounding board and therapist for when she breaks up with one of her REAL boyfriends. At worst, you will be her doormat, always there to be led by a leash to do her bidding.
So, what happened?
You'll have to retrace your steps way back to when you first introduced yourself:
-Did you flirt with her, or were you merely conversing with her as you would another man?
-Do you dress like a man or a teenage boy? (more on this in another post)
-Are you lighthearted and fun, or are you always complaining about the economy or how horrible the service is at the restaurant?
-Did you pay for the first date or "go Dutch?" Remember, the man ALWAYS pays. It shows you are generous and, at the same time, have your life together. It doesn't matter where you go or what you do.
-Did you look into her eyes at least once during the first date? Holding your eyes on hers for a split second more than is comfortable is even more powerful. But only once per encounter, for obvious reasons. It shouldn't be a staring contest but a natural gaze into the wonders of her soul.
-Do you smile? I mean, really smile. Or are you frowning and serious most of the time? Check out your smile in the mirror and see if you can't improve on it. The bigger your smile, the more inviting you look. Practice in the mirror until it comes naturally. If you can master this one thing, you will have an advantage over 95% of all the other men out there. Smiling is a serious business.
-Did you talk about romantic things on the first date, or did you go into a diatribe about how unfair "the dating game" is? The best things to talk to a woman about are vacations, travel, books she has read, the favorite part of her day, etc. Be creative!
-Do you seem too eager and available? When setting up the second date, only give a few choices for dates and times. Don't say, "I'm really available anytime. I'll work with your schedule." You should always convey that you have a life outside of pursuing her and that your time is just as important as hers. This is why I advocate for at least talking to more than one woman at a time. It doesn't mean you are some kind of player who has relationships with a dozen women. It simply means you have made contact or flirted with a few gals here and there. This way, if things go south, as they have here, you have seeds planted elsewhere. Nuff said.
-On the first date, did you simply say goodbye or shake her hand? NEVER EVER shake the hand of a woman you are trying to pursue a relationship with. After all, does a husband and wife shake hands when they see each other after a long day? Of course not! They always kiss and hug each other. Eventually, you will lean in for that first kiss. But if you shake her hand like you would with a guy, she will automatically reach for the big red button that says "F-Bomb!"
A quick warning
I know this is a lot of information to take in, and some of it seems a bit weird or silly, but I know from first-hand experience that it works—sometimes too well. If you practice and master what I teach, I'm convinced you will find the person of your dreams to marry. But there will be rare instances when a woman simply wants a quick fling. She may even offer to invite a friend or two. So, for obvious reasons, always be praying in the Holy Spirit to help you flee temptation and sexual sin.
Questions? Leave me a private message, and I'll get back ASAP.
Thanks in advance for your thoughtful replies and responses.
She just dropped the dreaded word no man wants to hear from any woman they are pursuing right on your head. It's the horrible FRIEND label that will crush any hope of you and her ever having a romantic relationship, let alone getting married and having children.
At this point, she has relegated you to her long list of "guy friends" who will NEVER have any chance of getting past a handshake. At best, you will be her sounding board and therapist for when she breaks up with one of her REAL boyfriends. At worst, you will be her doormat, always there to be led by a leash to do her bidding.
So, what happened?
You'll have to retrace your steps way back to when you first introduced yourself:
-Did you flirt with her, or were you merely conversing with her as you would another man?
-Do you dress like a man or a teenage boy? (more on this in another post)
-Are you lighthearted and fun, or are you always complaining about the economy or how horrible the service is at the restaurant?
-Did you pay for the first date or "go Dutch?" Remember, the man ALWAYS pays. It shows you are generous and, at the same time, have your life together. It doesn't matter where you go or what you do.
-Did you look into her eyes at least once during the first date? Holding your eyes on hers for a split second more than is comfortable is even more powerful. But only once per encounter, for obvious reasons. It shouldn't be a staring contest but a natural gaze into the wonders of her soul.
-Do you smile? I mean, really smile. Or are you frowning and serious most of the time? Check out your smile in the mirror and see if you can't improve on it. The bigger your smile, the more inviting you look. Practice in the mirror until it comes naturally. If you can master this one thing, you will have an advantage over 95% of all the other men out there. Smiling is a serious business.
-Did you talk about romantic things on the first date, or did you go into a diatribe about how unfair "the dating game" is? The best things to talk to a woman about are vacations, travel, books she has read, the favorite part of her day, etc. Be creative!
-Do you seem too eager and available? When setting up the second date, only give a few choices for dates and times. Don't say, "I'm really available anytime. I'll work with your schedule." You should always convey that you have a life outside of pursuing her and that your time is just as important as hers. This is why I advocate for at least talking to more than one woman at a time. It doesn't mean you are some kind of player who has relationships with a dozen women. It simply means you have made contact or flirted with a few gals here and there. This way, if things go south, as they have here, you have seeds planted elsewhere. Nuff said.
-On the first date, did you simply say goodbye or shake her hand? NEVER EVER shake the hand of a woman you are trying to pursue a relationship with. After all, does a husband and wife shake hands when they see each other after a long day? Of course not! They always kiss and hug each other. Eventually, you will lean in for that first kiss. But if you shake her hand like you would with a guy, she will automatically reach for the big red button that says "F-Bomb!"
A quick warning
I know this is a lot of information to take in, and some of it seems a bit weird or silly, but I know from first-hand experience that it works—sometimes too well. If you practice and master what I teach, I'm convinced you will find the person of your dreams to marry. But there will be rare instances when a woman simply wants a quick fling. She may even offer to invite a friend or two. So, for obvious reasons, always be praying in the Holy Spirit to help you flee temptation and sexual sin.
Questions? Leave me a private message, and I'll get back ASAP.
Thanks in advance for your thoughtful replies and responses.
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