The text we’ll examine is Ephesians 5:21-23
"Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to Himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church - for we are members of His body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' This is a profound mystery - but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."
Now, the first clue to uncover the meaning of this passage comes at the end of the passage. Paul wrote “This is a profound mystery…” We should note that Paul first wrote about common things, husbands and wives. This writing would have been easily understood by the readers. But then he caps off the passage with, if I may paraphrase, “I am actually writing about a profound mystery”. Now, there are mysteries and then there are profound mysteries. Paul emphasizes THIS mystery because it speaks of something profound as it relates to Christ, specifically Christ and the church.
Just as an aside: This is the danger of trying to formulate a set of laws from the New Testament writings akin to the laws that were given at Sinai. You will focus on the black and white of the text and miss what is actually meant by the writing. Typically, those who treat the New Testament in such a way are actually stuck in a traditional mindset that goes all the way back to the Garden of Eden when man and woman had to answer for their sins. But that’s another topic altogether.
Anyway, to continue.
This scripture is normally preached to teach, as a foundation, the relationship of Christian husbands and Christian wives within the body of Christ. But that’s not what Paul wrote. What he's saying is, "This is a profound mystery this relationship between Christ and the church. That's a profound mystery. But I want to use something with which you are already familiar as a means of unlocking and revealing this mystery to you." That's why he says, "But I show you, I am displaying to you, I am presenting to you, this mystery of Christ and the church."
So, to unveil the mystery of Christ and the church, Paul uses a very familiar vehicle to carry the meaning of the passage. This is important: the vehicle, marriage between a man and a woman, is not the point. The point is the passenger of the vehicle: the mystery of Christ and the church. Now, that should be as plain as day. Then, he explains the mystery, specifically, who represents what in this mystery? In other words, he gives us a passage of Scripture that talks about husbands and wives. But he' really not talking about husbands and wives, he's talking about Christ and the church. Therefore, who is the husband? Obviously, Christ. Who is the wife? The church. That is why, throughout the passage, he's saying, "Wives, submit to your husbands as unto the Lord" But if we miss the point, he says, "For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the Head of the church, His body." And then he goes on, in case we missed the point. I mean, he's belaboring the point of Christ in the story, or in the analogy. So he says, verse 24, after twice referring to Christ and the church, he says it another way! "Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their own husbands in everything." By now we are bludgeoned with the idea that the wife is the church. And he's telling the wife to submit to her Husband.
Why is he using the relationship between a husband and a wife to talk to the Bride, the church, that is the wife of Christ? Who is he primarily addressing, men or women? Men, of course. He’s saying to the church, "Men, you are the bride of Christ!" A woman knows how to be a bride. She would readily identify with all references to “the bride”. She would get it immediately. Not so with men. Men are not naturally brides of anyone.
But here, Paul is using the “wife” to talk about the whole church: both men and women. Furthermore, when he talks about the husband he’s not talking about the physical role of the husband he is talking about Christ Himself!
So here are the pertinent questions: Why is he doing this? And what is the purpose?
The reason is: men do not know, naturally, how to respond to a husband as a bride.
In case that didn’t offend you, let me write that again so you can be sure that’s what I meant:
Men do not know, naturally, how to respond to a husband as a bride.
The church is the bride of Christ. The church is the bride. Christ is the husband. Men and women make up the church. But men do not know how to submit to a husband, who is Christ.
The bride of Christ is comprised of both men and women. In spiritual relationship to Christ, however, you are a woman, a bride. You are the one who submits to the husband.
How then does a man learn to be a bride? (See? This is much more about who gets to rule over whom- we'll get to that). Christ gives him a wife to instruct him how to be a bride.
Our minds have been contorted and twisted by homosexuality and the teachings and the practice of all kinds of sexual perversion, openly and publicly in our nation today. And, so men have been cultured in our society to refuse and reject the role of being a woman in relationship to the Husband who is the Lord. Because we have rejected that, we have used this passage to teach how men are greater than women, and therefore women must submit to men unconditionally as a condition of being a Christian. That's nonsense. The role of the Christian woman is a vital role. When men reject the role of Christian women, they have no way of learning how to be a wife to Christ.
How do they learn it? Are we, in fact, as men of God, the bride of Christ? We had better be because the bride is the one for whom He is coming. And whoever is in the Bride, He will take with Him to the marriage supper of the Lamb. And if we're not going, we've got more trouble than wondering about pants or dresses. Let me be clear: Christ gave us the Christian woman who, by the Holy Spirit, is equipped to demonstrate submission to Christ without being a doormat. God gives to her, to woman, the spiritual understanding of one of the two principal players in the marriage supper of the Lamb. Let me say it another way: In the culmination of the age of man there will be the Bride and there will be Christ. The woman in Christ innately understands the role of the Bride.
Now, some will say “Well, aren’t men to be Christ to their wives?” Of course. Of course. In the role of husband we are to be Christ to the woman, we are to love her, care for her, wash her, etc. In this, the responsibility of care falls directly on the man. In fact, only the husband is instructed to “love the wife” and “give up his life for her”. Why is this so? Because the woman already knows how to do this in the natural. She does not need instruction or reminding. Nevertheless, in relation to Christ, BOTH the man and women are the Bride. They are Christ’s betrothed.
More to follow…
"Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to Himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church - for we are members of His body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.' This is a profound mystery - but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."
Now, the first clue to uncover the meaning of this passage comes at the end of the passage. Paul wrote “This is a profound mystery…” We should note that Paul first wrote about common things, husbands and wives. This writing would have been easily understood by the readers. But then he caps off the passage with, if I may paraphrase, “I am actually writing about a profound mystery”. Now, there are mysteries and then there are profound mysteries. Paul emphasizes THIS mystery because it speaks of something profound as it relates to Christ, specifically Christ and the church.
Just as an aside: This is the danger of trying to formulate a set of laws from the New Testament writings akin to the laws that were given at Sinai. You will focus on the black and white of the text and miss what is actually meant by the writing. Typically, those who treat the New Testament in such a way are actually stuck in a traditional mindset that goes all the way back to the Garden of Eden when man and woman had to answer for their sins. But that’s another topic altogether.
Anyway, to continue.
This scripture is normally preached to teach, as a foundation, the relationship of Christian husbands and Christian wives within the body of Christ. But that’s not what Paul wrote. What he's saying is, "This is a profound mystery this relationship between Christ and the church. That's a profound mystery. But I want to use something with which you are already familiar as a means of unlocking and revealing this mystery to you." That's why he says, "But I show you, I am displaying to you, I am presenting to you, this mystery of Christ and the church."
So, to unveil the mystery of Christ and the church, Paul uses a very familiar vehicle to carry the meaning of the passage. This is important: the vehicle, marriage between a man and a woman, is not the point. The point is the passenger of the vehicle: the mystery of Christ and the church. Now, that should be as plain as day. Then, he explains the mystery, specifically, who represents what in this mystery? In other words, he gives us a passage of Scripture that talks about husbands and wives. But he' really not talking about husbands and wives, he's talking about Christ and the church. Therefore, who is the husband? Obviously, Christ. Who is the wife? The church. That is why, throughout the passage, he's saying, "Wives, submit to your husbands as unto the Lord" But if we miss the point, he says, "For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the Head of the church, His body." And then he goes on, in case we missed the point. I mean, he's belaboring the point of Christ in the story, or in the analogy. So he says, verse 24, after twice referring to Christ and the church, he says it another way! "Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their own husbands in everything." By now we are bludgeoned with the idea that the wife is the church. And he's telling the wife to submit to her Husband.
Why is he using the relationship between a husband and a wife to talk to the Bride, the church, that is the wife of Christ? Who is he primarily addressing, men or women? Men, of course. He’s saying to the church, "Men, you are the bride of Christ!" A woman knows how to be a bride. She would readily identify with all references to “the bride”. She would get it immediately. Not so with men. Men are not naturally brides of anyone.
But here, Paul is using the “wife” to talk about the whole church: both men and women. Furthermore, when he talks about the husband he’s not talking about the physical role of the husband he is talking about Christ Himself!
So here are the pertinent questions: Why is he doing this? And what is the purpose?
The reason is: men do not know, naturally, how to respond to a husband as a bride.
In case that didn’t offend you, let me write that again so you can be sure that’s what I meant:
Men do not know, naturally, how to respond to a husband as a bride.
The church is the bride of Christ. The church is the bride. Christ is the husband. Men and women make up the church. But men do not know how to submit to a husband, who is Christ.
The bride of Christ is comprised of both men and women. In spiritual relationship to Christ, however, you are a woman, a bride. You are the one who submits to the husband.
How then does a man learn to be a bride? (See? This is much more about who gets to rule over whom- we'll get to that). Christ gives him a wife to instruct him how to be a bride.
Our minds have been contorted and twisted by homosexuality and the teachings and the practice of all kinds of sexual perversion, openly and publicly in our nation today. And, so men have been cultured in our society to refuse and reject the role of being a woman in relationship to the Husband who is the Lord. Because we have rejected that, we have used this passage to teach how men are greater than women, and therefore women must submit to men unconditionally as a condition of being a Christian. That's nonsense. The role of the Christian woman is a vital role. When men reject the role of Christian women, they have no way of learning how to be a wife to Christ.
How do they learn it? Are we, in fact, as men of God, the bride of Christ? We had better be because the bride is the one for whom He is coming. And whoever is in the Bride, He will take with Him to the marriage supper of the Lamb. And if we're not going, we've got more trouble than wondering about pants or dresses. Let me be clear: Christ gave us the Christian woman who, by the Holy Spirit, is equipped to demonstrate submission to Christ without being a doormat. God gives to her, to woman, the spiritual understanding of one of the two principal players in the marriage supper of the Lamb. Let me say it another way: In the culmination of the age of man there will be the Bride and there will be Christ. The woman in Christ innately understands the role of the Bride.
Now, some will say “Well, aren’t men to be Christ to their wives?” Of course. Of course. In the role of husband we are to be Christ to the woman, we are to love her, care for her, wash her, etc. In this, the responsibility of care falls directly on the man. In fact, only the husband is instructed to “love the wife” and “give up his life for her”. Why is this so? Because the woman already knows how to do this in the natural. She does not need instruction or reminding. Nevertheless, in relation to Christ, BOTH the man and women are the Bride. They are Christ’s betrothed.
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