Do You As a Single Person Feel More Pressure to Get (or Stay) In Shape?

As was mine. 😬

Yup.

Whole lotta people out there wondering why they're single like your example of a short, 300 lb man with bad skin, and it's often because they are looking for or will only accept someone with qualities like being thin that they don't qualify for.

They want to be accepted, but often won't accept the qualities they have in others.

And then lament being forever single, because they feel that because God wants the best for them, they deserve a unicorn 🦄 instead of someone like themselves.

Yeah, I wasn't quite sure what your point was. It sounded almost as if you took offense because I used a man as the victim. Am I misunderstanding you? Rest assured that I fully understand that women experience this, possibly even more so than men, because men are generally more looks-conscious. But, I just used that as my example because, well, I used it as my example

But, to answer your question more directly, looks matter. Oh there are the hyper-spiritual out there among us who'd never admit it, but that great Godly man who's also 4'11" and 300 lbs with problem skin is not going to be going on many dates.

The older I get, the more I wonder how many of us will hear this when we get to the other side.

Hello! Perhaps as a hyper spiritual one, maybe an idealist or just perhaps an old fashioned bible believer here's some food for thought:

"The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7

So from now on we regard no one according to worldly standards and values (2 Corinthians 5:16)

God Bless All

Well more power to you. You're on a higher spiritual level than I am. Give yourself a pat on the back! I'm sure it's not that we're just wired differently, or anything.

We should go back to square dances.

I thought square dancing was fun. It's been many a moon since I learned to square danced though, I'd have to relearn how. I'm just not partial to wearing those square dancing dresses that women wear to those shindigs.

Hey Everyone,

If you're part of the Singles community, whether Christian or not, we all know that at some point, our looks (and weight) are going to be a major consideration. No matter how Christian someone claims to be, looks, to some degree, matter, unless the person is blind. (And even then, I wonder what their standards are... For instance, would blind singles be more drawn/sensitive to qualities in voices other people might miss? But that's a subject for another time.)

Several years ago, I read a joke in a magazine about why single women were supposedly more fit than married women. If we extend it to include both men and women, it went something like this:

"Single people see what's in their refrigerator... and (not finding anything of interest,) go directly to bed. Married people see what's in their bed... and go directly to the refrigerator!" (Now this was just a joke -- please don't be offended, because we all know that there are exceptions to both sides!)

But this had me thinking... With so much emphasis placed on the importance of looks when dating, do single people feel more pressure to work on their weight and physical fitness?

Is there any truth to the saying, "Once someone gets married, they just let themselves go"? (I know, it varies widely for different people, but I'm just asking for sake of discussion here.) I had a friend who once said she "couldn't wait to get married" because then she could "eat whatever she wanted," but I think the opposite actually came true.

Her husband was a great guy who took on his own fair share of household responsibilities, so it actually gave her more time to work out and dedicate to fitness, which she enjoyed.

At any rate, I was just wondering how are CC audience feels about this. I know that as I'm getting older, I feel an intense pressure to try to get/stay in shape not only because of the possibility of finding someone, but in case I DON'T find someone, I know I need to stay as healthy as possible to remain self-reliant as long as I can.

What about the rest of you? All are welcome to answer! I'd be interested in hearing how our married friends feel about this topic, and how much pressure (or not) they feel to stay fit.

* As a single, do you think you feel more pressure to stay fit? Do you think that will change when/if you marry? Why or why not?

* As a married, do you feel more or less pressure to stay fit than when you were single? Is it true (in your experience,) that married people "let themselves go"?

* What changes are you wishing for/trying to make in your life to have a healthier lifestyle? (Whether married or single.)

I'm looking forward to hearing the discussion!

I'll be back to check in right after I "put in my time" (because it really does feel like a punishment) on the dreaded treadmill.

If you're part of the Singles community, whether Christian or not, we all know that at some point, our looks (and weight) are going to be a major consideration. No matter how Christian someone claims to be, looks, to some degree, matter, unless the person is blind. (And even then, I wonder what their standards are... For instance, would blind singles be more drawn/sensitive to qualities in voices other people might miss?)

But this had me thinking... With so much emphasis placed on the importance of looks when dating, do single people feel more pressure to work on their weight and physical fitness?

Is there any truth to the saying, "Once someone gets married, they just let themselves go"?

As a single, do you think you feel more pressure to stay fit? Do you think that will change when/if you marry? Why or why not?

What changes are you wishing for/trying to make in your life to have a healthier lifestyle?

Hello! Good to hear from you. Perhaps it's experiences I have had or seen others going through but in my view nothing trumps good Godly, character in a person.

Proverbs 31:30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

1 Peter 3:3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.

God Bless You

But this had me thinking... With so much emphasis placed on the importance of looks when dating, do single people feel more pressure to work on their weight and physical fitness?

I just want to become a Greek god, sacrifices will be made this year. There's no easy way out except suffering and discipline.

I just want to become a Greek god, sacrifices will be made this year. There's no easy way out except suffering and discipline.