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Hello pastors and bible people.

So How should a women be in your eyes?

what does it mean to God to be a women of a “quiet spirit?”
a contentious woman annoys me to no end. I work with them and I am a woman. Even as a woman, I wanna get away from an antagonistic one.

How would you approach an annoying woman?

I was going to say…. stealthily with a chloroform rag.



But truthfully ….I probably would use Ether instead ….

I’m kidding.

I actually try to look beyond the exterior façade.

Most people who display antagonistic traits have done so for reasons sometimes they don’t even know, as protection. It may be a defensive reaction that is covering up shortcomings, low self-esteem, physical or sometimes mental abuse. ....Because people who come from a loving environment are rarely (if ever) antagonistic.

So maybe …by walking in love with genuine concern we can break through the façade and find the real person. Of course, asking God what the best approach is…. can be your spiritual Ether.


My no-fly list is “arrogance” ….which is predominant with men, and initial interactions are not easy …But well worth it.... when you see the change with the love of God.

Herself. She doesn't answer to me.

I believe this means a woman is more in a support role, not seeking to be in the center of attention, etc.

However, the work place/employers may not be seeking a "quiet spirit" woman as this may not fit the job description. If women are in a manager role, in whatever capacity, being of quiet spirit may not work towards their benefit. There are some women who can pull this off though, which is impressive. They are able to instill fear or respect but be of quiet spirit.

QUIET- here's a good take on it: https://www.etymonline.com/word/*kweie-

While Peter is writing to women in particular, I don't think he's singling them out. The context is within a marriage. I don't think a contentious/arrogant/abusive man is any less irritating than a woman who is such (ask me how I know). And of course, he specifies a mixed marriage (believer and unbeliever).

While it's traditionally accepted that the man be the head of the marriage (i.e., somebody has to lead, I suppose, where the potential exists for dispute, disagreement and contention), I don't think it's God design that it be to the exclusion of a wife's input/influence on decisions. Remember: woman was taken out of man's side, not his foot. The old adage it takes two is pretty accurate; but it only takes one to stop an argument, because it's virtually impossible to have a one-side conversation Of course, this would apply in a workplace situation as well. The old saying is 'Nod and smile.' That'll get their blood boiling!

Peter draws contrasts between the inner/outer man (woman, in this case), I suspect, because (unregenerate) women have an inate perception about being beautiful, and that there is an expectation for them to be thus. Paul alludes to this also (below).

Another (situational) passage about women is where Paul gives instruction to women who are, apaprently, disruptive (I Timothy 2:9-12). I'm pretty sure he brings in the idea of women being deceived/in the transgression because he's drawing the contrast between being lawless and lawful (i.e., quiet vs. loud and obnoxious/disruptive). Perhaps it would be just as unacceptable/annoying for men to be so. But in the case of I Timothy, it was women who were behaving as such. And perhaps some women were this way because they didn't understand the grace of God- it's not for licence, but for learning God's ways when submitting to him.

I hope this sheds a little light

Cast out the scorner, and contention shall go out; yea, strife and reproach shall cease. -Proverbs 22:10

I try not to.😂

From behind and at a distance.

To the OP. You work with them, that means you do just that, work with them. No personal issues of any kind allowed into the work interactions.