her and i are so close she often just fights me and has a hard time staying focused.
So, I understand this 100%! Some hopefully helpful ideas:
Sometimes mixing up the lesson days helps. I believe its called a Block schedule. We do math, spelling, grammar, writing, Bible, etc on M/Tues/Thursday/Fridays and Wednesday we "break" and do science, history, and any fun projects the kids are interested in. Helps to have a day where we shift focus. It gets tedious for all of us, doing the same thing every day.
I'm also going to try the schedule that, I think is called Sabbath Week or Sabbath Schedule. So 6 weeks of school, 1 week of rest, then 6 weeks of school, 1 week of rest, etc.
Suggestions: when she starts fighting or losing focus, go for a walk or pause to make cookies or build a fort or play a board game, etc. Sometimes they need a brain break and then can come back "fresh". And if she's still struggling, it's okay to call it a day and throw on a documentary to watch, instead.
I've had times where...this sounds scary...we've skipped certain lessons for a month or so. I've been AMAZED at how much they learn on their own during those breaks and/or how quickly they're able to understand when we get back to it. So don't be afraid to back away from a subject for a time, if needed.
Another idea is to take what she likes and use that to keep her interest. When my eldest was younger, she loved horses. So I tried to cater to that by having her subjects involve horses.
My difficult runaway son LOVES Minecraft so when he was around 10 years old, he'd read about something in history and then I'd have him create, say, the Effiel Tower in creative mode in the game. He also was really into stop motion animation for awhile so instead of having him do multiplication worksheets, I had him animate multiplication problems. Example: In one, he had it rain and then flowers grew with the factors 2 and 5 and then a bee flew over with the product. He was pretty creative with it.
M 17 year old loves to act as teacher, to show me what he's learning in math. Math is NOT my forte and he is waaay beyond my math skills...but I've noticed when the kids try to teach me, the lesson really sticks in their mind and they really enjoy being "boss" for awhile. So when she's lacking focus, you can try playing the part of the student.
Sorry this was so long. A lot of this you probably already had figured out but just in case, thought I'd share. 🫣
Have you been homeschooling since the get-go or is this new for yall?