Christian dating apps

What Christian dating apps are good? Cuz all the ones i downloaded u have to pay to see ur likes and message ppl. I dont have money

The best place for you to find a guy right now is at college.

Howdy Jacki and welcome to the forum.

I've never used any, but from what I hear from those who have used them... They all suck rotten eggs. Sorry. Like, haven't heard of a single good one out there.

Of course it could just be because "People love to complain." But it's not just that I've heard bad things about all of them - I've never heard ANYTHING good about any of them.

Hi Jacki,

I can only speak from my own experience, but back in the day (years ago,) I was on a few dating apps (not all at once but I tried a few over a couple of years.)

I tried two free "Christian" sites and three paid (Christian Mingle, Christian Cafe, and Eharmony.) I know none of us have any money right now, but I have to say that from what I experienced, you can pretty much expect to get varying degrees of what you pay for. And it can be very disheartening.

I've heard that the paid apps don't delete inactive accounts, so they're able to make it look like there are a lot more users (and possibly people in your area) just by keeping everyone who signs up in the database. I've also heard of bots and/or people being paid to string users along to pay for or renew memberships, then ghost them as soon as the site gets their money.

So the paid sites obviously have their issues. I used to like Christian Mingle because it had the most active chat rooms, divided by decades. It was very telling to see people communicating in real life, as well as seeing some 50- and 60- somethings in the 20's and 30's rooms trying to find a date.

But in my opinion, the free sites are even worse, because no one has anything to lose. I always had detailed profiles, but I'd get winks or messages from very young guys (claiming to be 18 when I was 35, etc.,) and at least one guy who eventually confessed that he was married and "just wanted to find friends." Ahem.

I've read statistics about the number of married people on dating sites (and it doesn't seem to matter whether it's on supposed Christian sites or not,) but at least with a paid site, there are a few stakes. A married person might be less inclined to join a paid site if they share all their credit card statements with their spouse, or if they have to answer to their spouse for all their purchases, etc. It's not foolproof, but definitely something to keep in mind no matter what site you're on.

As you can see, I never found anyone on those sites (and I gave up a long time ago,) but I did learn some valuable lessons and got to talk to some very interesting people. I considered it a learning experience -- almost like a paid college course. And there ARE people here who have successful stories of finding someone online, so it IS possible, but I think, very rare.

Keep us posted -- let us know if you find anything and how it's working out for you!

Hmm, yes... A cogent point. "Good" is subjective. If you're looking for a meat market, the christian dating sites might be good.

Yes, yes, I know how you meant it. More fun to take it the other way though.

*Lynx runs away, dodging the things Magenta throws at him.

Just go ahead and throw something heavy at him, Lady Magenta.

We didn't see no nothin'.

Exactly. Which is why I stopped using them a while ago.

I used two Christian Dating apps. Here is the way they work. Women join for free or can pay for a basic membership, you can also pay for background checks and verification. But if you just have a free membership as a woman, any man with a paid membership can talk to you if you message him. It can be free for women but not for men. One Christian dating site still free for women, but I paid. I got a Human Matchmaker that accompanied me on dates. They also arrange travel overseas and do Paperwork. For me this cost $$$$$. Any man who isnt a creep(the dating sites are full creeps and scammers, both male and female use wisdom) will have a Diamond Membership it will show up on his profile. Some men have a "Verified Identity" badge on their profile. I have made a lot of friends on dating sites, I used it like a Chat Forum. I lead a lady in China to Salvation on one. Still saved today. Dating sites even "Christian Dating" sites have creeps just like Church and Life in General. Im no longer on dating sites as I met "The One" and we left the site. We continued chatting on Skype. We video chat every Sunday Evening here, Its tomorrow Morning in Thailand. Let the Guy pay. Sure He will pay for background checks, he may even hire a PI to check you out. You are worth it. Trust me there are a lot of good Christian men out there, having a hard time meeting "The One" in Church. On Dating sites you can block and report creeps. Dating sites can be free for women. But be careful.

I met my wife on a Christian dating site. Dating sites these days are just places to meet people. With the ease of communications these days, it isn't hard to verify who you are speaking to and finding background information. The key is spending enough time to see the person in a variety situations and get a feel for who they really are.
The biggest problem I see is people making commitments emotionally long before they know the other person. Go with the idea of making friends and leave the rest to God.

I have tried various sites and then took a long break, and recently just updated my profiles. I don't have subscriptions on all of them but if someone promising contacts me, I would consider getting a subscription.

I have found most of the guys on ChristianMingle to be unattractive. I just logged in, and see that most of the profile photos are selfies and not flattering ones either. A handful of them have photos of reflections of themselves on the mirror. A lot of the guys also do not smile. The vast majority of the guys do not have decent write-ups. Overall the guys come across as unattractive on ChristianMingle. This is quite unfortunate as this is likely the main/largest Christian-Protestant dating site. I have not tried other Christian-Protestant sites. I considered ChristianCafe but the pool is even smaller/worse than ChristianMingle. One thing I did not like about ChristianCafe, at least when I checked years ago, was that one can view profiles without logging in or creating a profile (so the profiles are entirely public).

I am actually on CatholicMatch and I find the guys there to be more attractive and more marriage material. Most of the guys there are Catholic but personally I am not really opposed to that. However, most of the guys there are looking for a Catholic wife. There are certain checkboxes viewable on the profile, where one can check the boxes if they agree with major Catholic tenets. I would say nearly all the guys there check the box for waiting until marriage for sex. So overall, I find the guys on CatholicMatch to be more marriage oriented, the vast majority have decent write-ups and photos. There also many forums, videos created by CatholicMatch on dating, etc. which I do not see on ChristianMingle. The website itself is overall higher quality than ChristianMingle.

Then, there are the other sites such as Zoosk, Match, eHarmony, Bumble, etc. I have not tried eHarmony (yet) or the phone dating apps (Tinder, Bumble, etc.). Zoosk apparently has a large dating Christian community. A lot of the profiles on Zoosk and Match are good (in terms of completeness, photos, write-ups, etc.) but it can be hard to weed out who is serious (if they seeking marriage vs something "casual"). There are some real Christians there, but none of the guys who contacted me I would say are real Christians.

PS. A Word Of Caution.....My Experience in life is not "Text Book" or "How To". I didnt start dating till I was 26. I finished College and got a real Career Job in Engineering. I spent 17 to 21 years old in the Military to pay for college. I wasnt "Seriously"(for the right reason with the right understanding) dating till 31. At 32 I Married my Wife, she was 28 and finished University. Her career was solid. I met her in Church after having been in many Churches Growing in Christ. God set that up. God set up my meeting on the dating site. This woman I met is a widow and Im going to Thailand as a Mission as in "Ministry". She is "Fully On Board" she says "God Has Put Us Together for His Work". All I did on May 1 1980 was Get Saved let God Lead. He has provided every thing and every person that I needed to better serve Him. God knows what you need if you are pursuing He will drop it in front of you at the right time. "Handfuls On Purpose". Read the Book Of Ruth. Boaz instructed his harvesters to take harvested grain from their reaping bags, when they saw Ruth gleaning behind them and drop a handful in her path. Ruth is symbolic of the Gentile Church(Bride) Boaz is Symbolic of Christ the Groom.

The "Cupid Sites" have a question on your profile for Religious Beliefs and another that Identifies how serious you are bout your faith. So you can weed out profiles. There are many Christians there. Cupid Sites are free for women and there is one for every country. I was a member on the Oriental Country, Sites. China, Viet Nam, Thailand, Japan, Philippines and Cambodia. Because I fit better in Oriental Cultures than Western European(USA included). Western Women dont appeal to me. Im as White as a Patriot American can be. I seem to get along better with Oriental People. Most of my Friends are From Asia. These sites gave me International options. It was hard to meet Oriental Women my age. Most Oriental Women Marry once and till Death. If their Husband Dies or Divorces, they rarely Marry Again. Im 65 this year. Finding a Spouse at my age is hard enough, even harder because I want an Oriental Woman. So International Cupid Sites worked for me. It was very frustrating though.

Well there ya go. There's two people who actually had some success with them.

I sit corrected. I'm too lazy to stand corrected.

It's funny as so many new people will write a thread similar to this one and it is usually answered with a loud NO, DONT GO THERE. Yet there also seems to be some that do meet and marry from joining a dating site. There has also been a few that meet on here. It goes to show you that you really dont know. For some it works, for others it doesn't.

There is also different christian facebook things you can join around the world. They usually have large numbers. It doesn't have to be a singles one it could just be a particular subject/interest in Christianity that you enjoy like prayer or healing or endtimes etc.

I joined one on rapture and posted something. I had about five hundred replies. I couldn't believe it. I wasn't posting to meet someone I just posted my thoughts. I have made a female friend and we talk on it now and then.

The best dating advice I know to give is Psalm 23:1 and Matthew 6:33:

First,, learn to be satisfied in God so you don't put that burden on your mate and pursue God entrusting the results to Him.

I was on Christian Mingle, twice in 3 years, and there were more scammers there then on any secular site, which is sad. I haven't found a good Christian site either but as far as paying for something Plenty of Fish is free. It's very difficult to find someone genuine, especially online, because they can hide behind a computer and be just about anyone from anywhere. But I'll be praying for you!

I met my wife online....but NOT on a dating site.

Because I wanted a friend. First and foremost. And literally it was one out of the tens of thousands of women I would never want to have anything to do with.

Both of us played and talked in the same forum. We got to know each other online but not really focused on each other. Then we started actually privately conversing....still only as platonic friends.
Then we exchanged numbers and in a moment of frustration of driving while texting I just called her and explained what I was trying to say. Obviously our relationship shifted afterwards to something more than just friendship.

Online dating apps are exclusively meat markets...they are solely for romantic relationships....which often ends up in premarital sex. Both parties are trying to force a relationship where it should grow organically. Meaning that the relationship is not going to be very intimate on an intellectual and emotional level. It takes years to figure out who the other person is. And you actually have to care to know...history is telling but there's nothing like real life together long term.

That's super cool. Youre right, it's usually all about a "hook up." So sad, especially since a lot of men call themselves "Christian", which is usually a default religion as far as profiles are concerned. I've left it in the hands of the Lord and am waiting for His choice and have been celibate since not being married. He is my strength!