God designed marriage much like God designed the church. Men lead in the home as they submit to Christ. Men lead the church as they submit to Christ.
Some teach that this is old fashion, tradition, a way of ancient culture, or misogynistic in nature. But the Bible doesn't give us any other opinion.
Ephesians 5:23
New King James Version
23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
1 Timothy 3:2
English Standard Version
2 Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach,
For many decades, men have become passive and persuaded by modern feminism that men in general are oppressive and part of the hypothetical patriarchal system.
Patriarchy— is a system of social organization that recognizes, encourages, and reproduces the seemingly natural and necessary domination of men over women.
Does the Bible teach domination over women? Of course not.
The Bible speaks to the simple fact of biology and design. Men and women are different from their genetic code to muscular capacity. It is often the women and children who are preyed upon and often by inherent duty men feel the need to destroy the predators of society.
An inner nature to defend the biologically weak from the evils of evil men.
For too long the culture has taught that all men are the problem and that somewhere after WW2 while the men went to war, the industries saw they could make money off of the labor of women as well. The home would later be split up as dad and mom work 12-hour shifts and the kids are brainwashed by public education.
Feminist movements begin in waves and started in the late 1800s. The first wave was largely equality and the right to vote.
Where things start to turn is in 1963 during the Vietnam War massive protests erupted. A new wave of feminism would begin. This time second-wave feminists called for a reevaluation of traditional gender roles in society, an end to sexist discrimination, equal pay, and with Roe v Wade reproductive rights.
The pay was being abused and discrimination was very much real but notice now they attack the mother and the children.
Wave three would hit in 1990, the key issues would now be sexual harassment in the workplace, shortage of women in power, and inclusion when it came to race and gender. Intersectionality is a product of Marxism (Critical theory) how types of oppression (based on race, class, gender, etc.) gives people a social credit score based on how oppressed they are, and finally support for trans rights.
Now under legitimate issues (never let a good crisis go to waste) certain groups began to push the agenda of Marx and Engels to divide people into classes and so began the attack on gender itself with including trans rights.
Modern feminism/LGBT+ movements, we hear the topics of toxic masculinity, 100 plus gender pronouns, abortion rights, “I don't need a man”, intersectionality score, a woman is to be called chest feeding versus breastfeeding, a biological man (trans) can play woman sports, use woman's restrooms, be housed in woman's prisons or use their changing rooms. A woman can kill her child in the womb or even hours after birth. Marriage would be allowed to homosexuals and the culture pushes to redefine pedophiles as Minor Attracted Persons. People in some states can marry children, their dog, or even their model airplane. Equal pay for equal work has become equal pay no matter the quality of work. Hiring women to power has now become hiring those on the intersectionality score deemed most oppressed versus those of merit and qualification.
Thank God that positive things came out of the early movements but as each wave came, it got more and more like the culture away from God.
Men are designed to lead the home and the church. Not that women must be submissive to all authority but only to that that is aligned with God. Not the abuse of men but that which God has ordained as good.
The man is called to submit to Christ, to love the wife like he loves himself, and to love like Christ loves the Church.
If you really consider Jesus's teachings on how a man should lead then like any good leader he sacrifices to serve those under him. He uplifts and protects those under his authority.
The Overseer, elder, and pastor carry only male pronouns. The same structure of marriage carries over to the Church. This doesn't imply a woman can not teach, evangelize, or speak in church. But it does imply a woman can not be a pastor and a woman (if married) should honor her scriptural status as a wife to not subvert her husband as a leader (that is if the husband is trying to lead).
We must never sacrifice the roles that God has designed men and women to be. A man can not birth a child. A woman can not get pregnant without a man. A man's brain chemistry as a father brings positive traits a child needs. Same as a biological mother.
We must not waver or back away from reality/God's design. The truth will always be true regardless of feelings.