Why do I get so angry?

Anger. Frustration. Irritation.


We all feel it from time to time. Sometime it just explodes at our kids, our spouse, our co-workers and we wonder if there’s something dark lurking inside us.

Anger doesn’t have to run or ruin your life. In fact, if you learn to manage anger correctly it can give insight into areas of your life where you're living short of all God intends for you.

The thing you probably want answered first is, “Why do I get so angry?”

The simple answer is: You get angry because you have some hopes and dreams for yourself and your family, but all around you are threats to those dreams.

When you get angry at something happening to you, it’s always because of something happening inside you. Anger isn’t a sin. It’s just a sign. It’s a sign that one of your hopes and dreams is being threatened.

There are three specific hopes and dreams that we all have. We want:

1. Security: (physical, financial, emotionally)
2. Connection: (relationships, feeling valued and accepted)
3. Control: (feeling empowered to make choices and have options)

We get angry when we feel one of those three is being threatened.

When you start feeling that threat, your brain energy shifts away from your prefrontal cortex (the problem-solving part of your brain.) At that point, all rational and reasonable thought basically shuts down. So we have to step away, take a deep breath, calm down, and get thinking straight again.

Take a moment right now and think about practical and healthy ways you can calm yourself down when you get angry or irritated things like prayer, breathing deeply, or taking a walk so you respond in a way that doesn't turn your anger into sin.


When you start feeling angry, read your favorite verses a few times, then calm yourself down in a healthy way.


God bless you all

Thanks

Yes, His anger is righteous always, ours is most often not, would you agree?

Anger. Frustration. Irritation.


We all feel it from time to time. Sometime it just explodes at our kids, our spouse, our co-workers and we wonder if there’s something dark lurking inside us.

Anger doesn’t have to run or ruin your life. In fact, if you learn to manage anger correctly it can give insight into areas of your life where you're living short of all God intends for you.

The thing you probably want answered first is, “Why do I get so angry?”

The simple answer is: You get angry because you have some hopes and dreams for yourself and your family, but all around you are threats to those dreams.

When you get angry at something happening to you, it’s always because of something happening inside you. Anger isn’t a sin. It’s just a sign. It’s a sign that one of your hopes and dreams is being threatened.

There are three specific hopes and dreams that we all have. We want:

1. Security: (physical, financial, emotionally)
2. Connection: (relationships, feeling valued and accepted)
3. Control: (feeling empowered to make choices and have options)

We get angry when we feel one of those three is being threatened.

When you start feeling that threat, your brain energy shifts away from your prefrontal cortex (the problem-solving part of your brain.) At that point, all rational and reasonable thought basically shuts down. So we have to step away, take a deep breath, calm down, and get thinking straight again.

Take a moment right now and think about practical and healthy ways you can calm yourself down when you get angry or irritated things like prayer, breathing deeply, or taking a walk so you respond in a way that doesn't turn your anger into sin.


When you start feeling angry, read your favorite verses a few times, then calm yourself down in a healthy way.


God bless you all

Thanks

I agree and disagree. I agree anger's a sign of something going on within us; but it's also sinful.

"Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God." Galatians 5:19-21

Anger is sinful and we need to get rid of it, not manage it.

Most often, yes, but sometimes it’s righteous and there’s nothing wrong with being angry when it comes to defending righteousness.

Hey Snacks,
Just thinking on this why does one have to be angry to defend righteousness certainly one can be dispassionate and defend what is right?

I got mad when my nephew in grade two is talking about how two men or two women can adopt a baby and have a normal family.

Hey Snacks,
Just thinking on this why does one have to be angry to defend righteousness certainly one can be dispassionate and defend what is right?

Jesus overturned the tables in the temple. He scolded the Pharisees and Sadducees. He referred to Herod as a fox. We are created in the image of God, and one attribute we have is an emotion of anger. Is it godly to walk through life angry all the time? No. But trying to eradicate a human emotion is a lesson in futility at best.

Anger. Frustration. Irritation.


We all feel it from time to time. Sometime it just explodes at our kids, our spouse, our co-workers and we wonder if there’s something dark lurking inside us.

Anger doesn’t have to run or ruin your life. In fact, if you learn to manage anger correctly it can give insight into areas of your life where you're living short of all God intends for you.

The thing you probably want answered first is, “Why do I get so angry?”

The simple answer is: You get angry because you have some hopes and dreams for yourself and your family, but all around you are threats to those dreams.

When you get angry at something happening to you, it’s always because of something happening inside you. Anger isn’t a sin. It’s just a sign. It’s a sign that one of your hopes and dreams is being threatened.

There are three specific hopes and dreams that we all have. We want:

1. Security: (physical, financial, emotionally)
2. Connection: (relationships, feeling valued and accepted)
3. Control: (feeling empowered to make choices and have options)

We get angry when we feel one of those three is being threatened.

When you start feeling that threat, your brain energy shifts away from your prefrontal cortex (the problem-solving part of your brain.) At that point, all rational and reasonable thought basically shuts down. So we have to step away, take a deep breath, calm down, and get thinking straight again.

Take a moment right now and think about practical and healthy ways you can calm yourself down when you get angry or irritated things like prayer, breathing deeply, or taking a walk so you respond in a way that doesn't turn your anger into sin.


When you start feeling angry, read your favorite verses a few times, then calm yourself down in a healthy way.


God bless you all

Thanks

A very important point.
Not always easy to allow the light so shine in dark places.

I see.

Okay let's tease this out a bit,

Do you think that Jesus as the Messiah always had perfect righteous anger?
I think He did.
However, my concern is that jealousy is a human emotion as well, God states He is a jealous God, however are we allowed to be jealous?

This has has been an unresolved question in my mind over the years.

I am thinking and I am now of the mind that human anger is part of the flesh and should be regarded as part of our fallen nature.

Having said this anger is an important survival emotion in certain situations, so I dunno if it always a sin.

“Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil” (Eph. 4:26-27).

So it seems there is a line that can be crossed.

A few thoughts.

Gal 5v19-21: "Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like..."

"Outbursts of wrath," Greek, "thumoi" plural of "thumos," (Strong's NT: 2372):

Passionate Explosions Of Anger “Thumoi."

“Thumos,” occurs in Luke 4v28, Acts 19v28, Rom 2v8, 2Cor 12v20, Gal 5v20, Eph 4v31, Col 3v8, Heb 11v27, Rev 12v12, 14v8,10,19, 15v1,7, 16v1,19, 18v3, 19v15. It speaks of “stirring emotions,” then, “a flair up of temper,” or “passionate explosive outbursts of anger. “Thumos” anger is “great but transient anger,” and is “like fire in straw;” which distinguishes it from “orge” (Strong’s NT:3709) anger; which is a long-lasting anger and cherished in the memory. “Orge” is used to speak of God's weighed judicial verdict; His anger of justice. Rom 1v18, Eph 5v6, Col 3v6, Rev 6v16,17, 11v18. etc.

“Thumos” can be used of anger in a good sense, of righteous indignation.

“Thumos” is used to speak of God's explosive righteous anger in His judgmental acts in the Great Tribulation, and on the great day of His wrath at Christ's coming. However, Paul states that anger (“orge") and wrath (“thumos”), are now resting upon all those who are contentious, and do not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness. Rom 2v8. Our Lord's anger in Matt 23, shows that it is very necessary to be angry at injustice and evil; anger can be an instrument of God's purposes; indeed, it is a sin not to be angry at times. God's “thumos” anger springs from His love; and gives us a revelation of His heart and mind, and His great concern and care for His creation.

“Thumos” can speak of outbursts of uncontrolled harmful rage.

“Thumos” anger, and “orge” anger, and bitterness, clamour, evil speaking and malice, are to be put away from us; and are to be replaced by tender-hearted forgiving love. Eph 4v31,32. The “thumos,” explosive temper; and the “orge,” brooding anger; are to be “put off,” with the other evil works of the flesh. Col 3v8. In Matt 5v22, Jesus said that those who are angry with their brother without cause, are liable to judgement. “Without cause,” is in the Majority Text. We can be angry, and yet not sin. Eph 4v26. In 2Cor 12v20, Paul states his fear that he would find outbursts of anger in the church at Corinth, along with other works of the flesh. Paul warns them that violent outbursts of "thumos" anger and bitter smouldering "orge" anger, injure the weak and innocent, and destroy homes and churches.

I see.

Okay let's tease this out a bit,

Do you think that Jesus as the Messiah always had perfect righteous anger?
I think He did.
However, my concern is that jealousy is a human emotion as well, God states He is a jealous God, however are we allowed to be jealous?

This has has been an unresolved question in my mind over the years.

I am thinking and I am now of the mind that human anger is part of the flesh and should be regarded as part of our fallen nature.

Having said this anger is an important survival emotion in certain situations, so I dunno if it always a sin.

“Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil” (Eph. 4:26-27).

So it seems there is a line that can be crossed.

There’s definitely a line that can be crossed, specifically when anger inflicts pain, be it physical, spiritual, emotional, financial, social and maybe a few other ways that don’t come to mind right now

Odd isn't it?
You are driving down in the bad areas of town, where people are lost, trapped, deceived, high on smack, trying to escape their present reality. Anywhere from 15 year old children, YOUNGER, to grown old adults, abducted into a life that our Adversary prepared for them. Now, I don't know about you, but, if it were Possible, I'd love for God to allow me to Physically Assault the Enemy of God. Beat em right up to just before the very breathe of life left them.

I think about Abortions, the types of Sin, things our Society has Legalized as Normal, and so much more. Someone, deserves, a real butt whooping. I know God will give it, but, how SWEET would it be, if God's plan, to whoop them, included, my fists obliterating them

Anger. Frustration. Irritation.


We all feel it from time to time. Sometime it just explodes at our kids, our spouse, our co-workers and we wonder if there’s something dark lurking inside us.

Anger doesn’t have to run or ruin your life. In fact, if you learn to manage anger correctly it can give insight into areas of your life where you're living short of all God intends for you.

The thing you probably want answered first is, “Why do I get so angry?”

The simple answer is: You get angry because you have some hopes and dreams for yourself and your family, but all around you are threats to those dreams.

When you get angry at something happening to you, it’s always because of something happening inside you. Anger isn’t a sin. It’s just a sign. It’s a sign that one of your hopes and dreams is being threatened.

There are three specific hopes and dreams that we all have. We want:

1. Security: (physical, financial, emotionally)
2. Connection: (relationships, feeling valued and accepted)
3. Control: (feeling empowered to make choices and have options)

We get angry when we feel one of those three is being threatened.

When you start feeling that threat, your brain energy shifts away from your prefrontal cortex (the problem-solving part of your brain.) At that point, all rational and reasonable thought basically shuts down. So we have to step away, take a deep breath, calm down, and get thinking straight again.

Take a moment right now and think about practical and healthy ways you can calm yourself down when you get angry or irritated things like prayer, breathing deeply, or taking a walk so you respond in a way that doesn't turn your anger into sin.


When you start feeling angry, read your favorite verses a few times, then calm yourself down in a healthy way.


God bless you all

Thanks