Hi I had a question I saw in one of the threads that you posted a link and someone was being in my opinion rude and said somthing like wow a seven word answer you should be president or prime minister and then after you explained they " once again in my opinion insulted God" by critisising what God Himself has said is justice my question is how you remained calm and answered him with out anger I have very bad anger problems my biggest thing is I hate being asked questions a lot because I have a hard time understanding things I am not as smart as other people and I am reactive
Nobody's perfect.
That's common with teenagers. It's a weird and emotional time in life. Sometimes it's just easy for anyone to misunderstand, especially when you're young. An example might be like when a parent asks about something in school. They may be sincerely interested out of love. They could also be trying to figure out if there's an area where they can help. Perhaps it's just small talk because they want to have a simple conversation to connect with their kids. Those things are hard to interpret, especially at your age. The common thing that happens is the teen gets angry because they think they are being judged, or because they don't want to feel hurt. Then they withdraw from the parent and bring an emotional division that's not necessary. That can get ingrained and become a habit.
I'm not saying that this is your challenge. I just gave a common example that I have seen in others that maybe makes sense. Whatever the case, there are ways to get past anger and get control of emotions rather than letting them control us. We all struggle at times.
I even catch myself speaking in ways online here that I later reconsider and regret. It might be late, and I'm tired, so I will feel different than on a lunch break. Low blood sugar from missing a meal, having a bad day and many other things can affect our moods.
You sound like an intelligent young man.
From the short time I've read your posts on here, you seem smarter than a number of others who I see through the week.
The main thing right now is that you already realize that you don't want to be reactive to others. That's a great place to start.
I would plead with God for His help as often as you think about it. Listening to good preaching and Bible reading helps. Proverbs is a place I would read each day. At one per day, you'll be through the book in a month, grow in wisdom and improve with the Lord's help. It happens a little at a time.
