I've been depressed for the last two days. I think I need a therapist. I'm starting to just not care about anything anymore. I've been hurt svd rejected once too many times.
I don't have all the details other than that which you provided, so this will be short and hopefully helpful. Do the following and at best it will be and at worst it will do no harm.
1. Get the focus OFF of yourself and ON the Lord and on helping others.
A. Read the Psalms every morning and the gospel of John each evening. One or more chapters of each and mark it on your calendar as a completed daily goal.
B. Don't focus on your sister or whatever you are upset over. It won't change them or the situation. It'll only make it harder on you and paralyze your ability to be all that God wants you to be and do. OK, you know she's done wrong and is a hopeless cause. However, it sounds like you care about your nephew. How many nephews would want an uncle to be a positive role model or mentor in their lives?
I know I did. I regret that it wasn't sooner in life. He's a kid, so he won't initiate it. YOU must be the adult and leader by offering that which your sister will never do, even if you never talk again to her. Get the nephew OFF the video games and doing adult masculine stuff like going to all the gyms in your area. Call ahead and make a list of those who offer a free guest try out session. It might be a week. Go to those and spot for each other. Lift weights after warm ups. Push him to the limit. You both will feel better and forget about the motherly put downs. Martial arts schools sometimes offer freebies as a way to try to see if you like it too. I've given away more free classes than you'd believe.
2. Sit down with a lunch and a notebook.
Have him write his accomplishments and any jobs he's worked, even if volunteer tasks at school. If he was a coaches assistant or library aid, he needs to list names. He needs to call his school teachers, previous bosses and get permission to use as references. He needs all the contact info they want to provide along with their titles and brief job descriptions. Then you don't leave it there. You ask him questions about the things he hasn't considered. Skills he gained in shop. Equipment experience and projects he's accomplished. If he's had none, then YOU can provide that experience in your own shop or whatever you are good at. He then needs a format from the internet to develop a good resume' . Plug in his information and put it on a thumb drive. Call him at least twice a week and pray for him and with him. You lead in prayer and pick him up to get him active in the goals you help him set. Keep it all positive and Eventually it might turn into a routine.
3. You said something about court and tickets. You can coach him on how you would handle it. He SHOULD fight them and try to negotiate them down with the judge. It will be frustrating, but that's the system. It's probably just expired stickers or something. If its things that endangered anyone, you aught to hold him very accountable since it may get worse and be more than a hearing in the future. He should ask after the verdict if he can pay a small amount and then payments after he can find a job and put aside enough after his paychecks start coming in. He needs to tell him that he's a broke teen and in highschool. He might find a minimum wage position.
4. Help him with the adult support of a good uncle and he will be less likely to hang out with the riff raff his age or get discouraged.
Work out together THREE times per week. Don't buy junk like soft drinks. Those are for soy boys who want to stay flabby.
Drink water and throw veggies and fruit in a blender for smoothies for you guys. Teach him skills that will help him in life. The highschool will teach calculus, but not how to balance a check book or run a business.
5. If it were ME that were depressed, I'd take a good quality multiple vitamin and Eat avocados with a healthy dose of vitamin D3 daily for starts. Many people find that mega B complex of a quality company does them good. I don't know anything about you, so I will not suggest what you should do health wise, not do I assume any responsibility.
I left a list of things that would help me if I were depressed and look forward to hearing from you.
To your health and happiness!
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