What's your love language?

Love is indeed. Thank God for love! Thank God for his unconditional love towards us.
I pray we all get our hearts desires in Jesus name, Amen

I see, yeah

So true.

totallty wrong. i do not want things done for me . nor have i ever been interested in receiving gifts.
never assume that everyone in the world is the same as you.

i feel loved the most when i get to touch and spend time with a person.

That is the thing with the love languages. we need to know what the one we love needs feeding more in. and help them learn what we need more of.

my love language towards others is ACT OF SERVICE that’s my way of showing I love them
hmmm…I feel loved when spending quality time with me 😅😅😅

If you say so.

The problem with the "love language" thing is that it is very SELFish and SELF centered "oh! You didn't show love to me in MY love language, so you must not love me!"

The love language thing is about knowing yourself and knowing your partner (and or other people). Sure selfish people can use it selfishly, but that doesn't make it a bad idea. In fact a lot of it is about paying attention and adapting to someone else's preferences so that it's easier for them to believe you love them.

Examples:

Couple at church that I slipped a card with gift inside to the husband, he didn't open it immediately and when he thanked me later he explained that his wife loved opening things so he always waited for her to open any letters or gifts. Quite likely one of her love languages was gifts.

A friend who started feeling like she was losing it because she was visiting her unreciprocated crush and he wasn't spending all that much time with her. We talked and I kind of pointed out that it wasn't that she was so hopelessly in love with this guy as that she was feeling lonely and unloved because no one was spending quality time with her.

My brother's ex seemed to be gifts gone bad.... to the point that I think I said of her "in her mind, how much money you spend on her is directly proportional to how much you love her"

Me. Quality time is my main love language. You can say nice things about me; spend yourself into debt to give me the fanciest gifts; spend all your time doing stuff for me so I don't have to lift a finger; or give me a quick hug every time you see me. But if you're not spending time with me, I'm not going to think I'm very important to you.

For all the people who took me seriously: I was joking. I thought the was enough indication that I was not being serious.

Jimmy didn't listen
No, he didn't
His friends warned him
But he thought they must be kidding
Jimmy fell in love
Like he never had before
For every kiss he gets
She takes him to the store

- Lou Bega
"Most Expensive Girl in the World."

I’d like to say that just because gift are my love language doesn’t mean I want lots of money spent on me. The thought really does count. I love handmade things like cards and letters. Not everyone needs money or expensive stuff to be happy.

How about sacrificing your life on a cross?

lets see

touch...hands nailed - when Jesus touched anyone they were healed instantly
acts of service...it was totally an act of service...otherwise all of Israel could have been destroyed!
words of affirmation...love one another as God has loved you..the whole Words of Jesus in the Bible is an affirmation
Gifts...didnt Jesus give us the gift of the Holy Spirit?
Quality time....we get to spend ETERNITY with Him

Got the whole package...the Love of God He gave us his only begotten son so that we will not perish but have eternal life.

If you actually Read the book it teaches that Both members of the relationship should learn and adapt to expressing themselves so the Other person's natural and innate understanding of how love is expressed is met.
It is about knowing what you need (which is not selfish) as well as knowing what your partner needs and making adjustments so you fill those needs.

Christians have this false notion that anything that in any way indicates a person is taking care of themselves or wanting or needing something for themselves it is automatically, by default, selfish and sinful. Even Jesus himself recognized his own needs and took action to ensure his needs were met.

A truly selfish act is not one where a person acts in their own self interest, but one where a person Only acts in their own self interest, to the neglect or detriment of another.

Well put.

YES! Thank you! 👏👏👏👏👏

I have forced myself to read through it, as well as several of the other books within the series.
I don't care what some humanistic book teaches.
This is NOT scriptural, it is NOT what the Bible teaches.

The Bible says in Mark 12:31 “Love your neighbor as you love yourself”
Which means God assumes that we love ourselves in other to love others.
Would you say that is selfish as well?

I do say so

The books are quite american so give american centric examples
As a lot of popular christian literature seems to be...

In other cultures, the way people show love, aroha, or agape is through kindness and hospitality. Many do this through food!

so instead of touch its taste lol

I think it was Shakespeare that said if music be the food of love...play on

A love song can be heard and translated into any langauge...the melody and the emotion will be there as it comes from the heart