What Kind of Husband Do You Want?

This perhaps is the moral of many of these stories. Stop looking for younger women in other countries to marry. Blame the woman ,but sorry have heard this over and over. Lust is the biggest factor of many of these men's issues. Plus I have seen some of these men treat them horrible as if they are their property. The women in the US may have their issues but will not tolerate being mistreated. I find no humor either way. I am disturbed if people think they all turn on the men because the poor guy was just being a husband and they wanted their own way. We are to be treated as equal in God's eyes. But some men take it that we are to be property and have no say. SMH

The Lord has blessed me with a wonderful husband

This perhaps is the moral of many of these stories. Stop looking for younger women in other countries to marry. Blame the woman ,but sorry have heard this over and over. Lust is the biggest factor of many of these men's issues. Plus I have seen some of these men treat them horrible as if they are their property. The women in the US may have their issues but will not tolerate being mistreated. I find no humor either way. I am disturbed if people think they all turn on the men because the poor guy was just being a husband and they wanted their own way. We are to be treated as equal in God's eyes. But some men take it that we are to be property and have no say. SMH

I am doing what God has laid on my heart. Everyone's walk is different. God bless.

I try to resist the ignore feature here, as that's just too easy. I think it's a failing of internet "relationships", this ability to just silence someone when they cease to please. Could never do that in real life -- instead, you're forced to cope with them or make a big move to avoid the people in question.

In church, e.g., you meet disagreeable people. The Bible says that we are to love them anyway. I don't know how to do that, but I do know that cutting them out of my life totally is not (necessarily) the answer.

However, there does come a point when it becomes necessary, IMO. I have blocked a few here. A few more are dangerously close, but I'm going to see if there is any shot at a detente or at least our letting each other alone.

Umm... I cannot follow every post. Would you be good enough to define the term "bad boy"? I don't mean every conceivable definition, just how you're applying it to yourself.

Your post reminds me of a conversation.
I heard an Asian lady brag to a group how her husband was a great man, he brought her to America and they had a content and happy marriage. She filled the role of what used to be the traditional wife, not only in her country, but unknown to her, her new land as far as christian women who want to model their lives after the Bible roles.
Then she had American friends who taught her how to be an "American" woman. Now she is proud and liberated!"
She continued to brag over and again how sassy she is and puts her husband in his place, etc. From her long diatribe she no longer had a happy marriage, BUT she felt very good (proud) about no longer being a meek asian woman, but a bold and loud American who speaks her mind, that happens to have adopted the secular cultural norms.

BTW, this chapter about queen jezebel makes me laugh every time I read it.!

https://thekingjamesversionbible.com/2-kings-9-30-37
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This perhaps is the moral of many of these stories. Stop looking for younger women in other countries to marry. Blame the woman ,but sorry have heard this over and over. Lust is the biggest factor of many of these men's issues. Plus I have seen some of these men treat them horrible as if they are their property. The women in the US may have their issues but will not tolerate being mistreated. I find no humor either way. I am disturbed if people think they all turn on the men because the poor guy was just being a husband and they wanted their own way. We are to be treated as equal in God's eyes. But some men take it that we are to be property and have no say. SMH

I tried not to single anyone out but there were a few of them that seem to have a gripe with you and your threads, and an even bigger gripe that you have put them on ignore. So I had to name a couple. Its childish and I wish people didnt need to be attention seeking like that. They dont even realise they are proving there is a wall of hostility But anyway....

I agree with you on the discernment. Roughsoul1991 also posted a thread about comfort versus growth which I find is needed even on this site. And Im never gonna say Im perfect, far from it but I know I need correction and I know I need humility (among other things) A work in progress as they say but if it brings me closer to God then I can do it.

Yup, lust and promiscuity is a problem with women as with men. It causes damage to their future marriages and many parents care less or they would raise their children differently in my area.

As to the Asian lady, I don't recall her saying anything about being mistreated..
Is that the reason so many feminist men and women turn to the wretched western norms that have led to so many broken families?
Guess what, I was mistreated by women.
I was harmed. Physical abuse and other assorted evils isn't a guy thing. It's a sin thing that happens more than many realize.
I never turned into a Gloria Steinem type feminist as a result. Nor did I take up the abusive cultural norms of several middle eastern countries. Most Bible believers I knew didn't either. As to helping women deal appropriately with violence, perhaps I know a little about that.
American and foreign women and men fail to think and act as God desires them too.
They need to believe the gospel and have their minds renewed by the Scriptures constantly, or they won't become marriage material regardless of the country of birth.
Thank you for your opinion.
Feel free to disagree but that's my sincere opinion.

Now that I'm done laughing... I'm a believer in total depravity myself...

Helps to refuse to feed that side.

You're "a believer in total depravity"? Do you mean you believe that all people have a carnal nature that's totally depraved, sinful, and evil? If that's what you meant, then you're not in denial because, like corrupted cologne or perfume, it comes off of everyone every day.

It happens every day. Crazy women talk to somewhat sane women and stimulate the latent crazy in them. Then they ride on horses, decrying men until they're in their late 30s to 40s, alone with cats and still blaming men. If all such women keeled over and there were no women left on the planet, I would miss nothing at all. I can't do crazy (ie. irrational x 2+). Interacting or relating with someone who is willing to poke holes in your boat and drown both of you is a total deal-breaker.

Same here.
A couple of episodes they were trying to poke holes in my chest with a kitchen knife.
I've never been so grateful for knife disarming technique Psalm #144:1.
You think you know someone until that happens out of the blue. I'm glad that all redheads aren't violent banshees.

I don't hestitate to cut certain things out of my life. If someone a.) is arguing rather than discussing, b.) is being disagreeable rather than simply disagreeing, c.) is being passive-aggressive, or d.) is trying to manipulate me and wend those invisible tendrils of their soul down into mine-- usually with very subtle words-- then they're dead to me. Forever. Unless God tells me otherwise. It's how I view people and things that unnecessarily (not unwittingly) get in my way. Move, you loser. Lol. Just being honest.

There are people I would-- if given the position of judge and the authority to do it-- put in solitary confinement in a single-occupant prison cell on a small island with enough food for three years and zero human contact. Then we'll leave the outcome to fate. But these are your antisocial 'disorders' (ie. having extreme feelings of hostility towards all humans).

I encourage people who want to block me to do it (the sooner the better). I'm not concerned about them, so they shouldn't be concerned about me.

I don't want to apply anything to myself. I let people discern things for themselves just like I trust my own discernment. Who am I qualifying myself for? Do you see some value here that I don't, value that I'd need to qualify myself to? If ever I felt the need to qualify myself to a human being, I would hate myself (like people do who are pressured or love to qualify themselves to others), and I could not be happy.

But 'bad boy' as I used it is a male who is not governed by the restrictive thoughts and opinions of others or society. Be nice, be romantic, be this, be that. How about no? Lol. Males who succumb to 'nice' are always losing. Even when they win, they're losing because they're not in touch with their masculine nature.

By the way, David's Mighty Men were 'bad boys' not nice guys. If they were nice, forget it. They wouldn't even like David, and David wouldn't like them, so there would be no 'David's Mighty Men'. Jesus also chose 'bad boys' (at least several of them) as His apostles including Levi, a Jewish traitor the Jews (in coming days, the religious world will be surprised at the people Jesus chooses to do the work everyone else is scared poopless of doing). If Jesus chose nice guys as apostles, they would've jumped ship as soon as they realized that the religious leaders didn't like Him. Right? When Jesus first selected Peter, Peter's response shows a lot of what God is seeking for Kingdom service or, better said, labor:

"When Simon Peter saw [the miracle Jesus did], he fell at the feet of Jesus and said, 'Leave me, oh Lord, for I am a sinful man'" (Luke 5:8).

Responded in the other thread. I never got the CC notice in my e-mail that someone had responded. But, thanks for explaining

You never asked me about my screen ID

What song? I don't see a song or link.

Also, I read your response. Why is your name Jackieboy?

Hey there,
I've been away briefly and did not get the chance to respond before now. So, what is your username about or what does it represent?