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Yes, you can, that's certain. The devil always give us another path. But those women won't care about you, they will use you and move on to the next man. They will cause you to sin. I don't think you want to do that. Do you have a good church to go to? Or more than one church you could visit in your area? God wants the best for you, I hope you will wait on Him.
Taken in context:
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2Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
In a nutshell, it means; if you are single and so attracted to the opposite sex that celibacy is not something you could handle, then marry "your own" spouse for those type purposes. (forsaking all others, til death do us part, as long as ye both shall live etc.) When you do that, sexual relations are expected (due benevolence) because you now belong to the wifey and she belongs to hubby. Don't "defraud" your hubby or wifey out of what belongs to them. Example: Intentionally using "I've got a headache" (or some other lame excuse like "NO") night after night. Sure, if you are really exhausted, on your cycle or hubby is just worn slam out, then yeah, be nice and give the other spouse a break " for a time" after a loving agreement to that effect. Fasting and prayer will help if you two get on serious "outs" with each other but get it right ASAP and stop being jerks. Because, if you keep on being "frigid" or "sexless", then you are defrauding(that means to CHEAT) and that is opening the door for temptation outside the marriage. Very important passage for a happy home, that 1 Corinthians 7
1 Corinthians7
2Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
In a nutshell, it means; if you are single and so attracted to the opposite sex that celibacy is not something you could handle, then marry "your own" spouse for those type purposes. (forsaking all others, til death do us part, as long as ye both shall live etc.) When you do that, sexual relations are expected (due benevolence) because you now belong to the wifey and she belongs to hubby. Don't "defraud" your hubby or wifey out of what belongs to them. Example: Intentionally using "I've got a headache" (or some other lame excuse like "NO") night after night. Sure, if you are really exhausted, on your cycle or hubby is just worn slam out, then yeah, be nice and give the other spouse a break " for a time" after a loving agreement to that effect. Fasting and prayer will help if you two get on serious "outs" with each other but get it right ASAP and stop being jerks. Because, if you keep on being "frigid" or "sexless", then you are defrauding(that means to CHEAT) and that is opening the door for temptation outside the marriage. Very important passage for a happy home, that 1 Corinthians 7
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here is what I think Paul is saying. To do that we must read above and below that part of the passage 
1cor 7:1-6
1. Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me:
It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment.
Cause and effect.
because of sexual immorality that was an issue there to which Paul answers their concerns:.\
Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me:
Paul says IT IS not good to touch a woman who is an unmarried woman or man because of sexual immorality. Paul says let each man and woman be married NO shacking up. Corinth was a very sexually immoral place.
Paul is saying get married BUT husband renders to his wife the affection or benevolence kjv.
before Paul ever mentions about Do not deprive one another.
respect and kindness must be shown to each other. That part of scripture is not thrown out the window just because the husband wants to "get it on".( translation from CS1 ). Paul doesn't address many things BUT showing kindness can be applied to :
Self-control is out the window because you want to get it on?
Paul finally says :
But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.
For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
the problem with sex in a Christian marriage today and for many years is WE bring other things into our bedroom chamber.
Hebrews 13:4
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Don't defile it. talk to your wife and husband and tell them what you are thinking. don't ever talk to other women about your wife or men about your husband. Never tell the opposite sex your wife or husband's weaknesses.
Forcing one to have sex because they are your husband and wife is not loving or sexual it is abuse and a lack of self-control.
1cor 7:1-6
1. Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me:
It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 4The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 But I say this as a concession, not as a commandment.
Cause and effect.
because of sexual immorality that was an issue there to which Paul answers their concerns:.\
Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me:
Paul says IT IS not good to touch a woman who is an unmarried woman or man because of sexual immorality. Paul says let each man and woman be married NO shacking up. Corinth was a very sexually immoral place.
Paul is saying get married BUT husband renders to his wife the affection or benevolence kjv.
before Paul ever mentions about Do not deprive one another.
respect and kindness must be shown to each other. That part of scripture is not thrown out the window just because the husband wants to "get it on".( translation from CS1 )
. Paul doesn't address many things BUT showing kindness can be applied to :- women medical concerns
- the man's medical issues
- many other things that both are to Show Kindness
Self-control is out the window because you want to get it on?
Paul finally says :
But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.
For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
the problem with sex in a Christian marriage today and for many years is WE bring other things into our bedroom chamber.
Hebrews 13:4
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
Don't defile it. talk to your wife and husband and tell them what you are thinking. don't ever talk to other women about your wife or men about your husband. Never tell the opposite sex your wife or husband's weaknesses.
Forcing one to have sex because they are your husband and wife is not loving or sexual it is abuse and a lack of self-control.
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Thanks for the responses, they were informative and mature. But things blew up so badly, got so vulgar that I think this topic needs to be left alone. I'm sure everyone will pick a side, but trust me, I am in no need to seek sordid details of anyone's sex life. I'm newly married, under 10 yrs, and hardly need a play by play in anyone's sex life. This was meant to be mature and helpful, informative. But apparently no one is adult enough to handle the subject at CC. So let's call it a day and shut the book on this one. Thanks for those who were mature enough to respond sincerely.
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One needs to be happy as a single to be happy as a couple. Otherwise you are place way too much pressure on the other person to make you happy. So because they are happy being single is what makes them dateable. Those are the ones you want to find, but on the flip side they are also looking for or expecting to meet a man who is happy as a single also, not someone expecting them to fulfill some need in them.
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