Seemingly different spouses

My mom was more outgoing, by far, about her faith, both verbally and action-wise. I always thought my dad should be more the spiritual leader, but he wasn't. Both would go to church though, just different ones.

Now I feel like I am in the same situation myself, where I get "ga ga" about spiritual things, musically, Bible reading, spiritual book-reading, speakers, workshops, basically anything. My spouse doesn't. Sometimes it seems to be a time-related thing, but other than that I think the most spiritual anything for (spouse) is going to church (will put some other things ahead of church) and claiming to pray and pay attention/think about the messages at church. But at church (spouse) is basically reactionless, and it concerns me many a time, but has sounded defensive when asked about the seemingly lack of interest in it.

When I want to attend, join, or take an interest in something spiritual outside of church I feel alone in it, because I never see much enthusiasm about such things on (spouse's ) part. If (spouse has to miss some services I don't see him/her seeking to find out what they missed It puts a damper on me and I have a hard time wanting to express myself. I go head over heels in love with a particular type music, but I think (spouse) doesn't get into music --maybe because raised in a not-so-musical family?

People of the opposite gender or who I see living more outspoken and active in their faith get to looking appealing, yet make me sad that my spouse "can't " be like that too. I often feel unequally yoked.

If anybody else has been in my position and been able to overcome the lonely, quasi-unequally-yoked feeling, and managed to view your spouse with a more loving and accepting lense, to where you can be yourself in how you worship, please let me know.

We can't change ourselves, so how can we change someone else?

Well the good news is that your husband is actually more spiritual than you are.

If anybody else has been in my position and been able to overcome the lonely, quasi-unequally-yoked feeling, and managed to view your spouse with a more loving and accepting lense,

My mom was more outgoing, by far, about her faith, both verbally and action-wise. I always thought my dad should be more the spiritual leader, but he wasn't. Both would go to church though, just different ones.

Now I feel like I am in the same situation myself, where I get "ga ga" about spiritual things, musically, Bible reading, spiritual book-reading, speakers, workshops, basically anything. My spouse doesn't. Sometimes it seems to be a time-related thing, but other than that I think the most spiritual anything for (spouse) is going to church (will put some other things ahead of church) and claiming to pray and pay attention/think about the messages at church. But at church (spouse) is basically reactionless, and it concerns me many a time, but has sounded defensive when asked about the seemingly lack of interest in it.

When I want to attend, join, or take an interest in something spiritual outside of church I feel alone in it, because I never see much enthusiasm about such things on (spouse's ) part. If (spouse has to miss some services I don't see him/her seeking to find out what they missed It puts a damper on me and I have a hard time wanting to express myself. I go head over heels in love with a particular type music, but I think (spouse) doesn't get into music --maybe because raised in a not-so-musical family?

People of the opposite gender or who I see living more outspoken and active in their faith get to looking appealing, yet make me sad that my spouse "can't " be like that too. I often feel unequally yoked.

If anybody else has been in my position and been able to overcome the lonely, quasi-unequally-yoked feeling, and managed to view your spouse with a more loving and accepting lense, to where you can be yourself in how you worship, please let me know.

My mom was more outgoing, by far, about her faith, both verbally and action-wise. I always thought my dad should be more the spiritual leader, but he wasn't. Both would go to church though, just different ones.

Now I feel like I am in the same situation myself, where I get "ga ga" about spiritual things, musically, Bible reading, spiritual book-reading, speakers, workshops, basically anything. My spouse doesn't. Sometimes it seems to be a time-related thing, but other than that I think the most spiritual anything for (spouse) is going to church (will put some other things ahead of church) and claiming to pray and pay attention/think about the messages at church. But at church (spouse) is basically reactionless, and it concerns me many a time, but has sounded defensive when asked about the seemingly lack of interest in it.

When I want to attend, join, or take an interest in something spiritual outside of church I feel alone in it, because I never see much enthusiasm about such things on (spouse's ) part. If (spouse has to miss some services I don't see him/her seeking to find out what they missed It puts a damper on me and I have a hard time wanting to express myself. I go head over heels in love with a particular type music, but I think (spouse) doesn't get into music --maybe because raised in a not-so-musical family?

People of the opposite gender or who I see living more outspoken and active in their faith get to looking appealing, yet make me sad that my spouse "can't " be like that too. I often feel unequally yoked.

If anybody else has been in my position and been able to overcome the lonely, quasi-unequally-yoked feeling, and managed to view your spouse with a more loving and accepting lense, to where you can be yourself in how you worship, please let me know.

Wow, you either have a rare talent or a heavy burden, maybe both.
I remember reading somewhere in scripture about the dangers of judging others.

My mom was more outgoing, by far, about her faith, both verbally and action-wise. I always thought my dad should be more the spiritual leader, but he wasn't. Both would go to church though, just different ones.

Now I feel like I am in the same situation myself, where I get "ga ga" about spiritual things, musically, Bible reading, spiritual book-reading, speakers, workshops, basically anything. My spouse doesn't. Sometimes it seems to be a time-related thing, but other than that I think the most spiritual anything for (spouse) is going to church (will put some other things ahead of church) and claiming to pray and pay attention/think about the messages at church. But at church (spouse) is basically reactionless, and it concerns me many a time, but has sounded defensive when asked about the seemingly lack of interest in it.

When I want to attend, join, or take an interest in something spiritual outside of church I feel alone in it, because I never see much enthusiasm about such things on (spouse's ) part. If (spouse has to miss some services I don't see him/her seeking to find out what they missed It puts a damper on me and I have a hard time wanting to express myself. I go head over heels in love with a particular type music, but I think (spouse) doesn't get into music --maybe because raised in a not-so-musical family?

People of the opposite gender or who I see living more outspoken and active in their faith get to looking appealing, yet make me sad that my spouse "can't " be like that too. I often feel unequally yoked.

If anybody else has been in my position and been able to overcome the lonely, quasi-unequally-yoked feeling, and managed to view your spouse with a more loving and accepting lense, to where you can be yourself in how you worship, please let me know.

My mom was more outgoing, by far, about her faith, both verbally and action-wise. I always thought my dad should be more the spiritual leader, but he wasn't. Both would go to church though, just different ones.

Now I feel like I am in the same situation myself, where I get "ga ga" about spiritual things, musically, Bible reading, spiritual book-reading, speakers, workshops, basically anything. My spouse doesn't. Sometimes it seems to be a time-related thing, but other than that I think the most spiritual anything for (spouse) is going to church (will put some other things ahead of church) and claiming to pray and pay attention/think about the messages at church. But at church (spouse) is basically reactionless, and it concerns me many a time, but has sounded defensive when asked about the seemingly lack of interest in it.

When I want to attend, join, or take an interest in something spiritual outside of church I feel alone in it, because I never see much enthusiasm about such things on (spouse's ) part. If (spouse has to miss some services I don't see him/her seeking to find out what they missed It puts a damper on me and I have a hard time wanting to express myself. I go head over heels in love with a particular type music, but I think (spouse) doesn't get into music --maybe because raised in a not-so-musical family?

People of the opposite gender or who I see living more outspoken and active in their faith get to looking appealing, yet make me sad that my spouse "can't " be like that too. I often feel unequally yoked.

If anybody else has been in my position and been able to overcome the lonely, quasi-unequally-yoked feeling, and managed to view your spouse with a more loving and accepting lense, to where you can be yourself in how you worship, please let me know.

I learned something the hard way after much struggle, anguish, and tears: you can't change people. You either accept them for who they are or you don't. Given your situation of being married, you should probably try to change your mind about this and just accept that your spouse is who they are and try to love them and support them. Being energetic and happy about spiritual things isn't really a requirement so I hope that helps you accept their low-energy.

Yes, in my opinion, being spiritual is about exuding Christ like behaviour. As near as I can tell, Jesus confined His lifestyle, and His demeanour to being like His Father, our Creator, would expect of Him. He went about His business without fanfare, but quietly and with the single minded purpose of only doing what His Father wanted Him to do, not what anyone else expected Him to do. 🙂

Could it be God gave you the style of spouse you needed to keep you on a level keel? A counter balance , The husband in a Christian marriage is the head of the home. Do you not trust what God has given you?

Well the good news is that your husband is actually more spiritual than you are.

The bad news is that by you going behind his back to talk about him and these issues, and women leading in this church, that's actually pretty evil and indicative that the church you go to is in service to Satan and not my God, the Lord Jesus Christ. For how can a church claim to be a fortress of my God when they openly defy my God's commands and my God's Way? Did not the jews do this thing in the days of the Prophets going to their temple and singing songs and making long prayers and superficial shows to my God? My God said he hated them and he hated these things and he wiped them out wholly; men, women, and children, by the Sword and turned their church into a ruinous heap of rubble so that these inferior churches may know that there is a God and they are far less in significance to him than that temple. How much easier God will cast these churches off and throw them down!

Returning to the good news here though, since you have a husband and since he is more spiritual than you can ever be, the Lord Jesus Christ already prescribed through Paul how to fix your situation. The fix is very simple, you will tell your husband everything and you will show him everything, you will show him this post of errors you have written against him, and he will decide what is right about this situation. Whatsoever your husband decides to do on this matter will be spiritually correct and he is to be revered by his wife because he is the image of God and he is the spiritual authority that God ordained, not the woman.

My mom was more outgoing, by far, about her faith, both verbally and action-wise. I always thought my dad should be more the spiritual leader, but he wasn't. Both would go to church though, just different ones.

Now I feel like I am in the same situation myself, where I get "ga ga" about spiritual things, musically, Bible reading, spiritual book-reading, speakers, workshops, basically anything. My spouse doesn't. Sometimes it seems to be a time-related thing, but other than that I think the most spiritual anything for (spouse) is going to church (will put some other things ahead of church) and claiming to pray and pay attention/think about the messages at church. But at church (spouse) is basically reactionless, and it concerns me many a time, but has sounded defensive when asked about the seemingly lack of interest in it.

When I want to attend, join, or take an interest in something spiritual outside of church I feel alone in it, because I never see much enthusiasm about such things on (spouse's ) part. If (spouse has to miss some services I don't see him/her seeking to find out what they missed It puts a damper on me and I have a hard time wanting to express myself. I go head over heels in love with a particular type music, but I think (spouse) doesn't get into music --maybe because raised in a not-so-musical family?

People of the opposite gender or who I see living more outspoken and active in their faith get to looking appealing, yet make me sad that my spouse "can't " be like that too. I often feel unequally yoked.

If anybody else has been in my position and been able to overcome the lonely, quasi-unequally-yoked feeling, and managed to view your spouse with a more loving and accepting lense, to where you can be yourself in how you worship, please let me know.

The husband is the head of the home. The wife is the heart of the home. It takes both to make a complete home.

My mom was more outgoing, by far, about her faith, both verbally and action-wise. I always thought my dad should be more the spiritual leader, but he wasn't. Both would go to church though, just different ones.

Now I feel like I am in the same situation myself, where I get "ga ga" about spiritual things, musically, Bible reading, spiritual book-reading, speakers, workshops, basically anything. My spouse doesn't. Sometimes it seems to be a time-related thing, but other than that I think the most spiritual anything for (spouse) is going to church (will put some other things ahead of church) and claiming to pray and pay attention/think about the messages at church. But at church (spouse) is basically reactionless, and it concerns me many a time, but has sounded defensive when asked about the seemingly lack of interest in it.

When I want to attend, join, or take an interest in something spiritual outside of church I feel alone in it, because I never see much enthusiasm about such things on (spouse's ) part. If (spouse has to miss some services I don't see him/her seeking to find out what they missed It puts a damper on me and I have a hard time wanting to express myself. I go head over heels in love with a particular type music, but I think (spouse) doesn't get into music --maybe because raised in a not-so-musical family?

People of the opposite gender or who I see living more outspoken and active in their faith get to looking appealing, yet make me sad that my spouse "can't " be like that too. I often feel unequally yoked.

If anybody else has been in my position and been able to overcome the lonely, quasi-unequally-yoked feeling, and managed to view your spouse with a more loving and accepting lense, to where you can be yourself in how you worship, please let me know.

Well the good news is that your husband is actually more spiritual than you are.

The bad news is that by you going behind his back to talk about him and these issues, and women leading in this church, that's actually pretty evil and indicative that the church you go to is in service to Satan and not my God, the Lord Jesus Christ. For how can a church claim to be a fortress of my God when they openly defy my God's commands and my God's Way? Did not the jews do this thing in the days of the Prophets going to their temple and singing songs and making long prayers and superficial shows to my God? My God said he hated them and he hated these things and he wiped them out wholly; men, women, and children, by the Sword and turned their church into a ruinous heap of rubble so that these inferior churches may know that there is a God and they are far less in significance to him than that temple. How much easier God will cast these churches off and throw them down!

Returning to the good news here though, since you have a husband and since he is more spiritual than you can ever be, the Lord Jesus Christ already prescribed through Paul how to fix your situation. The fix is very simple, you will tell your husband everything and you will show him everything, you will show him this post of errors you have written against him, and he will decide what is right about this situation. Whatsoever your husband decides to do on this matter will be spiritually correct and he is to be revered by his wife because he is the image of God and he is the spiritual authority that God ordained, not the woman.