your ex she renounced christianity? and cheated on you?
Yes, and yes.
The short answer is because she ultimately wasn't interested in the type of life that God calls us to. Remember, she was originally engaged to a "prosperity preacher".
Anyhow, in her specific case, it was NEVER a matter of her rebelling against anything that I said to her or did to her (I actually treated her like gold, and if I was to give more details, then that would be rather obvious).
Instead, the Lord repeatedly gave her dreams and visions throughout our marriage which she, in turn, told me about, and she ultimately hated him and his calling. I was basically "collateral damage".
I suppose if you were meant to be married you married but then did God want you to be divorced as well. (though it was your ex that did the divorcing, or was it mutual...Im supposing you had to agree to it otherwise you'd still be married? )
She did the divorcing. I really had no say in the matter. I don't remember all of the exact legal jargon, but I think that if you've lived separately for 2 years or more in Pennsylvania (and we did for the last 2 years), then one party can get the divorce finalized without the consent of the other party.
God hates putting away or divorce (Mal. 2:16),
BUT let's not forget that he procured a divorce himself:
Jeremiah chapter 3
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1] They say, If a man put away his wife, and she go from him, and become another man's, shall he return unto her again? shall not that land be greatly polluted? but thou hast played the harlot with many lovers; yet return again to me, saith the LORD.
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2] Lift up thine eyes unto the high places, and see where thou hast not been lien with. In the ways hast thou sat for them, as the Arabian in the wilderness; and thou hast polluted the land with thy whoredoms and with thy wickedness.
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3] Therefore the showers have been withholden, and there hath been no latter rain; and thou hadst a whore's forehead, thou refusedst to be ashamed.
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4] Wilt thou not from this time cry unto me, My father, thou art the guide of my youth?
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5] Will he reserve his anger for ever? will he keep it to the end? Behold, thou hast spoken and done evil things as thou couldest.
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6] The LORD said also unto me in the days of Josiah the king, Hast thou seen that which backsliding Israel hath done? she is gone up upon every high mountain and under every green tree, and there hath played the harlot.
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7] And I said after she had done all these things, Turn thou unto me. But she returned not. And her treacherous sister Judah saw it.
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And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.
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9] And it came to pass through the lightness of her whoredom, that she defiled the land, and committed adultery with stones and with stocks.
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10] And yet for all this her treacherous sister Judah hath not turned unto me with her whole heart, but feignedly, saith the LORD.
Did God enter into a marriage covenant (Jer. 31:32) with someone who he later divorced?
Yes, as a matter of fact, he did.
What about your children how did they fare while all that drama was going on.
In all honesty, my ex slandered me to our children (and not just to our children) at least hundreds of times, if not literally thousands of times, while we were married (and after our divorce as well). Initially, they believed her because I never defended myself. I did everything that I could do to raise them in a peaceful environment. Anyhow, my children have since figured everything out on their own. I'm extremely close to my three children. They live with their Mom (they used to fluctuate and live part of the time with her, and part of the time with me, but it got difficult for them as far as schooling and other things were concerned), but they only live about 10 minutes away from me. I talk to them every day, and see them all of the time.
They're actually happy that we're divorced...but they definitely side with me now (not that I ever try to drive a wedge between them and their mother because I don't, and never have).
Anyhow, I don't want this particular thread to turn into my autobiography.
Like I said, tourist's comment brought back a lot of memories, so I just chimed in.
I'm certainly NOT here to blast my ex.
We're very amicable/cordial right now, and I pray for her every single day.
Do I believe that there's any real chance of reconciliation?
No, I don't.
She definitely has no desire for that whatsoever.