What is your favorite fruit?

One last thing before I retire for the night... I love mango, the soft, gelatinous, smooth, super-sweet and juicy kind. Secondly, a good ripe cantaloupe.

I'd say it depends on your intentions. Over the years I've messaged women and its been rare any of them were bothered by it.
But I also had a specific reason, other than romantic intentions, to message them. Perhaps a question from something they posted, or to offer advice, when it seemed the thread may not be the best setting.
And after a short greeting I got right to my point. I'd also apologize in advance and let them know it's ok if they don't want to respond.

I think if you're messaging them with romantic intentions that'll be clear and most will shoot you down if you haven't previously established a connection.
On this site, in the past, I know it was common for women to be hit on, even married women. I'm not sure if it's as big of a problem now, but no doubt it still happens.

And a common practice of those guys that used to hit on women all the time was messaging women they never interacted with and giving compliments immediately. That's a big creepy thing to do.

Let connections form naturally in chat or forums then proceed from there. Trying to push anything will be super obvious.

What I meant was, what kind of questions are you asking the women that you don't want to think you are creepy?

This right here is what I was referring to. I didn't mean what questions are you asking here in this thread. What questions are you wanting to ask women when you talk to them?

If you're socially awkward and you deliberately try to strike up a conversation with a woman, with the specific purpose of trying to form a relationship, it WILL set off alarm bells in her head. That's the reason I asked what kind of questions you are asking the ladies.

When people say just be yourself what they usually mean is, quit trying so hard to try to start a relationship with girls, because you look desperate.

I've had a bout of Leviticus lately. I'm reading it and it's the flu. I've read chapters twice and still don't understand. But one thing I know is certain. Christians and Jews are weird. We are a strange lot and meant to be. We are meant by God to separate from the things unholy and unearthly. In Numbers 15 Israelites were meant to wear tassels at each corner of their garments to show who they were and today I think we wear those same tassels in our hearts.

So, I say all that to say this. Yep, @TamLynn is weird. She's unearthly and she's telling the truth. So is @seoulsearch, @Lynx, @cinder and on and on. So I would say (for what it's worth from....you know... me) to respond to a sister or brother in Christ here or elsewhere, do that with tassels banging on your hips.

I'm sounding preachy...... all I'm meaning to say is that by separating yourself, by being one of God's own, gives power to your hand when you write, and voice to speech. Pretty much regardless of what is read and heard and regardless of inspiration. It is YOU.

ok. off I go now....

and I meant to include below to reinforce my post.

[QUOTE="TamLynn, post: 4821565, member: 210225"

There really is something to just "being yourself" though." 🙏
I've made several good friends on here by being myself! (And I'm a bit weird...just ask them!)🙌🏼[/QUOTE]

Life is too short to get stressed about such things. Just lay your woman problems at Jesus' feet and leave them there. If He wants you to be a husband, then He will bring the two of you together in His own time and way. Just focus on your relationship with Jesus and you will be fine.

God bless you, dear brother @eXric

GRAPES.

TamLynn, that reminds me, do you have any children, if so, how many? Do you have any new pictures? Why haven't you responded to any of my private messages? Can I get your phone number? (Joking) lol


Fun fact: Pipp is a fruitcake. She will deny it, but it's true. You know I joke! lol


O.k., I started enough trouble, so maybe it's time to add to the topic?



A. Probably depends on how define harassed. I used to be on the chat on CC and remember many woman complaining about private messages from men. Men probably get "harassed" just as much as woman, but don't complain about it normally. It's bad form for guys to complain that woman are interested in them. Plus, woman can do no wrong right?

Good point.

So many beautiful women on CC, so little time.

@Pipp is a tasty dipp.

You are in big trouble now, Pipp is gonna karate chop you! lol

Oyster, I hope things have been good for you. Nice to chat with you stranger.

Chopped Oyster might go well with Pipp dip.

Which of us is stranger?

Magic Computer on the wall.... who's the strangest of them all?

Watermelon.

@Pipp is magical Llama dip.

its more fun to just answer the title question

Feijoa

Please speak of this strange fruit you call 'Feijoa'.

More to the point, does it attract women?

Yes plant two trees in your garden and the women will flock to it

Feijoa also known as pineapple guava, a native to south America but Aucklanders have adopted this fruit as their own. It is currently feijoa season so the trees are literally dripping with fruit, everyday Im out picking them up its like finding little green easter eggs everyday.

You eat them by cutting them in half and scooping out the flesh, sort of like passionfruits except feijoas are fleshy and juicy and no hard seeds.

You can make pies and smoothies and cakes and use them like apples but most people eat them fresh. They are the fruit that keeps on giving.

Looks like you just killed two birds with one pineapple guava!

All questions answered!

This is my second time around here, but I had several strange encounters with women here who private messaged me my first time around.

Without going too deep into the details, those strange encounters included a married woman basically telling me that she wanted me to father her child and a woman asking me to join in joint masturbation with her as we talked dirty to each other. The latter ultimately got banned after I tried unsuccessfully to minister God's word to her (and she was actually in a ministry in her church) and finally reported her because I heavily suspected that she was approaching other men here as well with her tactics.

Anyhow, I'm just mentioning this to let everyone know that "creepy" isn't a one way street.

Speaking of "creepy", it's definitely in the eye of the beholder, and also definitely not always an accurate assessment of one's true character.

At my end, I'm a devout God-fearing man, and there have been several times on this forum, both in my first time here and in my present time here, when simply trying to respectfully minister God's word to a woman here has gotten me wrongly labeled.

A lot of people have baggage, and it's not uncommon to take someone else's bullet, so to speak, or to have somebody else's wrongs projected unto you.

Just keep your focus on God, the true Judge, and if you're doing what is right in his eyes, then you need not worry how someone else will perceive it...and some (many?) will inevitably see it all wrong.

Such is life...

P.S.

Oranges.

I have two every day, but I also love a whole range of other fruits as well (strawberries, grapes, mangos, blueberries, etc., etc.).

Really not a junk food guy.

Not with natural food, and definitely not with spiritual food.