Okay so obviously not all of them hate each other...but a good portion of people online and especially on sites like Reddit and Youtube seem to form these two groups of people: one for men and one for women. A lot of the time the content/posts these groups make are to talk trash about the opposite sex.
For example, MGTOW and Red Pill groups claim that all women are the same and that they shouldn't be trusted because they just want money. Some of these guys advise younger men to not even bother with marriage because the woman usually initiates a divorce and takes the children with her along with his money. Guys in these groups say women over 30 are worthless.
There are women groups like the one above that pretty much say the same thing but of men. Again, they tell young women not to get married or have babies because men don't help with housework or they cannot meet their emotional needs. They sometimes poke fun at men who cannot do things around the house. Women in these groups talk trash about short men.
This type of thinking is toxic and unhealthy but I see it everyday online and sometimes even in person.
Why is this happening? Why are people so angry against the opposite gender? Is there a way to fix this type of thinking?
This is actually the best relationship thread I have seen in the Singles Forum. Seems very honest and true generally.
This is my perspective and may not be agreeable to you, or might even be slightly offensive to some, so feel free to skip this post, if you tend to get upset from a different perspective.
With that said....
Marriage has been failing for some time and the odds are like 50% chance that it will end in divorce.
Approximately 70% of the time divorce is filed by the woman. Also, woman usually get the children on separation, and guess who usually has to pay for child support? Da man! Yeah us! lol Not me, since never walking down that aisle...Nope!
There also a thing called alimony, where a man has to pay an ex-wife, because that's what a man gets for wanting to get married. It is extremely rare that a woman pays alimony or child support to a man, almost unheard of. To top it all, men or going to prison, because sometimes emergencies happen, but that's no excuse in the courts eyes, to not pay for your ex-wife's alimony, and/or children support.
Lets start from the beginning of a relationship, shall we? Guess who is expected to pay for dates? Men. Guess who pays for the wedding ring, engagement ring, and many times the wedding ceremony?!?! Da Man. I believe historically the bride's parents were obligated to pay for the wedding, but that seems hardly true from what I have seen recently.
Also, there used to be a dowry that the woman's parents would give to the husband, to help pay for the kids, and other expenses. That is pretty much is gone. A man's income used to be enough to support a family, but usually both parents have to work to maintain a household, which further increases stress levels. Plus, who is looking after the children, when both parents are working? Public schools, television, internet, and their buddies?!?!
With the rise of feminism, woman are determined to gain equal footing with a men, and not support a men, but rather compete with them. Not just in the work place, but in married life, dating, and etc. Not saying, this is right or wrong, this is just my perspective remember?!?! I have bowed out of relationships and it has been the best thing for my spiritual, mental, physical, emotional, and financial well being. The married life is over rated and single life is under rated. Yes, there are draw backs, but there also positives, many more so in my opinion.
Do woman generally date and marry men who are less financially secure? Not very often. Do woman look for a man who is well off financially, so he can pay for the kids she wants? Is there any doubt? All signs point yes and it seems reasonable for a woman to do so. Now, how often will a woman say, during divorce, that since she didn't have a whole lot before marriage, so she isn't taking anything from the man? Rare or never would be my guess.
Many a woman has figured out that once kids are involved during marriage, it would be much easier to just divorce, take a man's money, home, and she wouldn't have to deal with the married life, and just get to look after her kids. Many, many times this puts the divorced man in the dog house. He can't afford his bills and is far worse financially, than he was before marriage. Often leading to homelessness, depression, and suicide....Not to mention severe bitterness.
Than angry divorced man tells all his friends and family what happened. At first most will scoff and say, this doesn't happen very often, but over time the story keeps ringing true from other divorced men. So, men have realized society has belittled us to a point, where it's better and safer to not even date, or even consider marriage. My neighbor told me his story and it is pretty horrible.
Also, from my perspective, woman generally want to be the leader of the household. So, where does that leave men?!?!
Now that times are tough and unsettling, I can see that in a woman's eyes, men are looking more and more attractive. A source of financial security, some added protection from other men, and etc. I think the mgtow movement makes a ton of sense for many people, including myself. I don't see woman in a negative light at all, they are looking out for their best interest, so let men look out for their best interest, without being labeled in a unflattering way.
I know woman have complaints and concerns of their own. Like men historically have cheated and divorced to find a younger more attractive woman, after she gave it her all when she was younger. To me the trust has been broken on both sides. If you think it's just the opposite sex that is at fault, well, it takes to tangle, and this tangled web will take awhile to unravel. I guess we can all agree that we are all sinners.
Long story short.....
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do.
https://biblehub.com/1_corinthians/7-8.htm
If people don't like the current landscape of relationships, what are you doing to make things better?
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