What do you consider sensitive information?

I was reading an old thread that Seoulsearch started about May to December marriages, and I saw a member mentioned she generally likes men who are 10-15 years older than she is. As I was reading it my first thought was "I wonder how many DM's from older men she received after posting that?"

I was curious what information you folks consciously withhold from people in real life. What things do you only tell close friends? (And don't mind sharing on the internet lol) I am curious what minor detail seems like something fairly blase but elicits an odd response from some people. A fun one of mine is that I am unaffected by poison ivy, but I generally don't tell people as I was the subject of a whole lot of envy once it was found out.

Consider me one of the group who envies you. Or I would if I came in contact with poison ivy a lot, like if I had a job (ick, poo!) outdoors.

For information I know about other people, I wouldn't tell it - in person OR online - if I thought they didn't want it known.

For myself... I'm not about to tell the information I wouldn't want to tell.

My work involves a lot of "sensitive" information, so we have policies that govern its use and distribution. Generally, personal information such as home address, health data, and financial data are considered "private" and cannot be disclosed to any third party. I frequently have to redact such information from datasets provided to requesters.

In this context, real name, email address(es), and phone number(s) would be in that category as well. People are free to share if they choose, but are not obligated. Sharing another person's information without their consent is highly inappropriate... and may be criminal.

It's to sensitive to talk about.

Hey Jim!

Great thread topic.

I just wanted to clarify something. While I know I've written threads about age differences, I also remember a thread that Lanolin wrote that specifically mentioned the term "May to December", so I don't know if that's the thread you are referring to, but I didn't want it to seem like I was being given credit for what might have been her thread.

When I read your first sentence, I also misunderstood and thought you were saying that I was the one who said I liked older men (I tend to like guys about my age or sometimes younger, though it depends.) But as you said, it was another member who posted this and I wondered as well if her honest statement had resulted in any messages from men in the older age bracket.

In a world where social media has become normal and it's harder and harder to stay in touch with people unless you're online, I struggle with knowing how much to post. I know one particular member here who has never used their real name in any form and looking back, I wish I had done the same.

But yet I did post a picture in another recent thread, maybe as a partial defense mechanism. There are times when I've been online (including here) and I think things are going great (even just as friends,) but for whatever reason, there were times when some people finally did see my picture, they stopped talking to me (I've had a couple guys tell me it's because I'm not white.)

I understand, but I'm the type of person who would rather just rip the band-aid off myself and let the chips fall where they may. It's kind of like, "Let's just get this over with as soon as possible." If someone doesn't want to talk to me because of looks, I'd rather just know right off the bat rather than wasting any time on either side.

However, my general personality is pretty much a dichotomy, because I also thrive on being anonymous. My parents do a lot of work within any church they are a part of, but I never tell anyone that I'm related to them, just because I find human nature interesting. I've been in situations where people have had entire conversations about my Dad, and they had no idea I was his kid. I'd much rather have people be honest around me rather than put on a fake Jesus mask.

I'm very different from my family so I often wind up at a different church than they do, just because I have different interests and, after being pigeonholed into boxes since I was little, prefer to break loose from those expectations whenever I can. I like doing behind the scenes work and being a nobody, because people are too busy talking about the somebody's to bother us nobody's.

When I post threads here on the forum it's because I want the TOPIC to become the spotlight, not the one who is writing about it. I love nothing more than to start up a firebomb conversation -- and then disappear into the smoke.

Ironically, the things I don't share are often positive things that people have always over-spiritualized or heavily criticized since I was a kid, so I try to just keep them to myself, except forwith the people I've known a long time and are closest to.

Admittedly, this can make it hard to get close to people. One of the reasons I try to always share a personal story about myself in my threads and a lot of my posts is because I'm trying to be relatable. I find it hard to answer threads, inquiries, or posts in which the other person has a "locked" personality (is full of questions or things to "teach" others but doesn't share honestly about themselves) because I value relationships that are equally give-and-take.

I know everyone is different though and some people are just more or less private, which is perfectly understandable in today's crazy world.

Awesome thread!

I dont even look at the DMs ?!

What you see (written down in the forums) is what you get. I guess if you are going to get to know me you'd just have to pay attention to what I post and I dont post personal stuff I dont want anyone to know online.

As for May-december relationships, its just something Ive observed, in other people, so I was asking questions about it. If it was something I was interested in for myself, I would have said. I guess I am upfront about stuff, I dont keep terrible secrets, if there is any secrets about me, its between me and God. ANd He knows me...so, if you REALLY wanted to know everything about me that even I dont know, you'd just ask God.

The May-December thing...well I actually was born in May so..if someone is born in Decemeber they better say. And not lie and say they were born in January!

Actually I tell people I dont even know my DOB cos often you have to do that when filling out a form anyway.

Only my close friends on this forum and one other know me as Lanolin. So YOU guys are special.

Otherwise I cant think of anything that Im super sensitive about. I'd defintiely tell you if I was allergic to anything. It doesnt pay to keep that information to yourself if its a matter of life and death.

"My momma taught me never to talk about religion, politics, or finances with others...."

I took a picture from the window of the building I was in and showed it to someone. Without being given any clues he figured out where I live and which building I was in based off what he could see. If you know how to use the internet, it can be a powerful detective tool. Be safe out there.

With people in "real life" with whom I'm not too close but if I trust them, I don't withhold too much basic information, such as name, email, age, where I live (neighborhood, not address), where I'm from, etc. Indians tend to be very nosy but I am more private. It is not uncommon for Indians to ask eachother personal details within a few minutes of meeting (such as family history, job, income, etc.). I once had to tell an older Indian man sitting next to me on the plane that he was being very nosy. So, beyond telling a few basic information, I am not interested in delving into details. However, with close friends I am more open.

I am new to the world of "online friends" so I do not reveal too much information. I am also somewhat active on another site (health forum) where we also discuss science and politics, but nearly as much personal information or views as on this site. Ultimately, my goal is not to reveal information where I am searchable online.

Using an epilator to remove body hair really hurts.

^ Sensitive information.

My mom bought a first-generation model epilator (basically a cluster of rotating coils that are supposed to rip your body hair out by the root.)

All I can say is that if you're a guy and using one of those things, you might as well just walk through a bonfire. 🔥💪

Women have impressive pain tolerance. That's all I have to say about that!

If I told you, I'd have to kill you

Hey, no fair! I was just about to write, "If I told you, I'd have to kill you," but then I looked at the above post!
You wouldn't happen to be related to my first wife, would you? She could read my mind!
What are you, some kind of mind thought thief? Or worse?

Sensitive information...I'm really older than what I look, feel, or act...regardless of what my daughter-in-law says.
I think she needs glasses!

I wouldnt really listen much to whatever my mum says.
or my dad
Hed tell a a random voice over the phone he's never met before that yes somethng IS wrong with his computer and sure they can do a remote view to fix it.

when people would ask me nosy questions I would just say ask my mum sure SHE'LL tell you everything embrassing about me that I dont want you to know

parents huh?

I think it's easier for them because their hairs are smaller.

I base this theory on the progress of my nose hair over time. At first it was small hairs, easy to pluck out. Now those are tree trunks hanging out of my nose, and every one is connected to every nerve ending in my face.

That's just a theory though. I have no interest in proving or disproving it.