I feel like I am being takin advantage of...

I have a friend that is struggling with addiction, meth, possibly heroine. I have been bringing him to church, letting him stay with me 4-5 days a week, feeding him and anything I can do to help with his struggles.
His family all live here in town, but none of them want him to stay with them for a number of reasons. My problems lays in the fact that I live on disability and I receive a little help on my rent, not much, but every little bit helps.
I am now on the verge of losing my place because people have said that he is living here with me, also I get no help from any of his family in this (been 6 months so far). I mention something to his dad about my struggles but my pride won't allow me to ask for help. (I know, I don't need lessons on pride). So the other day, when he was supposed to come for church, he shows up with about 75.00 worth of food from the most expensive store in town, over half of it are things I don't eat, and tells me we can work out a trade, I go do some work around his house in trade for the "help" he gave me. I have no problem with helping him as I have already told him many times, I would just ask, because I didn't know what he wanted and didn't want done.
The thing is, on the "farm" where my friend lives (his dad has moved into town) there are about 8 - 12 people living there, i don't go because I am sure the police are watching it already and don't want my car seen there or caught up in it if they raid the place while I am there. My friends dad pays for utilities, internet, food, gas, cigarettes, for pretty much everyone there most of the time. I mention something the other day about him enabling and of course I get turned into the bad guy.
I would like some thoughts on how to handle this situation without causing conflict and stress on his dad as he has cancer an is afraid to lose his son in the process. I think his son should be helping him around the house, he should be giving his son a place to stay, he should be buying his food, he should not be buying his cigarettes, (if you can't afford them then you don't need them).

I have a friend that is struggling with addiction, meth, possibly heroine. I have been bringing him to church, letting him stay with me 4-5 days a week, feeding him and anything I can do to help with his struggles.
His family all live here in town, but none of them want him to stay with them for a number of reasons. My problems lays in the fact that I live on disability and I receive a little help on my rent, not much, but every little bit helps.
I am now on the verge of losing my place because people have said that he is living here with me, also I get no help from any of his family in this (been 6 months so far). I mention something to his dad about my struggles but my pride won't allow me to ask for help. (I know, I don't need lessons on pride). So the other day, when he was supposed to come for church, he shows up with about 75.00 worth of food from the most expensive store in town, over half of it are things I don't eat, and tells me we can work out a trade, I go do some work around his house in trade for the "help" he gave me. I have no problem with helping him as I have already told him many times, I would just ask, because I didn't know what he wanted and didn't want done.
The thing is, on the "farm" where my friend lives (his dad has moved into town) there are about 8 - 12 people living there, i don't go because I am sure the police are watching it already and don't want my car seen there or caught up in it if they raid the place while I am there. My friends dad pays for utilities, internet, food, gas, cigarettes, for pretty much everyone there most of the time. I mention something the other day about him enabling and of course I get turned into the bad guy.
I would like some thoughts on how to handle this situation without causing conflict and stress on his dad as he has cancer an is afraid to lose his son in the process. I think his son should be helping him around the house, he should be giving his son a place to stay, he should be buying his food, he should not be buying his cigarettes, (if you can't afford them then you don't need them).

I have a friend that is struggling with addiction, meth, possibly heroine. I have been bringing him to church, letting him stay with me 4-5 days a week, feeding him and anything I can do to help with his struggles.
His family all live here in town, but none of them want him to stay with them for a number of reasons. My problems lays in the fact that I live on disability and I receive a little help on my rent, not much, but every little bit helps.
I am now on the verge of losing my place because people have said that he is living here with me, also I get no help from any of his family in this (been 6 months so far). I mention something to his dad about my struggles but my pride won't allow me to ask for help. (I know, I don't need lessons on pride). So the other day, when he was supposed to come for church, he shows up with about 75.00 worth of food from the most expensive store in town, over half of it are things I don't eat, and tells me we can work out a trade, I go do some work around his house in trade for the "help" he gave me. I have no problem with helping him as I have already told him many times, I would just ask, because I didn't know what he wanted and didn't want done.
The thing is, on the "farm" where my friend lives (his dad has moved into town) there are about 8 - 12 people living there, i don't go because I am sure the police are watching it already and don't want my car seen there or caught up in it if they raid the place while I am there. My friends dad pays for utilities, internet, food, gas, cigarettes, for pretty much everyone there most of the time. I mention something the other day about him enabling and of course I get turned into the bad guy.
I would like some thoughts on how to handle this situation without causing conflict and stress on his dad as he has cancer an is afraid to lose his son in the process. I think his son should be helping him around the house, he should be giving his son a place to stay, he should be buying his food, he should not be buying his cigarettes, (if you can't afford them then you don't need them).

I have a friend that is struggling with addiction, meth, possibly heroine. I have been bringing him to church, letting him stay with me 4-5 days a week, feeding him and anything I can do to help with his struggles.
His family all live here in town, but none of them want him to stay with them for a number of reasons. My problems lays in the fact that I live on disability and I receive a little help on my rent, not much, but every little bit helps.
I am now on the verge of losing my place because people have said that he is living here with me, also I get no help from any of his family in this (been 6 months so far). I mention something to his dad about my struggles but my pride won't allow me to ask for help. (I know, I don't need lessons on pride). So the other day, when he was supposed to come for church, he shows up with about 75.00 worth of food from the most expensive store in town, over half of it are things I don't eat, and tells me we can work out a trade, I go do some work around his house in trade for the "help" he gave me. I have no problem with helping him as I have already told him many times, I would just ask, because I didn't know what he wanted and didn't want done.
The thing is, on the "farm" where my friend lives (his dad has moved into town) there are about 8 - 12 people living there, i don't go because I am sure the police are watching it already and don't want my car seen there or caught up in it if they raid the place while I am there. My friends dad pays for utilities, internet, food, gas, cigarettes, for pretty much everyone there most of the time. I mention something the other day about him enabling and of course I get turned into the bad guy.
I would like some thoughts on how to handle this situation without causing conflict and stress on his dad as he has cancer an is afraid to lose his son in the process. I think his son should be helping him around the house, he should be giving his son a place to stay, he should be buying his food, he should not be buying his cigarettes, (if you can't afford them then you don't need them).

First off don't lose your place because of him. You can help him more with a roof over your head than if you're both homeless.

The compound, the family, the (stolen?) groceries for solo work... I wouldn't want to swim those waters. I'd invite the friend to church as part of a day together, but as long as he's using and taking advantage of you the rest of it I'd keep at ten-foot-pole status.

Tell me, are you of a similar background?

hi there

you have written this post in a section called blogs...kind of like a blog online and not really where you discuss

I think you might try posting this in the family forum if you want some replies...you will need a title and submit it and a moderator will approve it and then go from there

sorry i will repost elsewhere then.

i am indeed

You need to get yourself a DECENT roommate. It might also be financially more economical to rent/own a smaller place, etc. You can still help your struggling friend through emotional support, bringing him to church, etc. but you don't need to live with him. Your friend is involved with crime, and is not just a struggling friend, so that is nothing to easily look over.