Wife gets pregnant, now wants to leave me.
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This is the truth, and Jesus said we will know them by their fruit. It is clear she is not in Him, can't be. She can't be in Christ when she is seeking to feel the spiritual void with the excitement of the flesh. She can't be born again and cling to sin so hard.
I feel the need to be clear here, it's not some slip that I would say this about. If cheating happen, and even if she no longer wanted to be with you it could be handled "better", but her continuous stay in sins bed strongly suggest she is not saved and does not know Jesus. That's the problem is she is seeking to fill that void by the flesh as we all do, but with our eyes open by the grace of our King, we know the flesh can NEVER satisfy. It's so sad and tragic because of the wake of disaster and heartache she leaves behind her to chase something that will only end the same way. I praise God for fathers like you man, and I pray He guide you to all peace. My prayers are with you brother.
I feel the need to be clear here, it's not some slip that I would say this about. If cheating happen, and even if she no longer wanted to be with you it could be handled "better", but her continuous stay in sins bed strongly suggest she is not saved and does not know Jesus. That's the problem is she is seeking to fill that void by the flesh as we all do, but with our eyes open by the grace of our King, we know the flesh can NEVER satisfy. It's so sad and tragic because of the wake of disaster and heartache she leaves behind her to chase something that will only end the same way. I praise God for fathers like you man, and I pray He guide you to all peace. My prayers are with you brother.
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I did a Paternity test and I am the Father.
My wife started back at work and now my Buddy is in a at home daycare. I work from the house. She doesn't like being alone so she would be in the room with my and the baby. I can't get any free time away from her other than work. If i have a event that i'm doing or anything she invites herself along. Even when i had to drive to get paperwork across town she will join me. It's fine and it was great we spent time when we were Married and she was faithful but it's just hard for me to look at her the same. I still sleep in her room either in her bed or on the floor.
We still get along other than if her cheating situation is brought up. That is getting worse
The cheater had his mom buy him tickets to come for V-day. Obviously my wife's mom and I would not let him stay here. She is staying with him and it sucks So i will have lots of baby time this weekend because he will be with me. It seems like i'm numb to it now. after she makes bad decision by bad decision it's just the norm now.
Our home dynamic is strange, even the other day her mom asked me if she stopped cheating and we were back together because my wife still acts like we are best friends and has me do things that you would not do with someone who isn't you husband. (not sexual things) Her Mom is still supportive of me and tells everyone I'm a great dad. She is pretty upset about this weekend as well. But she won't tell my wife that.
Memorial day is our official move date. I'm counting down the days. I can't wait to go back to WA. She will have to live with me for a year but we will have much more room there. I just know when this is all over it will be weight off my chest. I just hope she doesn't change her mind about moving
I'm still doing well. I had some church members over Sunday and this weekend i'm doing the announcements at church so I'm getting more active. I signed up for a disc (frisbee) tournament in two weeks so i have something to drive for and spend some time improving at.
Baby is doing great. He can do real smiles now and stick his tongue back at me. I take him everywhere with me so he travels a lot. We got baby pictures
I did a Paternity test and I am the Father.
My wife started back at work and now my Buddy is in a at home daycare. I work from the house. She doesn't like being alone so she would be in the room with my and the baby. I can't get any free time away from her other than work. If i have a event that i'm doing or anything she invites herself along. Even when i had to drive to get paperwork across town she will join me. It's fine and it was great we spent time when we were Married and she was faithful but it's just hard for me to look at her the same. I still sleep in her room either in her bed or on the floor.
We still get along other than if her cheating situation is brought up. That is getting worse
The cheater had his mom buy him tickets to come for V-day. Obviously my wife's mom and I would not let him stay here. She is staying with him and it sucks So i will have lots of baby time this weekend because he will be with me. It seems like i'm numb to it now. after she makes bad decision by bad decision it's just the norm now. Our home dynamic is strange, even the other day her mom asked me if she stopped cheating and we were back together because my wife still acts like we are best friends and has me do things that you would not do with someone who isn't you husband. (not sexual things) Her Mom is still supportive of me and tells everyone I'm a great dad. She is pretty upset about this weekend as well. But she won't tell my wife that.
Memorial day is our official move date. I'm counting down the days. I can't wait to go back to WA. She will have to live with me for a year but we will have much more room there. I just know when this is all over it will be weight off my chest. I just hope she doesn't change her mind about moving
I'm still doing well. I had some church members over Sunday and this weekend i'm doing the announcements at church so I'm getting more active. I signed up for a disc (frisbee) tournament in two weeks so i have something to drive for and spend some time improving at.
Baby is doing great. He can do real smiles now and stick his tongue back at me. I take him everywhere with me so he travels a lot. We got baby pictures
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Update
I did a Paternity test and I am the Father.
My wife started back at work and now my Buddy is in a at home daycare. I work from the house. She doesn't like being alone so she would be in the room with my and the baby. I can't get any free time away from her other than work. If i have a event that i'm doing or anything she invites herself along. Even when i had to drive to get paperwork across town she will join me. It's fine and it was great we spent time when we were Married and she was faithful but it's just hard for me to look at her the same. I still sleep in her room either in her bed or on the floor.
We still get along other than if her cheating situation is brought up. That is getting worse The cheater had his mom buy him tickets to come for V-day. Obviously my wife's mom and I would not let him stay here. She is staying with him and it sucks So i will have lots of baby time this weekend because he will be with me. It seems like i'm numb to it now. after she makes bad decision by bad decision it's just the norm now.
Our home dynamic is strange, even the other day her mom asked me if she stopped cheating and we were back together because my wife still acts like we are best friends and has me do things that you would not do with someone who isn't you husband. (not sexual things) Her Mom is still supportive of me and tells everyone I'm a great dad. She is pretty upset about this weekend as well. But she won't tell my wife that.
Memorial day is our official move date. I'm counting down the days. I can't wait to go back to WA. She will have to live with me for a year but we will have much more room there. I just know when this is all over it will be weight off my chest. I just hope she doesn't change her mind about moving
I'm still doing well. I had some church members over Sunday and this weekend i'm doing the announcements at church so I'm getting more active. I signed up for a disc (frisbee) tournament in two weeks so i have something to drive for and spend some time improving at.
Baby is doing great. He can do real smiles now and stick his tongue back at me. I take him everywhere with me so he travels a lot. We got baby pictures
I did a Paternity test and I am the Father.
My wife started back at work and now my Buddy is in a at home daycare. I work from the house. She doesn't like being alone so she would be in the room with my and the baby. I can't get any free time away from her other than work. If i have a event that i'm doing or anything she invites herself along. Even when i had to drive to get paperwork across town she will join me. It's fine and it was great we spent time when we were Married and she was faithful but it's just hard for me to look at her the same. I still sleep in her room either in her bed or on the floor.
We still get along other than if her cheating situation is brought up. That is getting worse
The cheater had his mom buy him tickets to come for V-day. Obviously my wife's mom and I would not let him stay here. She is staying with him and it sucks So i will have lots of baby time this weekend because he will be with me. It seems like i'm numb to it now. after she makes bad decision by bad decision it's just the norm now.Our home dynamic is strange, even the other day her mom asked me if she stopped cheating and we were back together because my wife still acts like we are best friends and has me do things that you would not do with someone who isn't you husband. (not sexual things) Her Mom is still supportive of me and tells everyone I'm a great dad. She is pretty upset about this weekend as well. But she won't tell my wife that.
Memorial day is our official move date. I'm counting down the days. I can't wait to go back to WA. She will have to live with me for a year but we will have much more room there. I just know when this is all over it will be weight off my chest. I just hope she doesn't change her mind about moving
I'm still doing well. I had some church members over Sunday and this weekend i'm doing the announcements at church so I'm getting more active. I signed up for a disc (frisbee) tournament in two weeks so i have something to drive for and spend some time improving at.
Baby is doing great. He can do real smiles now and stick his tongue back at me. I take him everywhere with me so he travels a lot. We got baby pictures
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I'm sorry your family had to suffer. I can't imagine how hard it's to hear that from your loved one. The only advice I can give you is to go to a holy father and tell him about your problems, and he can help your wife deal with her fear. She is acting this way because she is afraid of a serious relationship and being abandoned, like in foster homes. And you are doing the right thing, keep proving your love to her and taking care of her, go to the doctor and consult about pregnancy and which vitamins to take during early pregnancy.
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She had spent time in multiple foster homes so that she must be very insecure. As @blue_ladybug
said, she was infatuated with a man online who may have made false promises to her. I think you should let her feel how much you love her. I once almost broke up with my boyfriend too. I suddenly lost my passionate feelings for him, I was obsessed with my new co-worker who brought me a cup of coffee every afternoon. I guess that might be freshness for someone rather than love. When my boyfriend proposed to me with a DR ring which only could be customized once in lifetime, I was ashamed of my behavior. I know how he loves me and now he is my husband.
said, she was infatuated with a man online who may have made false promises to her. I think you should let her feel how much you love her. I once almost broke up with my boyfriend too. I suddenly lost my passionate feelings for him, I was obsessed with my new co-worker who brought me a cup of coffee every afternoon. I guess that might be freshness for someone rather than love. When my boyfriend proposed to me with a DR ring which only could be customized once in lifetime, I was ashamed of my behavior. I know how he loves me and now he is my husband.
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I feel so sorry for you, man. It's heartbreaking to read this. I can see that you've done everything in your power and sought for help, but since you're both consenting adults, only God can change the heart, so pray for that, meanwhile contact her close gal pal if there's any and persuade her to talk some sense into your wife. If there's no improvement, then try to find out if the kid is yours or that man's. If it's that man's, then there's no turning back, you have to cut her loose.
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Brother...my goodness that was a read! I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I know you may not even read this but in case you do...
You need some backbone. You cannot let her walk all over you the way you have. What kind of a man lets his wife go sleep with another man for the weekend? You don't respect yourself...so that's why she feels comfortable disrespecting you. I'm not saying for you to go beat her. But I am saying you need to walk away from this. Fight for full custody and leave it in God's hands.
I know God hates divorce...but he also hates adultery. That is what your wife is doing to you.
You have a much better chance of winning her over by respecting yourself instead of just giving in to whatever she wants. Honestly though, if I were you, I would much rather be a single dad for life than to be married to this woman. She sounds like a nightmare. She's an immature, adulterous, lazy, entitled, brat. Once you have a child, your life isn't about you anymore. It seems to me that this woman doesn't understand that. I don't care how many foster homes she was in, she's a mom and she needs to grow up and raise her son.
You need some backbone. You cannot let her walk all over you the way you have. What kind of a man lets his wife go sleep with another man for the weekend? You don't respect yourself...so that's why she feels comfortable disrespecting you. I'm not saying for you to go beat her. But I am saying you need to walk away from this. Fight for full custody and leave it in God's hands.
I know God hates divorce...but he also hates adultery. That is what your wife is doing to you.
You have a much better chance of winning her over by respecting yourself instead of just giving in to whatever she wants. Honestly though, if I were you, I would much rather be a single dad for life than to be married to this woman. She sounds like a nightmare. She's an immature, adulterous, lazy, entitled, brat. Once you have a child, your life isn't about you anymore. It seems to me that this woman doesn't understand that. I don't care how many foster homes she was in, she's a mom and she needs to grow up and raise her son.
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Have you and her considered going to a therapist? Thoughts, emotions, feelings, and behaviors are closely linked and influence/reinforce each other. Often by just changing your thoughts you can cause a chain reaction that results in positive emotions, feelings, and behaviors. You might not even need a therapist for this, imho, if you can accept and understand that a poor foundation can topple the whole tower. I hope you're doing well.
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