New Life

I can relate to that. My best friend is an amazing sweet generous and kind lady, but has no idea what it's like to struggle with the type of issues I do.

Thing is that i worry that they will struggle with the hard facts

Srop a message if you think it helps. There are lots of great people here

It helps to find the right group of Godly friends. Everyone around here in these threads are wonderful ^_^.
Welcome sister. 💜

Hello and welcome.

Hi Kacey, welcome and hope you enjoy your stay

I understand what you mean. I know my friend couldn't handle my issue.

I too am widowed, and can understand some of what you say (though I am outgoing, I am still having trouble developing a social life in my 'new' state of AZ).

My QoL has progressively declined since Apr 3, 2009. I think this may be Divine though and not a demonic thing. I have idolized remarrying, my career and my living situation (quality of apartment, neighborhood). I think that may be why I have not dated in more than 10 years, my career has fallen off a cliff, and I currently live in a subpar apartment structure.

Anyway, my complaining aside, if you ever feel like sharing your struggles or venting, please feel free.

My friend's wife, happily married, with a solid, good-paying job and a nice home, when I was homeless two-plus years ago, told me to be happy because I was breathing.

I snapped at her. Some people, no matter how decent otherwise, just cannot get it until they experience it themselves.

It's so hard starting over. I feel lost. I just want my life back. I had a really good life. I had my act together, was super organized, was on a great walk with my Savior, was in a position to help others which was awesome. Now I can't even tell you where my mail from yesterday is. I can't help anyone in my condition and my walk is a snail crawl, often in the wrong direction! I don't feel like me anymore. I try to cling to Jeremiah 29:11..... I know there's a plan, it's going to be amazing! But how to get there? I have no clue.

I am so glad you came. I would love to be your friend and talk to you. We are safe in Jesus and this avenue of fellowship that He has provided for us.

Welcome, beloved sister Kacey.

Thank you!

You are so very welcome. I know that this may sound silly and trite, but do you have a dog or cat? God gave me a little cat to help pass the lonely hours. God may not give us everything we want, but He gives us everything we need.

1 Timothy
6:6 But godliness with contentment is great gain.
6:7 For we brought nothing into [this] world, [and it is] certain we can carry nothing out.
6:8 And having food and raiment let us be therewith content.

Yes I have 2 dogs, trained by my husband to be unfriendly. They are a big part of my sadness. In my prior home they has a large yard to run in and a doggy door to come and go as they needed. They were happy. When I sold my home, let's just say I haven't been able to provide for them. They have been such a burden and they look at me with sadness. I have been a horrible petmom.

Welcome to cc @Kacey try not to worry Im sure God can sort this problem out for you

Pets understand what we feel. Give yourself time.

Hi Kacey,

I just read this message. May I suggest putting them up for adoption? I'm sure it's hard, but after my mom died several years ago--I had gone to take care of her--came home after 3 months and my poor dog had not been walked by my exhusband (we were still married then) or my sons. He had been put out in the backyard to go to the bathroom and left in the garage at night --it just broke my heart. Two weeks later I fell from a ladder and hurt my back and couldn't walk him. I decided to go thru an agency called Pets In Need. I got to actually interview people and I got the most wonderful single woman--I was able to go and visit him--which I did the first few months. She ended up marrying a guy who LOVED my Calvin--they took him everywhere. I ended up seeing them at a store many years later and my dear sweet Calvin had gray whiskers.

It was sad, but I know I did the right thing.

Dear Kacey,

I can relate--I think for you this is just a blip--you've gone thru a difficult time and now you have to give yourself grace. I hope you will find fellowship. I still am looking--I really don't care for the institutional church--you may want to see if you can find a House Church in your area. I like this quote "Action is the antidote to despair." I generally do feel better if I do something.

"Strengthen the [a]weak hands,
And make firm the [b]feeble knees.
4 Say to those who are fearful-hearted,
“Be strong, do not fear!
Behold, your God will come with vengeance,
With the recompense of God;
He will come and save you.”--Isaiah 35:3-4

Blessings,

Laura

I am so sorry. I am not acquainted with dogs. I am fortunate to live way out in the boonies of northern PA. My cat is free as the the birds (accept the ones she catches and eats every day.) She catches many mice also. She leaves every other one on the doorstep for me to eat. I BBQ them up and tell my dinner guests that they are Buffalo Wings.

Just tie a knot in that rope and hold on just a little bit longer. Our Lord is a strong deliverer. He knows and understands our fears and weaknesses. My Jesus knows just what we need. Lets walk that last weary mile together. One of my favorite Bible passages is about them two (three) on the road to Emmaus...

Luke
24:13 And, behold, two of them went that same day to a village called Emmaus, which was from Jerusalem [about] threescore furlongs.
24:14 And they talked together of all these things which had happened.
24:15 And it came to pass, that, while they communed [together] and reasoned, Jesus himself drew near, and went with them.
24:16 But their eyes were holden that they should not know him.
24:17 And he said unto them, What manner of communications [are] these that ye have one to another, as ye walk, and are sad?
24:18 And the one of them, whose name was Cleopas, answering said unto him, Art thou only a stranger in Jerusalem, and hast not known the things which are come to pass there in these days?
24:19 And he said unto them, What things? And they said unto him, Concerning Jesus of Nazareth, which was a prophet mighty in deed and word before God and all the people:
24:20 And how the chief priests and our rulers delivered him to be condemned to death, and have crucified him.
24:21 But we trusted that it had been he which should have redeemed Israel: and beside all this, to day is the third day since these things were done.
24:22 Yea, and certain women also of our company made us astonished, which were early at the sepulchre;
24:23 And when they found not his body, they came, saying, that they had also seen a vision of angels, which said that he was alive.
24:24 And certain of them which were with us went to the sepulchre, and found [it] even so as the women had said: but him they saw not.
24:25 Then he said unto them, O fools, and slow of heart to believe all that the prophets have spoken:
24:26 Ought not Christ to have suffered these things, and to enter into his glory?
24:27 And beginning at Moses and all the prophets, he expounded unto them in all the scriptures the things concerning himself.
24:28 And they drew nigh unto the village, whither they went: and he made as though he would have gone further.
24:29 But they constrained him, saying, Abide with us: for it is toward evening, and the day is far spent. And he went in to tarry with them.
24:30 And it came to pass, as he sat at meat with them, he took bread, and blessed [it], and brake, and gave to them.

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