Advice for a close friend.

no offence but you are very late about it, it's been happening a long time,

deadbeat dads aren't a new term either.

I hope your friend stands up to his duty as a parent,

but again I will add, that children can have 100 dads, but they will always, always know their own dad if they knew him at all.

You make my point for me here. It's been going on way too long.



No, and unfortunately it's assumed that when a wife leave's a husband, it's the man's fault, always. Then, the assumption is carried forward to him being a "deadbeat dad." After all, what else could he be? According to every sermon you hear on the subject, all men are terrible fathers.



Why would you assume he hasn't? Has the left-wing media, Hollywood, and the institutional church brainwashed you too? I hope not. I hope you are one of the few who have faith in fathers who have been abandoned by their wives.

And no, this is not a new phenomenon, either. However, it is becoming worse by the minute.



Why would you want any kid to have more than one dad? It's a rhetorical question, but one to ponder.

Again, I stand by my conviction that fatherhood has been taken over by Satan. He has drawn so many into the idea that somehow it's okay to go marriage-hopping at the expense of your children.

It's time that young, Godly men fight back against this "new normal" by resisting the idea of becoming fathers simply to appease a sick, depraved society.

Hello, everyone.

I have a good friend whose wife divorced him a few years ago and took their children. She has since remarried and they all live in the same town. It really is quite awkward for everyone involved, especially since he knows the new hubby.

Anyway, this guy is already insisting that the kids call him dad out of spite for my friend. And his ex-wife is on board with it, apparently to add to the cruelty and vindictiveness.

The saddest part is, my friend is a godly Christian man who apparently didn't make quite enough money to keep up with her maintenance. So, she found someone with deeper pockets.

The custody arrangement was the usual weekend visitation. And to his credit, I don't think he's missed a weekend yet.

But he is battling over the anger issue. He doesn't want to be so furious, because he knows it's a sin. Yet someone else is actively trying to take his place as a dad to his children.

What advice would you give him?

I'm sorry about your friend--I think he needs to find a support group for divorced parents--preferably Christian.

He needs to tell his wife HE is their dad and it's not okay to call someone else that who isn't--the kids should simply call their stepfather, John or whatever his name is--I've never heard of such a thing--I'd be upset too.

The other is to find a Christian Singles group and/or to start dating again.

The most important thing he needs now is to find Christian support

How has your friend been since u posted?

Not a bad idea, thanks. I'll let him know.



Okay, so I'm not going crazy! I thought I was the only one left on the planet--besides my friend-- who thought this way. It is extremely disrespectful. And I know for sure it's done out of spite.



What, so he can get married again, have even more kids, and pay even more child support after yet another divorce? He makes okay money, but not that much. He has a "lady friend" but she will be hard-pressed to get him to marry her.



Amen. I told him about this website, but he doesn't like online communities. He's a TV junkie instead. Binge watches old shows. Weird guy.

He has recently talked to his ex on the phone. He made it clear about his objections to hubby #2 insisting the kids call him dad.

Surprisingly, she agreed not to push it and that they are both very careful about saying anything bad about my friend to the kids.

It looks like there will be peace in the valley after all. And I think he feels better knowing his children still love him. I can see it when they go over to his house on the weekends. It's amazing how they cling to him.