Kayla,
One thing I love about you is I just really get the sense that you're honest. I don't feel like you're putting on some showy, "holy" front to impress people. I do NOT get that same sense from many people that share your opinion on this matter. You've asked me what made me change my mind on this a couple times. I'll endeavor to write it out. It'll take me some time to organize my thoughts and get it into writing. And I'm in the middle of getting my house up for sale right now as well as starting a new job. So give me some time. I gonna have to bare my soul a little bit, so in exchange I'll trust you to actually try to see what I'm saying before just spontaneously disagreeing. If that's amenable to you, I'll dedicate some time to sharing.
In the meantime though, I think everyone should periodically ask themselves if they are more interested in hanging onto to some sort of doctrine or are we more interested in the pursuit of truth? I think we should always be on the lookout for areas where we might be wrong on something. And then we should be willing to change as more information comes to light. I think that was the great sin of the jewish leadership. They just stuck with their doctrine when it became plain to see that they were wrong. They needed to swallow their pride and say "Hey! We were wrong about stuff. Jesus is the Savior! We're gonna worship Him and everyone else should too!" But they didn't. They stuck with their original position, even when they pretty much knew they were wrong. They let pride completely get the best of them. And they're probably burning in hell right now because of it. I think we all need to be on guard against this Not just on the subject of jews - but just everything. How medicinal is it to a relationship when you or your spouse can just go up to the other and say "Baby, I was wrong. You were right. Let's move forward on this." Everyone wins. Nobody loses in such a situation. If I'm wrong, I want to know it! And I'll be the first to admit it.
The other quick note I'll share is that there are negative consequences for error. If an engineer makes a mistake in his calculations, then airplanes crash, buildings collapse, and ships sink. If societies make enough mistakes in their policies, laws, treaties, etc then those societies inevitably collapse. Error on this subject is not without consequence. From Hollywood, to Freud, to fractional reserve banking and more - error on this issue is leading to the collapse of western civilization.